In order to welcome the arrival of the baby, many expectant mothers buy it at buy buy. Especially in maternal and child stores or online, I can't help but see cute baby products.
Expectant mothers can understand their feelings and act rationally. You know, you will have a long life from the moment you conceive a baby. This little life endowed with love is our humanoid banknote breaker, a four-legged gold swallowing beast. Don't underestimate their ability. If you are an ordinary family's expectant mother, then your reason will definitely overcome your emotions. If you are a mother who is not short of money, it is understandable to provide children with more complete and better "hardware".
1. Radiation protection clothing without radiation protection
In life, we can't live without computers, televisions, mobile phones and other electronic products. Many enterprises will publicize that radiation is harmful to babies. Expectant mothers should start with radiation protection clothing, on the one hand, they can feel at ease, on the other hand, wearing radiation protection clothing means telling others that they are pregnant, and they can give up their seats or make it convenient.
CCTV unveiled the radiation protection suit. The test results are surprising. 90% radiation protection suits on the market can resist a single radiation, but the radiation source in our surrounding environment is not single. Wearing radiation protective clothing for pregnant women can not only isolate radiation, but also increase the radiation intensity in the radiation protective clothing.
2. Baby pillow
Many expectant mothers will pay attention to whether they need a baby pillow when preparing baby bedding for their children. In fact, newborns don't need pillows, because the newborn baby's head and body are on the same plane, so just put a towel under his head. If you use a pillow, it will cause pressure on your baby's delicate cervical spine.
When the baby's spine is slightly bent after more than three months, you can choose a pillow with good permeability, moderate hardness and height of about 3-4 cm. When choosing a pillow for your baby, the width is about the same as its shoulder width. You can also make a pillow for your baby according to your baby's specific situation. Pillows should also be dried regularly, which is good for your baby's health.
3. High-view stroller
The stroller can be said to be one of the standing artifacts of the walker. Many expectant mothers will choose carefully, and high value and luxury are often the selling points in their hearts. However, if you buy this tall stroller, the neglected details are the reasons why the stroller is idle.
High-vision strollers are usually expensive and have a short service life. The weight can reach 10kg, and the wheels are very big, which is equivalent to the weight of a bag of rice with the baby. Every time I take my baby out, I can live in a house with an elevator. If it is an ordinary multi-storey, my parents will probably collapse, and it is not practical to spend more money.
1. Pinch your baby's nose to get taller.
It is every parent's wish to have a high-value baby. Those "experienced" old people will tell novice parents that if they want their children to have a high nose, they should pinch it at this time. In fact, this idea is wrong, because the baby's nasal cavity is rich in blood vessels, pinching the small bridge of the nose will damage blood vessels, leading to the invasion of bacteria and viruses, which is easy to cause rhinitis.
You know, in infancy, the baby's nose collapses to varying degrees. When the fontanel door is closed, the nose will be higher and higher, and it must not "encourage the signs". It is a common state that newborns are ugly. Mom and dad put their hearts in their stomachs and raise them slowly. Soon you will find that the little monkey has turned into a pink cutie.
2. Squeeze nipples for baby girls
A little princess has just been added to the family, and all the old people in the family have to squeeze their nipples. They also said, "Give a girl a nipple and she won't get stuck when she grows up." The doctor clearly told me not to squeeze. Some stubborn old people promised not to squeeze on the surface, but secretly squeezed behind their backs, earnestly saying that it was good for their children. Nipples are very fragile and sensitive places, and it hurts for adults to pull, not to mention such a small child.
Many baby girls may be suffering from this "toxic" parenting experience. Improper operation is likely to squeeze the baby's delicate nipples, leading to bacterial infection, inflammation and even sepsis. There is absolutely no need to "torture" the baby girl. If someone in the family insists on milking the baby, mom and dad must say no to this behavior that hurts the baby. Scientific parenting is based on the opinions of doctors and professionals.
Cut off the "three hairs"-fetal hair, eyebrows and eyelashes
In this age of looking at face value, who doesn't want to have a baby with high face value at home. It is said that cutting fetal hair, eyebrows and eyelashes will make baby's hair thicker, eyebrows darker and eyelashes longer. None of this can be done in one cut, or it depends largely on genetic factors and nutritional factors.
