Stay-at-home moms, have you ever been confused?
I've been in a trance lately. I always turn around suddenly and violently, and then I see a baby who is sleeping or playing for about 6 months. Suddenly a question came out, "Ah, whose child is this?" I actually gave birth to a baby [covering my face] ",and then I continued to accompany the baby and brainwashed myself. "Well, I was married and experienced pregnancy. Now that the baby is born, I want to treat the baby well and let him have a happy childhood, because the quality of childhood directly affects the child's life. Work is not important now. Put it aside for a while. Although the salary is not much, 20W is not as important as Eva, but I think it seems a bit difficult to return to the workplace in the future. What should I do? What shall we do? What shall I do? ".In this way, my mind has endless twists and turns, and sometimes I even feel sick.
Stay-at-home moms, do you feel tired and sleepy?
It's not easy for me to be a full-time mother for nearly half a year. Although watching the baby grow up, I am particularly pleased to fatten myself up, but it is also true that I am tired. The baby is still breastfeeding at night, and it is normal for me to feel sleepy every day. Psychology has always thought that "my baby is easy to take when it is older", but I don't want my baby to grow up quickly, because I didn't even need to be around at that time [tears]. It seems like dawn before going to bed every day, and people can't sleep well. It's really hard. But everything is for the baby. I can carry it no matter how sleepy or tired I am.
Stay-at-home moms, have you ever had postpartum depression?
Last June, 5438+10, I tossed for half a month and finally gave birth to a baby by caesarean section. I thought I was going to have a baby, but I went to Beijing Maternity Hospital for a check-up on June 10, considering that I was hospitalized with high blood pressure (only I knew I was scared, and my blood pressure soared every time I went to the hospital). After being hospitalized for half a month, I either listened to the screams of the parturient, or listened to the crying of the baby, or looked at the bloody books of the parturient who was pushed back. I'm already scared. Seeing this, I am even more afraid. During my hospitalization, Bei Maternity changed my ward four times (I don't know why I always changed it) and gave me magnesium sulfate, which made me collapse for days! Later, she was induced to labor near the due date. It was really painful, but the induced labor was unsuccessful, and I suffered a lot. On the fourth day, I asked the doctor to help me plan.
Bao Lei felt that suffering in the hospital was bad enough, and it was exciting enough to recall. Even passing by the maternity ward in North China would be creepy. Even more amazing, what I didn't expect was that the mother-in-law who looked good before marriage turned out to be a green tea bitch. She hurt me more than I experienced in the hospital, which I will never forget! It also caused me to be a little depressed.
It's almost six months since I gave birth, and I haven't recovered yet. It's mostly my mother-in-law's fault, not my complaint. I am a grateful person and I will repay her kindness, but she has gone too far. She is 50 years old. Before I got married, she offered to help with the children, but she said that she would do everything. What did she do? It's impossible for you to want to [hit your face]. If you are interested, you can tell me and I will come back later. She is really the source of my depression, and I don't want to mention [covering my face] at all. Her classic line is "This is your son, you have to hug him, you have to take him, who doesn't hug him …", I think I want to hug him by caesarean section! If I could hug, why didn't you tell me?
Stay-at-home moms, do you think 24 hours a day is not enough?
Mothers are great and always want to do more for their children. Where is the hard work of a stay-at-home mother? So what are you doing 24 hours a day?
First of all, the most basic nursing is necessary. Wash your face, bathe, touch and change clothes every day; Deal with shit and fart, diaper, cotton soft towel, cloud soft towel and buttock cream, all available. It's really the phrase that everyone said, "Pull the shit up slowly"; Housework is also to be done. You have to eat by the meal. If you don't eat, there will be no milk. The floor should also be mopped and the dust wiped, because the baby's living environment should be clean.
Secondly, early education and enlightenment should not lag behind. Take your baby to do early education while learning early education knowledge at home. English is very important, and many bilingual babies are especially envious, so make sure that I have time to listen to English songs and sharpen my ears every day. Play nursery rhymes and sing along, and I will become a soul dancer with my baby [red face]; In addition to English, we should also add some skills corresponding to a certain month's age in daily exercise, such as five months' practice of tracking the falling trajectory of objects, crawling practice, grasping practice and so on. There must be no shortage of picture books. I have read nearly 100 English picture books at present. When I see a picture book, I can listen quietly and intently. Children's toys practice touch, sound listening training and so on. ...
Finally, the baby feels insecure, so he needs me to accompany him even when he sleeps. He is sleeping now. I am writing an article. Just wake up when you move. Do you have any good ideas? I appreciate your help in pointing out one or two things.
Stay-at-home moms, do you feel that the gap with your husbands is getting bigger and bigger?
When I was four months old, I suddenly realized this. After I lost contact with the outside world for 4 months, I began to feel that the gap with my husband was getting bigger and bigger. I don't know why I have such an idea. I am particularly envious of the moment when I watch him go out to work every morning. I hope I can return to the workplace. Although I don't earn much, I can eat, drink and be merry for 20w a year. But looking at the baby in my arms and my mother-in-law who doesn't give her strange green tea, I can only take care of her at home full-time.
That's what people do. When I realize that the gap between myself and my husband is getting bigger and bigger, I will inevitably feel insecure, so I will try to save myself. I did do a lot of sideline work before, but because there was no pressure before, it was just for fun. But now I can't do it for fun, but work hard. My baby is almost 6 months old. From 4 months to now, in this more than a month's time, I will take care of my baby during the day and engage in sideline business when I sleep. This slowly restored my confidence. I think men can work to make money, and I'm not bad. Besides taking care of the baby, I can also do housework and study and have my own small business. Perfect [come on].
The road to struggle is always crowded. Recently, I slowly found my own way and slowly walked steadily. Man, once I have a goal, I will keep going. My goal is that my baby can walk and talk, my small career is booming, and I am no longer confused and depressed. Although I am a full-time mother, I won't be estranged from my husband again. I want to be an all-around mother with a baby in her left hand and a small business in her right hand. Although I am still tired and sleepy 24 hours a day, I will be positive and tired. Is valuable [China Zan] Jiwajiji himself will never give up [comparison].
Well, Eva woke up and just finished writing, just in time for a sunny day in the house. It's time to read a picture book to Eva.
PS: I was depressed at first, but finally I found it turned into a big chicken soup article [covering my face]. Attached is a photo of my son learning to be a baby chicken [comparison], and my mother * * * encourages [Rose].