1, nanny, grandparents take care of children

Many parents in China think that as long as their children are watched, their lives will not be in danger. In fact, from birth, children need to communicate with others, especially with their parents. Children in many of our families have been neglected since childhood, lacking a sense of security in love, and pursuing the love lost in childhood has never been recovered.

2. Children become the object of comparison.

On the one hand, China people love face, on the other hand, they want to encourage their children to make progress. It is often said that you see how hard their children work, how good their grades are and what awards they have won. This comparison is the most unacceptable. And often say it in front of many people. Every time you compare your child with others, it will only bring him more dissatisfaction and pain.

3. Ignoring children's privacy and rights

Parents should knock on the door before entering the children's room, and let the children move or use their things. Any decision involving children should be discussed with them first. We should respect all the rights of children and treat them as adults. This aspect starts with changing diapers at birth. Before changing diapers, kindly tell him to change diapers and ask him to wait patiently. People who are not respected will never know how to respect others in the future.

4. Molding children according to their own standards.

Many parents have pinned their hopes on their children all their lives and have been forcing them to take the right path. Even if the child is not suitable for it, or doesn't like it, for example, learning piano, for example, going abroad. Under this pressure, the family becomes unhappy, and the happy time of parents and children becomes a struggle. At the expense of harmonious parent-child relationship, let children pursue some inexplicable and not necessarily correct parental ideals. When children recall their childhood when they grow up, they are all unpleasant memories, which are really the actions of some failed parents.

5. think that the harder you work, the better.

Many parents think that school performance represents everything. The goal is clear, and the rest of the parents' work is to beg with all threats and inducements. This outdated concept left over from the imperial examination era is still deeply rooted in the hearts of the people.

In fact, school performance does not mean everything, but comprehensive ability (vitality, perseverance, personality, etc. ), which is an important factor affecting their lives.