Fetal hair: the fetal hair of a newborn child looks soft, thin and a little yellow. It feels like a lack of nutrition, so many parents are anxious to shave their babies. Fetal hair has a protective effect on newborns, because the baby's scalp is fragile at this time, and the fontanel needs more time to close. Fetal hair will fall off on its own in about 3-6 months, and the new hair is dark and dense.
Eyebrows: Whether the newborn's eyebrows are thick or not is mainly determined by the mother's genetic factors and pregnancy nutrition. Most of the baby's eyebrows will grow naturally as they grow up day by day. Parents should never shave their baby's eyebrows, because it is easy for adults to accidentally hurt their baby by shaving their eyebrows. If the skin is scratched, it is easy to cause bacterial infection, resulting in skin ulceration and scarring, which affects the appearance.
Eyelashes: The baby's eyelashes are designed to protect the eyes and protect them from dust and sunlight. Many mothers make up their minds to cut off their children's eyelashes in order to make them longer. Without the protection of eyelashes, their eyes are very fragile. If the baby refuses to cooperate during the operation, it may cause unnecessary trauma. Children's eyelashes grow more dependent on heredity, and it is obviously futile to change them simply by cutting eyelashes.
4. Touch your little ears.
In infancy, the baby's soft little ears have not been worn on the scalp. In order to make the baby's ears look more rounded, some parents touch them intentionally or unintentionally, hoping that the baby's ears look like a small ingot. The baby's auricle cartilage is very fragile, which is easy to cause ear cartilage damage and affect the baby's health.
There are many acupoints on the ear, so it is helpful to gently touch the baby often. This practice can only play the role of massage, and it has no effect on whether the baby's facial features are more beautiful.
5. Leggings are straight and long.
Old people often say: "In order to let the baby have two straight and long legs, leggings can prevent the baby from becoming a bowlegged." Tie such a small baby into a "big zongzi". This wrong experience has long been refuted by doctors. Many hospitals will give newborn fathers or other family members a knowledge popularization class for newborns.
The doctor will tell the baby's family not to force leggings, which will make the baby feel uncomfortable, so leggings will always be fixed in one posture, which is not conducive to the blood circulation and bone development of the baby's legs, and restrictions on the baby's limbs will often produce bad emotions. The scientific approach is to let the baby wear soft and comfortable clothes, and the limbs are not restricted.
1. Enlightenment education should not only rely on early education institutions.
Every parent has different motives for sending their children to early education institutions. Some hope that their children can have more fun, some hope to develop their intelligence, and some hope to exercise their emotional expression ability. Then, with so many early education institutions on the market, there are all kinds of ideas. Have you ever thought that the employees of these early education institutions really understand education? Many times, parents are always fooled more.
The best environment for children's enlightenment education is a warm family, and the best way is to be accompanied by parents. Parents spend the money and time saved on parent-child reading and parent-child games with their children. It is more beneficial for children to encourage them to master new skills every time they make progress.
Don't confuse early education with enlightenment education.
As children grow up day by day, many parents embark on the road of chicken baby. Preschool education enables parents to instill a lot of advanced knowledge into their children's minds. Children's songs, Tang poems, disciples' rules, Pinyin, English, addition and subtraction within 100, so that all children can learn, putting heavy learning burden on children too early, it is easy to cause children to be tired of learning, and even dull.
The purpose of enlightenment education is to establish a good parent-child relationship and then let children form good habits. Enlightenment education cannot be achieved overnight. Parents need to accompany them patiently, so that children can keep learning, keep in touch with new things and grow up. Only in this way can children's development in cognition, understanding, memory and emotion be promoted.
3. Ignore the child's physical maturity
Many parents will unconsciously compare their children with other people's children. From height, talking sooner or later, growing a tooth, when to walk, how many Tang poems and so on. In fact, parents need not worry too much. Children's physical and mental development is in order. The so-called flower has its period. Parents should respect the law of children's growth, and never ignore their physiological state and blindly compare with others, which is a burden to themselves and their children.
