The mother's post has aroused widespread concern among netizens: Is the so-called punishment education of parents useful? In the opinion of early education experts, it is irrational for parents to choose to educate their children in a radical way, which will alarm their emotional system and make them more emotional. After a long time, this educational method will gradually fail, so it is better not to use it.
In the experience of some parents, patient persuasion is useless for children. For example, two children often quarrel about trifles. The boss always bullies the second child or grabs the toy of the second child. It is useless for parents to persuade the boss many times. Instead, occasionally use "force" to make the boss "honest" for a while. In this way, is it more useful to beat and scold children? Of course not.
First of all, whether it is punishment or abuse, it will make children feel scared or angry. For example, at the beginning of the article, the mother asked the child to stand up and reflect, but the child showed indifference. In fact, this shows that the child feels uncomfortable. He hopes to use all kinds of "illusions" to make parents mistakenly think that it is invalid. Next time, you'd better not punish yourself in this way. Secondly, let the child "yield" by beating and cursing, which hurts the child's sense of security. They are shrouded in fear for a long time, which has a negative impact on the healthy growth of body and mind. In the long run, if the fundamental problem is not solved, it will naturally have no effect. In fact, it takes some skill to punish children. As long as parents can master and use it, they can often get good results.
First, while punishing the child, we need to guide him to reflect on his mistakes. A child psychologist once did a similar experiment. He told a group of children: don't play with the socket, or you will be grounded. Say to another group of children: don't play with the socket, because it's a little bit. If you get an electric shock, it will worry me. As a result, the children in the second group were more obedient. This shows that only telling children where they are wrong will make them better reflect, which is more effective than a mindless beating and scolding.
Second, clarify the purpose of punishment. I believe many parents will often "punish" their children with sentences such as "You can't go out to play without packing your toys" and "You can't eat cold drinks without eating". This seems to be effective, but it actually blurs the purpose of punishment, and children will inevitably make mistakes again in the future. The correct way is that if children don't tidy up toys, parents should confiscate them; If the child doesn't eat, parents will punish him by not eating.
Finally, parents should have a correct attitude. If the child does something wrong, parents should be serious, hold the child's hand, let him look into his eyes, tell him clearly where the mistake is and tell him how to correct it. Only in this way can children form associations in their brains and stop themselves from making mistakes next time.