First of all, I can't wake up no matter how I scream. There are 365 strange ways to keep my mother away from confusion.
Then even if I wake up, I will stick to the bed, the ground, anywhere I can lie down and refuse to get up, becoming an adhesive that can't be torn off.
It's hard to get up, wash your face, brush your teeth and get dressed, and every link may be delayed again and again. Finally, I was going out, and suddenly I said, "Mom, I want to go to the toilet!" " "All efforts to avoid being late will be wasted.
The most depressing thing is that he doesn't feel wrong himself, and this scene will continue to be staged the next day.
The most terrible thing is that when I look back, I suddenly find that I don't know when it started. The beautiful buds with swimming rings on our bellies that we laughed at as children have become us now! kneel down
"I will be you when I grow up."
In my article yesterday, I introduced the interesting picture book Three Little Monkeys, which described the "war" between parents and children, and the love that mothers felt despite blaming their children.
And my family's daily "war" begins with getting up. Since Guoguo started kindergarten, our contradiction has become more serious-how to get up on time and go to school on time.
What's the story? You can't wake a person who pretends to sleep. Sometimes, I really feel that the little guy is not awake, but deliberately lazy.
Take this morning for example. When I got up, I called her several times and opened her quilt. The curtain was half open. I didn't go to the toilet until she opened her eyes. But when I came back from washing, she was still tossing and turning in bed.
I called again, looked at the weather forecast and looked for the clothes she was wearing today. When I came back, she changed her posture and closed her eyes again. I called her, and she immediately opened her eyes and asked me, sober and logical: "Mom, why do we have a physical examination?" Today's kindergarten physical examination, I said no leave, no being late.
After taking off the fruit and putting it on, try to let her change clothes by herself. I walked away to do my own thing. Five minutes later, I heard my husband say, "Come on, let's go! We are going out, hurry up, shall we play now? "
I walked over and looked, hey, the clothes didn't move at all. She is lying on the shelf looking for a picture book to read! I said, "Why are you naked?" She deliberately said weakly, "I have no strength", knowing that it was coquetry and grinding me, but it was too late to talk nonsense and had to go into battle in person.
I know I'm not alone
Sending children to kindergarten in the morning is like a game without strategy. I don't know which link will suddenly lead to "Cheng". Thought "wake up" this is the most difficult, very not easy to wake up, but found that:
After "getting up" but not "washing"; I have passed the "washing"; But "dressing"; When I was getting through "dressing" but "wearing shoes", the big Boss "shit" suddenly appeared.
The trivial things that used to be a matter of course turned into institutional traps when the children went out, reminding me of "your children are so cute!" In Hehe, the English father said it.
In the cycle of physical and mental torture, my only comfort is that I can see all kinds of leave information in the kindergarten group every morning:
"Teacher, XX children got up late this morning, please leave us breakfast."
"Teacher, what happened to XX this morning? When will we arrive? "
Fortunately, I'm not alone.
How not to be late, the point is not to shout.
After children enter the park, how to get up, wash, dress, put on shoes and go out quickly like an assembly line every morning for half an hour to catch up with the breakfast in kindergarten has become a serious task for mothers.
If you are late for dinner, you will not only delay eating for a while, but you may have to re-prepare the schedule for the whole morning. It's enough trouble for a stay-at-home mom. If you are a working mother, you will also face the pressure of being late for work.
Last month, I was at the "Pet Parents' Effectiveness Training Workshop" in Beijing, and a mother complained about her predicament-the children dawdled in the morning and were late for work in the park. But if adults get angry with their children and make a scene after crying, it's no use. Children will hate going to kindergarten even more and refuse to go in the morning.
Don't want to be late to become "inertia"
In fact, the biggest impact of being late is still on children. Once you are late, you will miss the normal process and links of kindergarten. For example:
The other children have sat down to eat. We're late. We took off our coats, changed our shoes, washed our hands and drank water before we began to eat. Others have already washed their hands and done other things, and the child can only be alone.
Children themselves are under pressure, and eating is not practical. They may give up halfway and want to play with everyone. If you can't catch up with breakfast, wait until you eat, and there will be more poor links. Suddenly, children are often at a loss.
More importantly, I am worried that once "being late" becomes a habit, it will become more and more difficult to improve-over time, there is no good life law and discipline, I feel that nothing is important, and I lack the concept and attitude of "respecting time and others".
