After all, Sa Beining's wife is Canadian, and this "Western" and "Chinese" parenting concept is hundreds of miles behind!
Sa Beining recalled that once, as soon as he got home, he saw the child licking his slippers, which scared him to run over and shout, "What's going on?"
I didn't expect my wife to say calmly, "I'm not wearing shoes outside, but slippers at home."
Let Sa Beining some can't accept it!
Sa Beining said: In their (wife's) culture, let a child fall. Sometimes he climbs to the ground and licks there for a while.
This concept is not only in Sa Beining, but in my opinion, all the audience including me should not accept it!
As Sa Beining said: Can I eat slippers at home?
However, according to the concept of parenting, Li Bai did nothing wrong. As early as nearly a hundred years ago, Ms. Montessori, an Italian preschool educator, put forward the concept of "sensitive period of children", including "sensitive period of mouth"
The "oral sensitive period" and "oral sensitive period" generally last from 2-4 months to 2 or 3 years old, and the most obvious is 7 or 8 months.
Features are very common. When children start eating and biting frequently, they have to put everything in their mouths to taste, which is the "oral sensitive period".
At this time, the child is sensing the hardness, taste, roughness, smoothness and other information of the object through the mouth, and establishing contact with the outside world through "biting" to gain a sense of security.
If parents don't let their children eat or bite, not only will the children's cognitive ability be slightly worse, but there will probably be remedial problems in the future, such as biting people, eating hands and biting pens.
So, if Montessori sees this video of Sa Beining spitting, it is estimated that she will say: Li Bai is right!
Moreover, American immunologist MaryRuebush believes that when children's own immune system is "awakened", it is necessary to expose children to appropriate antibodies to comfort the development of their immune system, so that children can gain resistance.
As the saying goes, "it's okay to eat unclean." It is good to let the child take a bite and chew on it under the condition that the items will not stab the child's mouth, slide into his throat and get proper cleaning.
If biting slippers and toys is really unacceptable, parents can also prepare some relatively clean items such as gutta percha and fruit strips with moderate hardness for their children to bite, but they must not restrain their normal "biting" needs.
Montessori's "sensitive period for children" means that children show great interest in something for a certain period of time, after which this interest will weaken.
To put it bluntly, it is actually a period of children's ability awakening and a window of opportunity for children to learn.
Like the "sensitive period of mathematics", children will be very interested in the concepts of mathematics and numbers, and the initial training of mathematics will be smooth. However, if you miss it, it will be difficult for children to improve their interest and understand mathematics quickly.
Therefore, Montessori believes that early education should be based on the theory of "children's sensitive period", find out what children are really interested in, and conduct comprehensive training with children as the leading factor.