It is a good thing that children can learn some talents and specialties. Some children think that learning is a happy thing. Some children think it is a burden, and children think it is not good. Coupled with improper educational purposes and methods, it may be counterproductive. Therefore, parents should respect their children's own interests while sending them to school. Moreover, parents should choose the study time reasonably according to the characteristics of children's physiological development. The following are some suggested information for parents' reference.

First, the school-age period of learning violin.

Playing the violin is standing with one hand. 3-4-year-old children with small fingers and insufficient strength are too reluctant to play music well. Therefore, it is suggested that the age of learning violin should be 5~6 years old.

Second, the school-age period of learning the piano

In the music world, sound has feelings and life. It is not suitable for babies who are too young to learn the piano, because learning the piano requires babies to have certain abilities, including a certain degree of cognitive development, at least being able to understand a simple staff, and a certain degree of auditory differentiation and the ability to feel music, such as distinguishing the treble, timbre and monotonicity of music, as well as the development of fine hand movements, certain hand-eye coordination, the strength of fingers and the size of hand development.

Therefore, when the child is 2-3 years old, the effect cannot be expected. When they are 6- 10 years old, they are a little slow to become pianists. At the age of 3-5, it is best for children to listen to and enjoy good music first. Generally, they will begin to receive technical guidance from piano and other musical instruments at the age of 4-5, so it is more appropriate to learn piano. Of course, you can advance or postpone it according to your child's situation.

Third, the school-age period of painting.

Because children can "doodle" at the age of 1 or 1, they become interested in shapes and colors at the age of 2-3, and begin to know and draw practical things and experienced things at the age of 4-5. At the age of 5-6, they don't draw what they see, but what they know. At this time, the child's observation, imagination and even desire to express are very high. Therefore, it is most appropriate to start from the purest time for children aged two and a half to three.

Fourth, study drama in school age.

The so-called drama is expressed by all the organs and functions of your body. It needs extensive training from vocalization and pronunciation practice to music, classicism and ballet. These trainings can be carried out according to age and physical and mental development, so from the age of 3 to adulthood, as long as you are interested in acting, you can always be said to be "school age".

Fifth, study calligraphy in school age.

Calligraphy is a highly skilled art, and it is not easy to write beautifully and artistically. We should study and practice step by step according to the law of learning, and after a long period of practice, we can master the true essence of calligraphy. It is more appropriate for school-age children to learn calligraphy from the third grade. Because this age has adapted to school life, I have a deep understanding of words and can start learning. Students in kindergartens and primary schools know better.

Weak, but if you are interested, you can continue to study, and it is not too early to start studying at this time. According to the habit of writing, it is also a suitable time to start learning calligraphy at this time.

In the process of learning, children should first write according to the simple words they know, from easy to difficult. Beginners should first learn to "draw red" and learn basic knowledge. They should choose Liu Style and Yan Style, and their pen collection is obviously balanced. Whether a child can learn block letters depends on whether he can write like a copied font after leaving the copybook. When they learn regular script to a certain extent, they can start to learn running script, official script and cursive script. When guiding children to learn calligraphy, we should pay attention to their learning posture, habits and attitudes, and the practice time should not be too long. We should take our children to visit calligraphy exhibitions and places of interest with inscriptions to encourage them to make progress and enhance their self-confidence.

Sixth, the school-age period of learning English.

Early childhood is the best age for oral development. Normal children can master all the pronunciations of their mother tongue at the age of four and learn other languages. If you want to speak English as well as Mandarin in the future, you'd better learn it as soon as possible. With the growth of age, after the age of 5, the habit of mother tongue has been formed, and the pronunciation mechanism is gradually stable, limited to the mother tongue. It will be much more difficult to learn another foreign language. Therefore, as long as family conditions permit, it is better for children to learn a foreign language from an early age, 1-2 years old is better to be close to English, and it is better to learn with teachers after 3 years old.

Seven, the school-age period of learning Go and chess.

The starting age of Go and Chess is 3-4 years old. As long as children can distinguish black and white pieces, the characters on chess can be understood. Both kinds of chess have difficult technical terms. If you want to fully understand them, you usually start from the third grade of primary school.

