It is not easy to be with children. When something happens, you can quickly adjust your mentality and deal with it calmly. So today we summed up the "four major injuries of bringing a baby"-busy, blind, busy and busy. Welcome all mothers to take their seats, and then we will talk about how to deal with them separately.
The first injury of taking a baby: from "busy" to effective education in a limited time
After a busy day, my father came home and saw his 5-year-old son watching cartoons. He also burst into laughter from time to time, while grandma fed him with a bowl. Dad suddenly felt very angry, went up to him and turned off the TV directly, loudly reprimanding the child "eat well!" " Eat by yourself! "The child got a fright and began to cry. Grandma stamped her feet in anxiety. ...
According to a survey in New Weekly, busy work and bringing home the bacon are the main reasons for the absence of most post-80s children. Many parents think that they don't have enough time to spend with their children, so they often unconsciously increase the management of their children during their limited time together. At this time, we need to be alert to the severe criticism of ourselves and our children. When we are with children, we should first relax ourselves and enjoy each other. According to the child's development stage, you can only start from one point at a time.
The second injury with baby: from "blind" people touching elephants to looking at children objectively
Mom is very worried-many friends' children have already attended this early education class and read that interest class. Whether their children want to learn English or music, Lego or roller skating will benefit their children in the long run is really a mess. ...
In fact, at this time, parents need to put their minds right, observe their children's interest tendencies in daily life according to their temperament types, take more children and try more, and let ta choose independently after the experience. Parents just need a little guidance. The advantage of this is that parents have less psychological burden, and at the same time cultivate their children's judgment and sense of responsibility.
The third injury of taking a baby: from "recklessness" to "giving up the pursuit of perfection"
"After the registration of children's kindergartens was completed, parents began to enter the tangled state of school districts and public and private issues. What should I do? " -A father asked for help in a circle of friends.
It's normal to hesitate before choosing. What parent doesn't want his son to be a dragon? It's inevitable to be swayed by considerations of gain and loss No matter what kind of practice, there will be gains, but there is no way at present-let one choice today bear all the variables of tomorrow.
Therefore, before choosing a school, parents should first evaluate the family's economic situation and time and energy, consider the advantages and disadvantages of several schools in combination with their own educational ideas, and then find the right one from the alternatives, but it is not necessarily the most desirable. In fact, the flexibility of parents in this process is also an example for children, which is conducive to the adaptive development of children-not accepting their fate and not being "single-minded."
The fourth injury with the baby: from "mans" on the back to facing it calmly.
"What is the child's first complementary food?" This is a question that puzzles many mothers-what to eat, what tableware to use, even what music to play, and what atmosphere to eat in ... You are full of longing for what kind of first complementary food to open the children's life recipes, only to find that grandma gave the baby a few mouthfuls of rice soup ... That kind of loss and depression is like a mountain, which hurts you a lot.
Parents will certainly get a lot of advice and guidance in the process of raising their children. What you need to do is to be able to detect which voices are affecting your mood and parenting concept. For example, this mother is sad for her children to eat complementary food-her mother can't accept grandma's casual feeding, because it violates the beautiful ritual life she agrees with. If mom can realize this, she can try to communicate with grandma while sticking to her own ideas to avoid similar things from happening again. Or she can change her mind and accept this natural feeding method.
After the above analysis, I believe you have understood that the so-called "baby injury" is actually just a small problem in parents' mentality and communication style, and it is not complicated at all to adjust. Each of us has different growing backgrounds and different ways to get and express love, but we are all trying to grow up and become better ourselves and better parents!