First, deal with it calmly
Children don't know how to control their emotions. When they are not convinced of the discipline of adults, they may be more excited and have some radical words and behaviors. At this time, parents should first control their emotions. They can put aside their problems and then try to control their emotions. The child's anger will come and go quickly, and come back to reason with him when he calms down. Don't fly into a rage at the sight of your child talking back, or even add fists to your child, because doing so will not only help solve the problem, but will make the emotions of both sides more antagonistic, and will also make your child hate his parents. Children with strong personalities may also run away from home.
Second, respect and understand children.
With the growth of children, family relations should be adjusted accordingly, changing the situation that parents decided everything and children only obeyed; Parents need to think more from the children's point of view and strive to establish an equal and respectful relationship with adolescent children, which needs to be based on mutual understanding and communication as a guarantee. Conversation allows both sides to communicate with each other, and only communication can understand each other.
Third, we must grasp the discretion of criticizing children.
Criticizing the child in any way and place, digging up all his past mistakes when the child makes mistakes, belittling and satirizing the child at will, and criticizing the child together with his personality when educating the child, which is the common fault of many parents and is also the most likely to cause the child's rebellious psychology. Criticizing children in front of outsiders, children will feel that their parents will not leave any face for themselves, and they will make a fool of themselves in public. Complaints and resentment will naturally flow into words and hurt their self-esteem. In order to reduce children's rebellious feelings, parents should not abuse criticism. Before criticizing children, we must first find out what happened, distinguish the occasion and pay attention to the method. Good children love to brag, praise more and blame less, pay attention to their little progress and look for the bright spots in them. Children are often praised and encouraged, and it is easier to accept parents' criticism when they make mistakes.
Fourth, listen to children's thoughts.
Create an atmosphere of listening and be a child's consultant. Parents should try to make their children feel that it is natural to do that. The trick is to always have a "listening atmosphere" at home. In this way, children will come to discuss with their parents once they encounter something important. One of the best ways to achieve this goal is to spend time with children. If you take advantage of the opportunity of eating, pay attention to your child and make him feel valued. Learn to be a child's psychological counselor.
5. Maintain an equal relationship with children.
Some parents deeply influenced by traditional ideas take it for granted that children should listen to their parents. They often pretend to be elders, are used to directing children, and like to give orders to children and ask them to do whatever they want. If you are a little disobedient, you will take a high-handed policy to block your child's mouth. But these parents forget that the child is growing up day by day, and he has begun to have his own ideas and ideas. When he thinks he is right, he will stick to his opinion, and when he thinks he has not been treated fairly by his parents, he will resist.