Early childhood education: how to correct children's boasting?

Children like to talk big. How to correct the problem of children talking big! Many children have had the experience of bragging, and they are also confident in speaking. When boasting becomes a habit, children's boasting and blind arrogance will become unconscious behaviors, and their vanity will become stronger and stronger.

Many children have had the experience of bragging, and they are also confident in speaking. When boasting becomes a habit, children's boasting and blind arrogance will become unconscious behaviors, and their vanity will become stronger and stronger. This article will introduce children's bragging psychology and some ways to help children talk less.

"Last week, my uncle took me to catch earthworms, digging and digging on the ground, and dug a lot. I also put them on my feet and palms. It's really interesting ... "Four-year-old Dongdong happily told his friends about his" feat ". The mother standing by frowned, because Dongdong's story was so exaggerated. In fact, many children have had the experience of "bragging" and are confident in speaking at ordinary times.

Why do children talk big?

1, obedient "out of context"

Children aged three or four have limited time to concentrate, and "obedience" is also the focus. His attention was focused on his own concerns, ignoring his mother's conditions. At the same time, it is really difficult to ask children to listen once and let them write clearly what their mother said. Because of this "mistake" in memory, when children recall what their mother said, they will replace the inaccurate part of their memory with the part they hope, and there will inevitably be "bragging" in their speech. As they get older, their forgetfulness of "obedience" will change and their understanding will improve.

No one is as good as me.

If all a child hears is praise and praise, over time he will be convinced that he is the best. In order to show their "strength", they often show off and brag, so as to make themselves appear to have the upper hand and achieve psychological balance. There are also some children who have strong self-esteem, are eager to win, and speak loudly to overwhelm each other to maintain their self-esteem. In addition, children aged three or four will exaggerate when they want to attract others' attention and let others know his "feat".

Step 3 imagine a "disaster"

Children are full of fantasies and unconstrained style. However, due to their young age, little life experience and poor cognitive ability, they often confuse reality, imagination and desire and say some "big words", such as imagining themselves wearing diver's clothes in an aquarium and swimming with big sharks. This has a certain relationship with the age and psychological characteristics of children.

What should I do if I hear my child talk big?

When boasting becomes a habit, children's boasting and blind arrogance will become unconscious behaviors, and their vanity will become stronger and stronger. The following methods can help children talk less.

1, give the child a truth

Once the child's words are different from the mother's "original", the mother must return things to their true colors. Otherwise, it is easy for children to believe what they misinterpret and take it for granted.

Step 2 strengthen your own statement

Mother and son must look at each other and speak slowly to ensure that the children understand. Besides, you might as well say it twice. You can't expect such a young child to remember it once.

3. Be competitive and seek truth from facts

Good children are boasted, but praise should be appropriate and guide children to learn to evaluate themselves correctly. Parents may wish to affirm their children's competitiveness, but they should also tell their children strategically not to exaggerate their competitiveness. It is clear that seeking truth from facts does not lose face, and exaggeration is unpopular. At the same time, appropriately guide children's competitiveness and encourage them.

Children should also put themselves in others' shoes.

When you hear your child praise himself and belittle his peers, parents should quietly remind him: "If your child treats you like this, what do you think in your heart?" Is it very uncomfortable? " Inspire him to compare himself with others and imagine how others feel when they encounter similar situations. Let him realize that children who have the upper hand everywhere will be rejected by their peers and eventually have no friends. Then, give them some advice. For example, the next time he wants to brag about how great he is, tell his parents first, "We are willing to be your audience." This will not only restrain the child from bragging, but also help him learn to respect and think for others.

5. Encourage children with "big talk"

Children's "big talk" helps parents understand their thoughts and take the opportunity to guide them to distinguish between what is real and what is imagined and expected. Tell children that it is good to have a wish. We should start from scratch, learn technology well and work towards this goal. For example, if you want to dive in the aquarium, you must learn to swim first and persevere. Learning to dive is the second step.