1. The child cried and didn't want to go to kindergarten.
The most difficult time passed, and I saw that my child was finally going to kindergarten. On the first day of school, the child excitedly followed the teacher into the classroom. The next day, the children began to stage the separation of mother and child. I cried when I got up in the morning, went into the park, ate and slept, which made my mother feel very distressed.
Method for relieve separation anxiety
First of all, prepare for entering the park in advance, so that children can learn basic self-care ability, and then prepare for kindergarten. For example, eat by yourself, dress by yourself, and urinate by yourself. It is also necessary to cooperate with the lunch break in kindergarten to cultivate children's nap habits.
Secondly, to understand the child's emotions, the child said, "Mom, I don't want to go to kindergarten." Don't treat children in a violent or threatening way. Squat down and look at the child positively, give him a big possession and encourage him to face it. Tell him you need to go to school and mom needs to go to work. Let's work together.
Finally, parents should restrain separation anxiety, because emotions are contagious. When children see their mother's anxiety, they will be infected, will collapse and will cry. After sending your child to kindergarten, resolutely leave and don't give the child a chance. After a long time, children can adapt to the new environment.
Children are always fighting and provoking in kindergarten.
After children go to kindergarten, they don't know how to get along well with them. They hit people when they don't want to. When they pick up children from school, they are often interviewed by teachers and other parents. I held back my anger and took the children to apologize to others. After several educations, the child still keeps hitting people. Gradually, the child alienated from other children, but the situation did not improve, and the old mother was angry and distressed.
When a child hits someone.
First of all, when children are always found hitting people, parents should gently tell him that this behavior is wrong. Never hurt children, let alone insult them with words. Children are not wicked, but they can't express their emotions. His behavior is instinctive.
Secondly, parents should control their emotions and help him analyze and guide from the child's point of view. When a child hits someone, we can say, "You must have been very angry, right? I can understand your feelings at that time, but even if you are angry, we can't hit people and reflect on our behavior. "
Finally, the child just went to kindergarten and didn't know how to get along with the child. We should give them time and comfort them gently, knowing that the contradiction between children will decrease with age. Mom and dad must deal with problems in a calm, peaceful and affectionate way.
Children are often bullied in kindergarten.
Kindergarten is a mini version of society. It's really that flowers are similar every year, and babies are different every year. Some children are lively, some are cheerful, some are naughty and some are introverted. For those shy children, they are easily bullied by other children, which makes many parents feel distressed.
Many children who are bullied on campus often feel inferior, shy and have poor communication skills. When children just go to kindergarten, they will take the initiative to ask for help. Parents should always communicate with their children if they are bullied. Parents should listen carefully to their children's voices and say that they are equally angry when they tell their children such things. Then tell him how to protect himself.
First of all, we must scare each other in momentum. Let the child put his hand on her hip and say bravely and firmly, "If you don't bully me again, I will hit you." Hearing such an angry and powerful voice, the beating child will soon calm down.
Secondly, children say such things, which will attract the attention of children and teachers. Teachers will help children solve conflicts, and other children will testify who provoked them to prevent bullying from happening again.
Finally, when children have the courage to say "no" and express their emotions, it can enhance their self-confidence. If children don't want to be bullied, they should cultivate their social skills. There are many friends. Once a child bullies him, his friends will stand up.
Parenting is to cultivate yourself, and don't worry about education.
This is an era of parents' educational anxiety. Being a new parent can be confusing. For example, if a child refuses to eat well, some people will say: You must get used to it, but you haven't developed good habits yet. When you go out, you always want toys. If you don't buy it, just lie on the ground and roll. Some people will say: I'm used to it. Xiong Haizi needs to fight. Many parents are criticized for raising their children. Especially those experienced aunts, always find fault with the poor performance of novice mothers. This will inevitably produce pressure.
There are no perfect parents or perfect children in the world. We are all parents for the first time, so we should leave room for ourselves and grow up with our children in the long years. We should thank our children. They make us better.