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My daughter Tian Tian is one year and five months old. When Tian Tian was almost one year old, as a novice mother, I read some parenting books in advance, one of which was very special. The special feature of this parenting book is that the contents in it can let me, a novice mother, know in advance what changes have taken place in the physiology, psychology and behavior of 1~2-year-old baby. And according to these changes, the author taught our parents some calm coping methods. There are even some ideas that break our inherent thinking. Let me, a novice mother, seem a little calm on the road of parenting. In order to make more novice parents calm down on the way to take care of their babies, I decided to organize an article to share with you.
Zhu Zhu only read the content of 0-2 years old in this book. I mentioned it once in the article "After reading more than a dozen parenting books, I carefully selected five books for novice mothers and helped the baby on the way". This is a parenting book that can be read from the birth of a baby to the first grade of primary school. The author, Mr. Li Yueer, is the Dean of British College of Literature. How awesome is she? According to Teacher Fan Deng, a friend of his moved from the bustling area of Beijing to Huilongguan to attend Teacher Li Yueer's kindergarten and lived there for three or four years. Many parents queue up several years in advance to let their children go to Ba Xue Park. Li Yueer is called a real child-rearing expert by Fan Deng. Some parenting ideas of Li Yueer have also subverted my understanding of parenting. I'm really glad to read this book. Today, Zhu Zhu wants to share with you the parenting contents of 1-2-year-old baby.
The baby will enter the sensitive period of the foot when he is about one year old. At this time, children have a characteristic: where to go is uneven, where to go dirty, where to go chaotic, and they like to go up and down repeatedly on some high and low steps.
Tian Tian learned to walk at the age of one year and two months. Hardly had she learned to walk when she began to challenge the lawn and steps. This is really a difficult place. During that time, my sweetness was infinitely good, and my old waist was almost broken during that time. Because Zhu Zhu knew in advance that babies in this period are infinitely obsessed with walking, and the period when people like to walk most in their lives is probably here. Therefore, Zhu Zhu made full psychological preparation. I will endure backache and try my best to satisfy my sweet desire to explore my feet.
When the baby enters the sensitive period of the foot, the book mentions that our parents should pay attention to three points:
1. Take care of such a big baby, no matter how tired you are, don't pick her up when the baby is exploring; Not to mention spanking him because he cried.
If parents don't know what to do, it's better to follow their children. When the child leaves, we will leave, and when the child stops, we will stop. This is to help children grow up.
Don't put loud flutes on children's shoes. This kind of shoes will disturb children's feeling of legs and observation of things around them, and affect their concentration.
Fortunately, Zhu Zhu knew this in advance, so no matter how tired I am, I can basically do it without interruption. If this is my husband, I'll be tired if I don't last five minutes. This is the difference between mom and dad!
You will find that babies in this period don't need you so much after they can walk. She can go wherever she wants, take whatever she wants, and has her own sense of exploration. The author thinks that most children are more interested in things around them than people when they are 0-2 years old. Everything in the family is explored by children, which represents the world of children. Of course, children will not consider our parents' mood when exploring.
In the past few months, my home has been turned over by candy many times. Every day the house is a mess. My husband and I will clean the house together before going to bed. This process also tests the patience of our parents. For the sake of children, we must learn to be patient!
Although Tian Tian makes a mess at home every day, I find that Tian Tian knows which items can be stacked together; What can be contained in it; Which items can be arranged in a row ... These explorations about the spatial relationship, volume, quality and causal composition of objects were all learned by Tian Tian's own exploration of objects when I ignored Tian Tian's "home-making". This laid the foundation for the later mathematical enlightenment.
When exploring substances, babies should also pay attention to the following three points:
1. Parents should pay attention to actions and form good habits.
When the children scatter all the picture books on the bookshelf, our parents should hold the baby's hand gently and firmly and don't let her run away. Parents first pick up a picture book, put it back on the original picture book shelf, and show it to the baby. Then I handed the baby a picture book, and then pointed to the picture book rack and said to the baby, "Please put it here." Needless to say. I don't think it is necessary to preach to such a big baby, because they don't understand that when we adults preach, bad emotions will be passed on to the baby, which will increase the baby's psychological burden. So our parents only need to demonstrate once, and then pull the baby to do it together.