6. Take more children to "open their eyes"

Often take children on field trips to understand the essential characteristics of things. With this foundation, even if the child's thinking is random, his imagination can stay away from unrealistic "bragging".

Early education should lay the foundation for children's lifelong development.

With the rapid development of society and the progress of the times, people's cognition and attitude towards education are constantly updated and developed. The word "early education" is no longer strange in modern families, and the concept of "not letting children lose at the starting line" circulates in the hearts of parents. "Early education" actually refers to educational activities carried out by preschool children aged 0-3. Children at this stage are in infancy, which is a critical period for the development of life intelligence. Some people think that children aged 2-3 are the best age to learn spoken English. Grasping early education can improve the learning effect, which is also the result of the interaction between heredity and environment. Therefore, it is very important to seize the opportunity of education and learning in early education.

Parents pay special attention to their children's preschool education and hope to develop their intelligence and potential in the initial stage of education. However, many parents blindly follow the trend and simply don't understand the concept and significance of "early education".

In fact, early education refers to the preschool education that children receive. But as we all know, children aged 0-3 belong to the category of early education. It is generally recognized that the education of children aged 0-3 is called enlightenment education or children's education. Zhou Hanmin, an expert in baby-friendly early education, said that this period is the most critical period for children's nervous system development and various potential development, and it is indeed a good opportunity for education. The core of early education is to provide an educational and nutritious environment to "activate" children's brain development and personality growth, thus laying a solid foundation for their future development.

In recent years, the state has also given recognition and support to the implementation of early education, encouraging children's intellectual development and education at this stage, thus greatly promoting parents' awareness of early education. From the country to the family, we can fully realize the importance of early education to children.

Parents should also follow their children's interests in the course selection of early education. In infancy, children's interests are difficult to grasp, but after a period of time, children slowly begin to look for their favorite images or sounds, and parents can find their interests from these details. We can't expect a 23-year-old baby to study hard, but as long as the child is interested, he can concentrate on an activity for a long time. As long as parents discover their children's interests, they can create many situations and teach their children to learn literacy and reading. When interviewing the parents of children who participated in early education, Ms. Zhang said that children were "fans" when they were very young. They heard the phone ring and followed. After the observation, they signed up their children for music lessons. The children not only listened carefully, but also accepted the course content happily.

Zhou Hanmin, president of Baby-Friendly Early Education, suggested that parents should first choose brands when choosing early education institutions. The brand behind it represents the quality of education and years of experience, and education must rely on the accumulation of time and good ideas to continuously improve; At the same time, it also depends on the educational philosophy of this institution and course. Nowadays, parents' ideas are diversified, the curriculum system at home and abroad is in institutions, and the classification is also detailed; In addition, ask parents who are already in class to see their comments and word of mouth.

Try to figure out the child's psychology

Don't think that children don't understand psychology. In fact, children are good at trying to figure out the psychology of adults, not only trying to figure out, but also using psychological tactics to deal with adults. For example, adults eat breakfast in a hurry in the morning, hoping that children can eat faster and urge them to "hurry up, hurry up", so that they can go to work quickly after sending their children to kindergarten. However, the child ate slowly and didn't have a bite. In fact, there is a "career" in the child's stomach. In the evening, adults can do something when they want to settle their children. But the child just ignores it, refuses to wash his face, refuses to take a bath and so on. This makes adults very angry. This is actually because children are not satisfied with the arrangement of adults, or they have not reached the price expected by children. Therefore, the way children treat adults is slow and indifferent. There is no need to be angry, and there is no need to push or force the child. Tell them what time it is and how much time you have to play. Or tell your children when and what you should do. Let the children think about what will happen after this time. Describe the consequences in as much detail as possible. Children will feel that they have failed in this way.

Parenting strategies of children with different blood types

Type A children: Type A children are often timid, often hiding behind their mothers and carefully observing the surrounding dynamics; He doesn't like being in complicated interpersonal relationships and likes to do what he wants alone. A-type children lack self-confidence, and will lose self-confidence if they are slightly frustrated and hit; I like being emotional. He is sensitive to the evaluation of strangers, so he will please others and be afraid of being annoying.

