How to educate children that there are differences between the two generations
Grandma Song can be said to love her 8-month-old grandson. She has been helping with the baby since it was born. "Don't lack a day. During the Chinese New Year, I will hold my child wherever he wants to go. "
However, sons, daughters-in-law and grandma Song always have different views on what their grandchildren eat, when to sleep, what clothes to wear, what to learn and what games to play. Grandma Song said: "When I fed him noodles, my daughter-in-law was too scared to eat."
Grandma Song's daughter-in-law said that the child is only eight months old now, and the old man has already started feeding the child rice and noodles. "The old man loves children more, feels that the food is nutritious, and the children eat with relish. But I think it's more scientific. For example, we should make complementary food for children alone, and we should not eat too much salt for children before 1 year old. We will follow some scientific parenting methods in books. " But old people often don't see it that way.
There are similar intergenerational training courses in the main city
Because of similar problems, there have been many disputes between the two generations. A few days ago, my daughter-in-law suddenly told Grandma Song that she gave Grandma Song a free "grandparents training class" in an early education class, mainly to teach the elderly how to breastfeed their children. This made Grandma Song full of bitterness. "Does this mean that I won't take care of my children? I brought up my grandson. "
Yesterday, a reporter from chongqing morning post visited some early education classes in the main city, and some of them launched special training classes for the older generation. An early education institution in Nanping said that they had previously launched some "grandparents' training classes" for members, and young parents enthusiastically signed up for the elderly, with good results.
The staff of an early education institution in Jiangbei told reporters that before, they specially asked teachers to tailor some training courses for the old people to teach them how to educate their grandchildren. Mainly invited some experts in educational psychology and some nutritionists to be lecturers.
Although the first few times were free, not many old people actually came to class, sometimes there were less than ten people in a class. Therefore, after a few classes, this training class will be in vain. "Mom and Dad are very active, but the old man doesn't seem to catch a cold."
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Aunt Zhao, who lives in Yuzhong District, found many parenting books before her grandson was born, such as The Secret of Childhood by Montessori and Let Children Make Decisions by Xiaowu. ...
Aunt Zhao said: "at present, everything should be given priority to young people, and we old people also need to make progress." If there is a training class for grandparents, I want to attend it. It's never too old to learn! "
"When it comes to a question about children, two people's views are often different. Everyone says it's for the good of children, and the contradiction is too difficult to reconcile. Now the responsibility of taking care of children falls to elderly grandparents. I think the idea of' grandparents training class' is very good. Old people like grandchildren very much, but they are easily spoiled and need to learn something new. " This group/chongqing morning post reporter Qi Lin
Li Jie, an expert on Fairchild family education in Chongqing, said that in fact, similar "grandparents' schools" have long been very common abroad. After giving birth to a child, parents themselves need psychological counseling. If grandparents help to take care of children at home, family relationships will become more complicated and there will be more problems to deal with. Therefore, if the elderly can also get corresponding psychological counseling and education, it will be of great benefit to the growth of their children and the harmony of their families.
Even if young parents educate their children, they should constantly update their knowledge, practice and comprehend it repeatedly, and often consult experts and teachers, not to mention parents of different generations.
"It is normal for parents of different generations to have misunderstandings and traditional thinking patterns in education. As long as they are open-minded,' Grandparents Training Class' can not only help them take better care of their children and deal with family relations, but also exercise the brains of the elderly and promote communication. It is also very beneficial. "
However, when young parents sign up for the elderly, they should still consult the elderly in advance and express their gratitude to their parents.
Yesterday, a reporter from chongqing morning post interviewed some elderly people who helped their children take care of their grandchildren. Of the 12 people, 8 made it clear that this so-called intergenerational training course was of little significance to them.
After the granddaughter was born, Grandpa Zhang went to his son's house to help by bike every morning, and then rode home at night. "More tired than going to work now."
But what makes grandpa Zhang feel more hard is not taking care of children, but because of educational methods and other issues. He often disagrees with his son and daughter-in-law. "We work very hard to help the children, but they still have a lot of dissatisfaction. I feel really thankless. " But grandpa Zhang still doesn't think it is necessary to go to any training class. "Now this class and that class are all about making money?"
Luo Xiangyu's mother-in-law thought, "I don't have to go to the training class, I know." If they don't like it, let them communicate with me without attending any training classes. "
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