Everything happens for a reason, you must understand. A six-year-old child has his own observations. He said he was afraid, so there was something to be afraid of.
I remember reading an article long ago. It says that the author's children are very good, but they have become very naughty for a while. At the age of six, the author bought a statue and put it on the table, but secretly the children always turned their heads away and let the statue face the wall.
The author found out and asked the child, who said that face was terrible. But the face of the statue is very soft and lovely, not scary at all. So the author thinks that the child is lying, but in any case, as long as there is an opportunity, the child will turn the statue's face to the other side of the wall, and beating and cursing will not change it.
Finally, the author consulted a children's educator, who asked the author to look at the statue's face from a child's point of view. The author tried to squat down and look at the statue at the height of a child. Because of the angle, ridge, light and shadow, the face of this statue looks really terrible at the height of a six-year-old child, even the author feels terrible when he squats down. ...
Finally, the author not only throws away the statue, but also has a habit of using children to look at the world from a height, which makes it easier for children to understand.
Of course, I don't just think that the subjects have statues or something at home. I'm just saying that you should look at the world from the perspective of a six-year-old child. Maybe you can find out what the child is afraid of and hates.
Once, I was in a crowded street in Guangzhou, and a tired mother dragged a child shopping. The child has been asking for "mother hug, mother hug", and mother is furious. After a few hits, the child still wants to hug.
In fact, this mother just doesn't have this understanding. When the streets are full of people, short children can only see rows of forests made up of adult legs, which is breathless, boring and probably scary. Therefore, the only way to get rid of this situation is to keep "mom hugging", even if you are beaten. She is not naughty, but a need in her heart. And how old children can't express their feelings well, so be it.
Therefore, the subjects might as well give it a try. No matter the height, the place and place, or the event, you can look at it from the child's point of view, and you should be able to find out the reason why the child is afraid.
Did he see something he shouldn't have seen? Then I was threatened, and then I was intimidated, so I didn't dare to say.
I'm glad to answer your question. The first point I want to say is that when children are crying and afraid, we are not upset at the first time, let alone ask directly: What are you afraid of? It is the first time to give a child a hug and say: Mom is here, not afraid. Pacifying children's fears is the first priority. Thereby reducing the harm of this fear to children.
Why should we temporarily calm the child's mood? I once heard a story that one day a man was shot by a poisonous arrow from nowhere. This man was so popular that he had to find out where the poisoned arrow came from, so he ignored the wound in the arrow and looked for the source of the arrow. As a result, it is conceivable that this person died of poison. So being shot by a poisoned arrow, all we have to do is pull out the poisoned arrow and deal with the wound. Therefore, it is necessary to appease the children's fears in the first place.
After calming down the emotions, next, we need to find out why the children are afraid. In fact, when a child is afraid, you ask why, and often you can't ask. Because children can't answer questions calmly when they are afraid. So when the child is quiet, you can try to ask the child to see if the child can talk. It's best to say it yourself, and don't be forced to say it.
If the child really doesn't say anything, then parents need to carefully observe the reasons why the child is afraid and under what circumstances. Ask the reason why the child is afraid. There is a direction here: children of this age have a psychology called animism, which believes that everything in the world is alive. So I am afraid of the concept of "monster" and think it is true.
As time goes on, the child's body is growing taller and his mind is developing. While parents are concerned about their children's physical health, they can't ignore their psychological changes. When the baby has some abnormal behaviors, it is probably caused by psychological abnormalities. So what are the manifestations of children's abnormal behavior?
The manifestations of children's abnormal behavior
Withdrawal behavior:
More common in children aged 5-7. Mainly manifested as: quiet, withdrawn, timid, timid, shrinking. Afraid or unwilling to go to a strange environment, occasionally to a new environment, often unaccustomed, uncomfortable, depressed, crying. The common reason for this situation is that children are "dependent" because of overindulgence. Excessive rudeness of parents will also form children's fear, and major family changes, such as the death of immediate family members or the divorce of parents, will have adverse effects on children and lead to withdrawal behavior.
Children's compulsive behavior:
Such children often perform certain actions repeatedly, such as washing their hands repeatedly, knowing that it is unnecessary, but they can't control themselves and others won't listen. The parents of such children are often too rigid and rigid, and the educational methods are improper, which makes the children too nervous. It may also be caused by head trauma or mental trauma.
Childhood phobia:
Inexplicable fear, fear of the dark, fear of dogs, fear of cats, fear of school and so on. Sometimes I feel cold sweat, pale and trembling with fear. In addition to the child's psychological state, the onset is often related to the intimidation or fright of adults.
Habitual convulsion:
There are often a group of involuntary muscle twitches, such as blinking, crooked mouth, shrugging, cutting and kicking, which are often monotonous and repetitive actions. The more adults talk about him, the more moved they are. It is often caused by mental stress, intimidation and anxiety, and a few are related to diseases.
What should I do if my child behaves abnormally?
It is often said that heart disease should be treated carefully, and children with abnormal behavior should be treated mainly with psychotherapy. Parents and teachers should take responsibility for such children, give them emotional warmth, patiently persuade and educate them, and avoid rudeness and abuse. We should also comfort, encourage and help them build up their confidence. For factors that obviously stimulate the spirit, we should try to divert their attention or gradually adapt. If the child is afraid of mice, tell him the story of mice getting married and watch them pedal. Play with Mickey Mouse toys, etc. , to eliminate their fears.
For children's abnormal behavior, the first thing parents should do is not to worry too much. Generally speaking, it can be cured if it is found in time and treated as soon as possible. So parents must have confidence and patience. They should not educate their children by beating and cursing, but should encourage them and give them some confidence, so that they can better cure their psychological diseases.
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