The focus of education-to help them build their self-confidence, the most effective way is "praise". The principle of punishment is never to hurt his feelings.

Type O children: Type O children have strong self-confidence. When doing things, only work hard towards your own goals, and it is not easy to be disturbed by external things; When this character goes to extremes, it will appear very headstrong, stubborn and stubborn, refusing to admit mistakes.

The focus of education-appropriate praise and praise, and take the way of praise first and then blame. Don't praise him in an inappropriate way, so as not to form the habit of being too careful and asking for remuneration. In addition, simple preaching will not play a good educational role in treating wayward and stubborn O-type children, and parents can focus on cultivating his modest learning attitude.

Type b children: they are also sensitive to changes in the surrounding environment, sensitive to reactions, and love to pay attention to other people's expressions; He is an optimist, always carefree, but impulsive and easy to do whatever he wants; The biggest weakness is lack of patience, stability and persistence.

The focus of education-when praising, first tell him the reasons for encouraging him, and then reward him; Don't praise blindly. You might as well give him a hug when praising him, or put your cheek on his face. These intimate actions are the easiest to stabilize the mood of type B children.

AB-type children: The advantages of AB-type children are that they are decisive in everything, quick in action and extremely considerate; Impulsive, when encountering insurmountable difficulties and obstacles, the mood will immediately appear very unstable, irritable and even lose his temper.

The focus of education-proper praise and gentle attitude will stabilize his mood, and encouraging language will make AB children obediently accept their parents' opinions and stimulate their self-confidence.

Children talk big, parents should review.

Lying seems to be a common problem for growing children. In fact, children's lying is the result of improper parents' education, because children can't tell the difference between reality and imagination. Psychologists have found that children under the age of 4 regard whether their parents are happy or not as the standard to measure whether their behavior is right or wrong. If the child tells his mother who comes back from work, "I broke the mirror today." Mom will be very angry and maybe give him a beating. But if the child put it another way, the mother would not be angry. From here, the child learned to "lie", but at this time, the child did not realize the essence of his behavior. All he knows is that his mother and father are angry and he has done something wrong. However, when children are very young, they are afraid that their parents will be angry and refuse to admit their mistakes. If they lie and are not properly corrected, they will gradually settle down and form cheating behavior. Therefore, parents should cultivate their children's honest conduct from an early age according to their age and understanding.

Parents should not teach their children to lie.

Many parents don't realize the influence of their little behavior on their children. For example, if you don't like receiving visitors, teach your children to say, "If someone comes to see me, just say I'm not here." If you do something you don't want your spouse to know, say "Don't let mom know" to your child. Some parents say that they can't do it, and give their children a bad check. Because parents have a certain prestige in children's minds, children think that what parents say or do is right and gradually learn to lie. Parents often don't realize the consequences of this behavior at first, and children get angry when they have problems. In fact, the root of children's problems lies in parents themselves. Therefore, to cultivate children's honesty, parents must first be honest in front of their children.

Don't punish children who tell the truth.

In real life, it is often the case that parents will severely criticize and even punish children who tell the truth. For example, a mother called in sick and went out to play. As a result, the child told the truth to his colleagues who came to visit his mother. After the mother found out, she gave him a good beating and taught him to say "I went to the hospital" to others in the future. In this way, children will gradually realize that telling the truth will be punished, but not telling the truth will be safe and even win the appreciation of their parents. If the child makes a mistake next time, he will try his best to hide the past to escape punishment. Therefore, the correct way for parents should be: after the child admits the mistake, praise his honesty first, and then help the child analyze the cause of the mistake.

Help children distinguish between imagination and reality

Psychologists have found that only about 18% of 6-year-old children can distinguish truth from imagination, while 90% of 9-year-old children can understand whether the story is fabricated or true. 1 1- 12 years old, they begin to understand honesty from a new angle, that is, children gradually understand "lies" with their age. Therefore, parents should help their children learn to tell what is false and what is true when they are 3-4 years old. For example, when playing games, parents pretend to be wolves, and children feel scared. At this time, you can explain to him what "pretending" is. Older children can discuss the difference between fact and fiction for characters and children in science fiction movies, fairy tales and plays.