2. Hide dangerous goods in advance.
The author believes that since we want to give our baby enough space to explore freely, we should put away what we don't want our baby to explore before the baby explores. For example, hot water bottles, fruit knives, marbles and other dangerous items are kept out of the baby's sight. Imagine if our parents don't put away dangerous goods and the baby wants to explore, and we don't give them, the more likely it is to arouse the baby's curiosity. The baby reaches out and touches it, which increases the chances for parents to reprimand the baby and makes the baby cringe and feel inferior. This will affect the baby's personality in the future. Our parents should set a fixed range when the baby plays with something that causes trouble to our parents. For example, in what range you can play with water and whose food you can play with.
3. accompany without disturbing.
When the baby is exploring, our parents should stay with the baby as much as possible, but don't disturb the baby. You can do it without disturbing, but you can stay with your baby all the time. Zhu Zhu wants to say that male and female servants can't do it! Working full-time mothers have a deep understanding. To take care of the baby, housework and three meals a day are neglected. I think I spend most of the day walking around the kitchen. Think again that everything is for the baby, housework is nothing, just give it to sweet dad directly. Leave at least half an hour alone with the baby every day.
Sweets has been saying something recently, and what she can say is becoming clearer and clearer. I know that sweets has entered a language sensitive period. Regarding the sensitive period of language, the author thinks that children learn language in real life situations, so the language they learn is not dry words. There is no specific method in this book. Zhu Zhu in "How to give your baby early education for free? The article "Teach you five tricks to make your baby smart" shares five simple and effective methods. Very practical, but unfortunately the reading volume is not high. I really suggest you take a look. By combining learning language with life situations, you can learn anytime and anywhere, regardless of textbooks and time. Agree with the author's point of view
In addition, I don't recommend 1-2-year-old babies to read picture books, watch TV and watch computers too early. She believes that if our parents introduce their interest into reading picture books too early, they will imprison their children's imagination and become distracted in class when they grow up. Affect children's concentration.
Two paragraphs are mentioned in the book:
Zhu Zhu understands that whatever we do, we should be moderate, not excessive. Children's interests are not only reading, but also sports, dance, music, painting and so on. Children can have many interests to choose from. In the initial stage of exploring interest, it will be more conducive to children's development to try to "touch both rain and dew".
On the question of how parents can provide suitable environment and materials for their babies, the author thinks that every child is unique, and what they like is also unique. We should observe their hobbies carefully.
Sweets recently fell in love with the trash can in the kitchen. Every time I cook in the kitchen, she takes the garbage to the trash can. You know, the dirtiest place in the house is the trash can. Especially the garbage in the kitchen, leftovers and so on, a lot of them are returned at once. Later, my husband simply hung the garbage bag on the wall, but the sweetness was beyond my reach. But I still put the garbage in the trash can, only this time, I gave her all kinds of packaging cartons and so on. So she can explore.
Because every baby likes to explore different things, some children like to explore trash cans, and some children like to explore shoes in shoe racks. What our parents have to do is to meet the needs of children's exploration while ensuring their safety. If you like shoes, explore shoes; If you like trash cans, explore trash cans.
In a word, our parents should let the baby have something to do, not treat the baby as a toy.
The above is the development process of 1-2-year-old baby. How old was your baby when reading this article? After reading this article, I hope you can take your time in parenting.
As for babies aged 2-3, we all know that they will have the first "rebellious period" in their lives, that is, the "stubborn period". In addition to giving some coping methods, the author also focuses on sharing some methods to develop the baby's imagination. After all, rebellion is also a manifestation of children's independence. Independence and imagination coexist. On the stubbornness and imagination of 2-3 years old, Zhu Zhu will organize an article to share with you. See you next time!