? Last weekend, I went back to my mother's house to see my son. The total time spent with my son for two whole days does not exceed 10 minutes. Before leaving, my mother said, "You are so busy next weekend, don't come back. Have a good rest after being busy at home. " When I heard her say this, I had an indescribable taste in my heart. I think on the one hand, my mother loves me dearly, on the other hand, I think I have too little time to spend with my children after I come back. Therefore, I decided to spend some time with my children this weekend.

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? I am a novice mother, now 1 half year old. Because of my work, I hardly have a person to take care of my children. My mother helps me take care of my children. There is little time with children, and there is little time to be with children seriously. I usually go home from work. Although I usually choose to play with my baby, I rarely really play with my mobile phone, and I can't help but flip through it if I have nothing to do. However, from the beginning of this semester, because it is a new one-year class teacher's job, there will be more work that does not count as commuting time. So, before school started, I left my son at my mother's house. I just go home every night to video with him, but sometimes I come home late and the child falls asleep, so I don't even have a chance to video. No matter at school, at home, or on the way to and from work, I always sit and stand in a state of "never leaving my mobile phone, never leaving my mobile phone", which is a standard "mobile phone family". Most of them are busy with work or communicating with parents about the children in the class. Sometimes it's not my intention, but the fact is that I did neglect my son, which filled my heart with guilt about the child.

? I often say to the parents of children in our class: spend more time with children when you are free. However, I didn't really accompany myself seriously.

? I have seen a group of cartoons "Mom and Dad were taken away by the mobile phone monster" before. In the eyes of children, for parents who just ignore their mobile phones at home, it is like being taken away by a "monster" and has no value. In fact, this is a cartoon that lets children vent their dissatisfaction. As parents, we really should pay attention to it. It is estimated that there are not a few children who are competing with mobile phones now. Some education experts pointed out that parents blindly watching mobile phones will make children feel left out and neglected, which will affect his emotional intelligence development throughout his life and adversely affect his future interpersonal and intimate relationships.

? From the actual situation, mom and dad are addicted to mobile phones, which not only has a serious impact on children's psychology, but sometimes directly threatens their safety. Nowadays, we can often see such reports on TV and the Internet. Some young parents pay too much attention to mobile phones when accompanying their children, which leads to some accidents.

? As parents, we should be careful not to let TV, internet, mobile phones and snacks become the best companions for children. As their closest relatives, parents should always be with their children, not with their mobile phones when we have time.

? A child's wonderful childhood is often devoted to the love and care of his family. Parental love is as important as companionship. If parents are busy at work, please take it seriously every time you play with your children.

? I spent two weeks with my children at school and felt that every child was so beautiful and precious. Every day, parents ask me about my children's performance at school that day. Some parents will also tell me: My child is very thin, Mr. Zhang, you are strict with him, and our family is also strict with him. Just say what you should say and criticize ... In fact, what I want to tell them is that the most difficult thing for parents is not addition, but subtraction. It is easy to read a book, but difficult to simplify it, because we can't grasp the essence. So is being a parent. The hardest thing is not how many parenting methods and theories you know and how good material conditions you have created for your children. The hardest thing is to give up, give up control and give children love and freedom!

? Parenting, listening to your heart properly, and unnatural methods should all be considered. Children will always grow up, and they don't need you much, but once they miss it, they don't need you as much as they did at the beginning. In many things, you might as well follow your maternal instinct, trust your inner choice, and don't miss your most suitable intimate moment!

? When you say "no" to your child, please give a way. There are too many times when we say no to our children. How many times have we told the children that you can't do this! The child is crying, and we are either playing the savior of the universe: "I am doing this for your own good!" " "Or look dignified:" I'm not sure! Or juryman: "You're crying again! You are crying again! "Have you ever thought that a child's world is small and he may feel cornered?

? Children who make mistakes also need dignity. We often say that making mistakes is human nature. This sentence seems to be an excuse for adults to avoid mistakes, but it has become a truth for children. Children, punish him for his mistakes, do everything possible to punish him and let him remember! Think about it. What do we think when we make mistakes? Do you want to be slapped, humiliated or scolded? Neither! Once you realize that you have made a mistake, what you want most is the opportunity to correct and make up, and what you need most is to take responsibility! Isn't it? However, did the child get such an opportunity?

? Is the child really doing something wrong, or are you humiliated? When you raise the stick, you should ask yourself, is the child really wrong, or is your face damaged, because you really want your child to grow up, instead of the aunt next door saying that your child is not good? When a child's grades are not good, before you scold him, you should first think clearly whether the child really doesn't work hard or whether you think grades are important. When a child needs you, do you reject him because he is unreasonable, or are you kidnapped by the world?

? How to raise children, how to raise yourself? Learn from yourself and respect your children! We often think that a child is a blank sheet of paper, no matter how his parents describe him. However, the deeper we know about children, the deeper we understand them. On the contrary, we should keep awe of our children. How does a child grow, absorb and create when he comes into this world from scratch? Parenting is to raise ourselves. What we should really give up is that self-righteous self, and start to grow up with our children from re-examining ourselves!

? There is no such thing as a starting line. If there is, it must be parents. Some people think that early education is the starting line, some people think that knowledgeable parents are the starting line, and some people think that parents with status are the starting line. I don't deny that a rich, powerful, knowledgeable and educated parent is a fortune for a child, but for a child, it is more important than anything to have the opportunity to run according to his own mind all his life! Therefore, whether a child can successfully live a "self" life in this life has a lot to do with whether parents give enough love and freedom!

Really, children love their parents the most in the world. This kind of love is absolutely unconditional. No matter you are rich or poor, you are his favorite, only "other people's children" have no "other people's parents". I remember watching a video in the parents' class before school started: First, parents gave their children 60, 70, 80, 90 points ... Finally, the children gave their parents 100 points. A short video made countless parents cry on the spot, because in the children's world, we are all theirs, and this position is irreplaceable.

? Compared with children, we can't live without him. In fact, we can't live without him. Time flies, there is not much intimate time between you and your children, and there are not many days when you and your children can get along day and night. Think back to when you were pregnant with him, was it every three to five? Soon, children will go to kindergartens and primary schools ... many children will live in primary schools. Some children will go abroad after graduating from high school, or go to college far away, and then work, get married and have children ... Life is really short. Cherish and live happily every day when the children are still around you.

? Finally, I also want to say to my son: No one is born to be a mother, but I will try my best to be your best mother. Sometimes, I feel that I am not a perfect mother. When I am angry, I will speak loudly to you, and I will be so angry that I can't control my emotional outburst. Please forgive me, this is my first time to be your mother! I am so lucky that you chose me as your mother! Although no one is born to be a mother, I will try my best to be your best mother!