When children can't distinguish fantasy from reality, they often say what they want to happen is what is happening or has happened, and brag about their "heroic achievements" to their parents and classmates. Such children have a strong sense of inferiority, which makes them often compensate themselves with superiority to show their "ability". For children who lie like this, parents should judge the reasons for their lies and correct them in time, and can't let them go.

Reward honest behavior in time.

To cultivate good behavior habits, reward is more important than punishment. When you find your child in trouble, don't ask angrily, "Did you do this?" At this point, the child is likely to lie for fear of being beaten. This way of asking questions is actually to induce children to lie. Parents can look their children in the eyes and wait for them to tell the truth, or say, "What's the matter?" If a child admits his mistake or asks for forgiveness, he should praise his honesty first, then criticize it, and his punishment should be reduced accordingly.

Any behavior is the easiest to correct at first. Therefore, when parents first discover that their children are lying, they should attach great importance to this problem and punish them in time. The average child will feel extremely uneasy when he tells a lie for the first time. Even if they get away with it, they will be very worried. If parents don't find and stop it in time, children will get used to it and lie that it is "sex".

The mother's tone affects the child's life.

Core Tip: Experts say that successful tutoring is closely related to parents' oral expression. In particular, the tone of parents talking to their children will have a far-reaching impact on their emotional intelligence, IQ, temperament and self-cultivation.

The tone of trust

Children especially want to gain the trust of adults, especially parents, so they should show full trust when talking to children. For example, if a child wants to learn to play badminton, you say in a trusting tone, "Star, as long as you study hard and study hard, you will definitely learn to play." This invisibly gives the child a kind of self-confidence and makes him understand that only persistence can achieve success. If you use an ironic tone: "Do you still want to play ball after three minutes of enthusiasm?" It will hurt the child's self-esteem and make him feel insecure about his ability.

Respectful tone

From the age of two or three, children's self-awareness begins to sprout, and this self-awareness will become stronger with age. Children have their own opinions, which shows that children know their own strength and ability. When he puts forward his own different views and demands, don't think that he doesn't listen to you, opposes you and rudely opposes him. If you let your child learn English, but he wants to play with friends, you can't lose your temper: "The older you are, the more disobedient you are. Don't study hard and see what you can do when you grow up. " Doing so will only make children more disgusted with learning. You should use a respectful tone: "Then you can play for a while, but after that, you must learn English." Children are willing to accept it.

The tone of discussion

Every child has self-esteem. If you want your child to do something, you can let him know that he is equal to you and you respect him. For example, if you want your children to pick up toys that have fallen on the ground, you can say, "Stars and toys are littered. What a bad habit. Will you organize toys with your mother? " Never use a commanding tone: "What's the matter with you? Toys are thrown everywhere. Hurry up and clean them up! " "Otherwise, children will be disgusted with your criticism, and even if they do what you ask, they will be unhappy.

An appreciative tone

Every child has advantages and a desire to show. Finding and appreciating a child's advantages will make him more willing to show it. The child drew a picture, perhaps not very well, but the enthusiasm and seriousness of the child's painting is the greatest advantage. When a child shows you a picture, you can't simply say, "It's just so-so, practice hard." This will make children lose enthusiasm and confidence in painting. His works should be affirmed in an appreciative tone: "I didn't expect my baby to draw so well." If you continue to work hard, you will definitely draw better. " Children's desire for expression is satisfied, and they will be more interested in painting if they have a happy emotional experience.

An encouraging tone

Children can't be blameless. When a child does something wrong, don't criticize blindly, but help him learn from his mistakes, accumulate experience and encourage him to succeed again. For example, when a child helped his mother to fill a meal for the first time, her mother fell to the ground and smashed it. You can't blame him: "It's stupid to even hold a bowl unsteadily." This will hurt children's confidence and courage to try new things. You should use an encouraging tone: "The star accidentally broke the bowl, it doesn't matter. Try to iron it with your fingers before serving. " This not only teaches practical methods, but also gives children the confidence to try again.