After thinking about this, I found that it is not so difficult not to be angry or yell at the children. Because, I don't want to win these minutes and seconds, but I want to help her establish good living habits. This is not something that can be solved in the morning, is it?
1. Early to bed and early to rise, start from yourself.
I used to get up early in the morning because I had to write a manuscript at night. So my husband decided to take the children to kindergarten in the morning, and I was responsible for picking them up in the afternoon.
But I soon discovered that Guoguo's biological clock depended on me. For example, if her husband calls her, she can turn a blind eye; But if I get up, although she dawdles, she will get up-I am the benchmark and role model for children.
Think about it, too. If parents have no discipline in their own lives, stay up late at night and stay up in the morning, how can they ask their children? Now that the child is still young, as she grows up, she will only see more clearly.
Therefore, I will try to go to bed early and move my writing time to the morning. This will not delay the work, but also try to ensure that the little guy sleeps after 9 pm and gets up before 7 am. Even on weekends, try not to violate the rules.
Although the sixth day is only two days, once the child's biological clock changes, it is equivalent to readjusting on Monday. It is not easy to adapt to Friday, and the weekend is coming again. This is not only half the effort, but also bad for the child's health.
2. Improve the sleeping environment and create conditions for getting up.
One thing, though unremarkable, I think is very useful, that is, replacing the curtains in the room where children sleep with thinner ones that can transmit light.
Some people are afraid of strong light when sleeping, and like dark bedrooms, so they hang sunglasses at home. My bedroom was originally dark curtains, which had better shading effect. But if the environment is too suitable for sleeping, children are reluctant to get up, especially in winter, and it is more difficult to get up late in the north.
Light-colored curtains have a certain transparency, which makes the room light up with the rising of the sun, which is very helpful to wake up the child's biological clock.
3, the process is fixed in the morning, let the children play while doing.
I don't usually do things for my child that she can take care of herself. But when I am late for kindergarten, I will feel "I will do it when I have time" and finish it quickly. After a long time, Guoguo also found out my temper and began to play tricks. Just like this morning, when I said "I am too weak to put on clothes", it was obviously my fault.
I shared the "toilet training form" with you when I wrote toilet training before, which can clearly tell children what steps to take to go to the toilet, which is easy to understand and better to complete, and will have a sense of accomplishment of "performing tasks".
This time, I decided to design a "wake-up training table" for my children, and draw all the procedures to be done in the morning and things that need to be taken out by myself on the table, so that the children can check after finishing one thing.
In this way, in the joy of the game, the child did everything he should do. You can also record the time of getting up and tidying up every day and encourage her to be faster today than yesterday.
When the painful experience of "getting up and going to kindergarten" becomes something to experience happiness, children naturally have more motivation to do it. The application of form can also cultivate children's self-care ability and independent consciousness, and achieve multiple purposes.
4. Prepare things in advance and reserve "unexpected" time.
I usually get up earlier than Guoguo. When she is still in bed, I will prepare clothes for her to go out today. Originally, I thought I had made full use of my time, but in retrospect, I was actually conniving at my child's "staying in bed". I gave her time and habits.
Therefore, I decided to change my practice. As long as I get up, I must wake her up completely and get out of bed together. As for the things to be prepared, you can actually prepare them the night before, which can greatly save the time in the morning.
In addition, at least 10 minutes of "blank" time should be reserved. What should I do? Specially used to deal with all kinds of "unexpected" situations. For example, clothes should be changed again when they are wet before going out, or they suddenly say they should stink when they are in the corridor.
Children are children, so it's normal to go out temporarily. Adults can't avoid leaving things behind and looking back temporarily, not to mention asking children to be as accurate as clocks and watches-that's not a child, it's Astro Boy.
So I think, instead of getting angry because of the sudden situation of the little guy, it is better to leave room for yourself in advance and make good plans.
Every child has his own rhythm, impatience and impatience. You can give yourself 1~2 weeks observation period, observe and evaluate the time your child needs in the morning, and appropriate encouragement methods, and then make a small plan and finish it together.
My girlfriend who was born earlier than me told me: "Kindergarten is the most worry-free. Think about going to elementary school and enjoy it! "
Although these methods don't sound as efficient as "yelling twice" now, the thought of yelling at me for being late at that time makes me think it's better to take it slow and establish the good habits of children.
Who will always be a beautiful bud!
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