1, men should know how to refuse.
Everyone in this world has their own busy things. If we delay our time and progress by helping others and fail to handle other things well, we will be very tired. We should be good people, not good people.
Don't be afraid to refuse. If your reason is justified, when a person asks you for something, he actually has two answers in mind, so it is reasonable to give him either answer.
Sometimes, you may not be the best person for him. Don't worry that the other party will be sad. Maybe your refusal made him.
2. When rejecting others, be direct and do your best.
Many people think it will be heartless. When they know that something can't work, they will tell each other to wait and see, so that they can have some hope, and finally you will refuse. This is not only bad for yourself, but also delays the progress of others.
I was invited to an activity before. Actually, I don't want to go either, but I'm embarrassed to refuse because of face. I'll say I'll wait and see. If I have time, I will go. Wait until the night before, I will tell each other that I can't go because of something temporary. People will politely say it doesn't matter, so wait for another time.
So many times, the other party never invites me to participate in activities, which is not good for our relationship. It's best to be straightforward when refusing people.
You don't need to explain too much to refuse others.
There is no reason to refuse others. No one in this world has an obligation to help you. Helping you is a duty, not helping you. Too much explanation will give people a feeling of pretending to support themselves. Just refuse and tell him sincerely. When you refused him, he was already thinking about the next solution, and he was not in the mood to listen to your explanation.