As early as 4-5 months, the baby will have separation anxiety, which means that we usually say that we have begun to recognize people, and the child is the most serious when it is 10- 18 months, so when you see the child outside attending an early education class or swimming and crying, don't think that the child is disobedient or just crying.
But generally speaking, at the age of 2, the symptoms will be relieved. For many parents, this is a sweet burden. Of course, I am happy to see my children like themselves so much, but I can't live without my family, which makes people breathless. So what should parents do to help their children alleviate these manifestations?
First of all, allow the baby to vent his emotions reasonably.
After entering the park, the baby appears to be throwing things, having a bad temper, crying and sticking. In fact, it is the external expression of the baby's venting emotions. It is good for your baby's physical and mental health to let him vent his emotions reasonably. After all, children are emotionally unstable and prone to repetition. But on the whole, babies who cry in the park are better than those who don't cry. Parents should have * * * feelings when children vent reasonably. Don't blame the baby for saying, "You didn't see others crying or making noise. You can cry again." These words will only make things worse.
But for some unreasonable requirements that affect safety and health, we should stick to the principle and don't let the baby feel that he can get anything by losing his temper.
Secondly, accept emotions, calm down and accompany activities.
When the baby loses his temper, don't deny yourself because of the temporary mood. Don't get angry, especially when the child is crying. Remind yourself that you are an adult and you and your children are not competitive.
If the child cries, take him aside to comfort him and let him know that his parents love him and he has not been abandoned. When children are emotionally stable, they should take them home before and after school in time, and play more parent-child games at home, such as hide-and-seek to let children know that their parents are always there. It is not a terrible thing to make him feel separated in the game.
When the child is naughty, count in your mind, 1, 2, 3, take a deep breath, calm down and don't confront him directly. Only by facing the child frankly can you help him deal with his emotions. Tell yourself that at any time, beating and cursing is not the root of the problem, it will only make things worse. Don't push the child away in a hurry, you should know that the child's world is only you, so when he doesn't adapt, he can only cry and tell you how helpless he is.
Specific practices:
1. Adults face the baby calmly and gently, and on the premise of ensuring safety, give the child a chance to vent and wait for him to calm down.
2. For some babies who like to express their emotions with actions, you can prepare pillows and inflatable toys to let them vent. When he loses his temper, go and fight him. Usually, the baby will laugh happily because the baby will think it is a game.
For some sentimental, sensitive and delicate babies, you can try to hold the child tightly, pat him on the back, say something intimate and soothing, and wait for him to calm down.
3. Spend more time with your baby. When the baby goes out for a day, what you want most when you go home is someone to play with you. As for how to play with the baby, there are many game lessons.
Tip: Many babies need skin contact. After being held for a few minutes, they will become very calm and happy.
Third, communicate in many ways to avoid inappropriate hints.
Multi-directional communication refers to the communication of all people related to the baby, including communication with teachers, communication with the baby and communication with other family members. At the stage of 1-2 weeks after the baby enters the kindergarten, multi-directional communication directly determines the baby's adaptation to the kindergarten.
Communicating with teachers can help you understand your baby's emotional experience, eat and drink Lazar, learn games and interact with peers in the park.
Communicating with the baby can calm the baby's emotions in time and let the baby feel the love of mom and dad.
There is also communication with other family members, such as grandparents, grandparents, and don't say anything negative in front of the baby.
Emphasis: Improper communication has affected the baby's adaptation to the park. During the period of 1-2 weeks, all family members should not say negative and suggestive words, which is easily overlooked.
Fourth, pay special attention to babies who don't like to talk.
Because of the influence of psychological and spiritual factors, silence appeared in some fields. It is a typical manifestation of social adaptation difficulties. Babies don't get enough sense of security and self-confidence in a strange environment, which is easy to show.
How to make the baby lively and cheerful in kindergarten, love to talk and laugh?
Be sure to tell the teacher about the baby's hobbies and skills, so that the teacher can find a kind topic to communicate with the baby and improve the communication between the baby and the teacher.
Let the baby take his favorite picture book or toy to the kindergarten to play, and let the teacher introduce him. Babies are more confident in what they know and are more willing to talk.
When delivering in the morning, if the baby refuses to say hello to the teacher, don't rush to force the baby to talk.
Tips: As long as the baby speaks normally at home or in a familiar place, don't worry too much about his language development obstacles, and don't overemphasize the baby's rudeness and other moral problems. The teacher will understand. After this stage, the baby will naturally be willing to say hello. If you are too impatient, the baby will be more nervous and stutter, which will be misunderstood as stuttering, and the situation will be even worse.