Since Dabao entered primary school, the nerves that have been tense have been repeatedly provoked by various news in the circle of friends. For example, "in a provincial capital city in the south, there are one or two hundred teachers' children in a 985 college entrance examination, but only three or five people can be admitted to a 985 college." "Maybe these university teachers are too melodramatic. After all, if the number of school-age population in compulsory education is taken as the base, the admission rate of the whole city is only 5%, and the proportion of the whole province is no more than 3%. Compared with the difficulty of ordinary people entering the university, these children, as high-end educators of the ivory tower, should be satisfied if they can enter the 985 university. Maybe we shouldn't expect too much. We can't get into 985 and get into a book. We can consider 2 1 1, but the reality tells you that 2 1 1 is not easy to test.
It is not that we don't want to lower our expectations. It's just the big news that some universities break out from time to time, which makes it difficult for us to imagine children's study and life in such schools. For example, "a university takes the diploma as a threat and requires every graduate to" practice "in a factory for one year", "a branch of a university enrolls tens of thousands of students" and so on. The reality makes us have to consider which university to go to as soon as possible.
Feelings are too far away, and reality is very close. How close is it? In some cities, the cruel ranking of enrollment rate tells us that if you can't go to a good kindergarten, a good primary school, a good junior high school, or the top 50% of junior high school, there will be no more, because 50% of the students in the senior high school entrance examination will be wiped out, and only 50% of them will be lucky enough to enter high school and participate in the college entrance examination competition. Most importantly, in some cities, it's hard to see careless parents and unintelligent babies when you look around. The only difference is that parents wake up sooner or later, the methods and skills of parenting, and the energy and financial resources that can be invested. In short, whether you admit it or not, the pressure on children to go to school is passed on layer by layer, and it is close at hand.
Education should be early.
Looking around, those parents who recognize the reality earlier, wake up earlier and understand what they should do earlier, the easier the parenting work, the happier their children's study life. All kinds of accompanying jokes on the Internet, such as "Don't learn from your mother's filial piety, do your homework", what is broken? The accompanying students have three high blood sugar, blood lipid and blood pressure, which really exist in reality and often happen to conscious parents.
People in the circle of friends often complain about how difficult it is to take care of children, how stressful it is to study and how difficult it is to do homework, but two families never complain about these. One is a teacher's family, my grandfather is a primary school teacher, and my mother is a master's student with a full-time baby. Mothers receive regular prenatal education from the beginning of pregnancy. Before teaching children crafts, painting and piano, mothers will go to their own classes to study. They never worry about taking care of their children, because through the study of parenting knowledge, parents already know the behavioral characteristics of their children at all stages. The other family, since birth, has never gone out for lunch, no matter where to play or who to get together with. It must go home for lunch, then take a nap on time, not to mention dinner, and basically take no baby out in the afternoon. Grandpa watched Tang poetry, read books and played Go since childhood.
There is no obvious difference between these two schools and other children in kindergarten, but after the pressure of primary school study comes up, they all have good study habits, good health, intelligence and concentration, and parents will not worry too much about their children's study. Looking back, perhaps the parents of these two families did not have a particularly prominent concept of parenting, but the experience of grandparents was very obvious. As the saying goes, "why can't a schoolmaster become a schoolmaster?" Because Xueba's parents know how to raise children, Xueba will not raise children if he leaves the elderly. "
On the contrary, several families who often complain have neither the advice of the elderly nor their own early thinking on how to take care of their babies. There is no pressure to study in preschool. Babies can play as they please, and adults can take care of them as they please. As a result, the pressure came up in primary school, and I found that my grades couldn't keep up. Then I began to experience an anxious process, accompanying students, losing my temper, training my baby, lowering my expectations and starting to learn parenting skills. Usually need more energy, more money, more classes. Fortunately, adults and children have honed a layer of skin and then slowly started to get formal. Unfortunately, adults and children will inevitably have mental and physical problems. Of course, there are also some parents with big hearts who don't pay attention to primary school grades and completely miss the window of parenting. When the child reaches the age of twelve or thirteen, I can't control it again! What can be done at this time can only be to see how to prevent children from indulging in online games, being tired of learning and playing truant. At this time, I realized the importance of early education, and it was too late!
As a parent of a second child, I experienced the growth of Dabao and the ignorance of parenting, and gradually clarified my thinking. I hope Bauer's early education will be smoother and less detours. Summarize some experiences here and share them with you. I hope more parents can see it as soon as possible, attach importance to early education, grow up with their partners and take fewer detours.