Life is really scary everywhere.

Two days ago, I heard from a friend that her colleague's eldest brother was a daughter, and the second one gave birth to a daughter, and she was depressed. Lacrimosa all day in the month, it is estimated that there are not many steps from postpartum depression.

At first, I thought it was because I preferred sons to daughters, and now I gave my mother a big hug. As a result, within two days, reality slapped me. A colleague in our unit gave birth to a son in the first child and a son in the second child. As a result, the baby was born, and the mother didn't even want to see it or feed it. She played mobile phone every day this month.

Later, when asked, it turned out to be a daughter. She was photographed several times during pregnancy and gave birth to a son. I am disappointed and unhappy.

Is this world patriarchal again? This is really not the time for you to ask.

This is not to let go of the second child policy. In the future, two children in each family will be standard. Therefore, having two children has become a perfect model of the new era, and everyone wants to be such a living person.

Well, this wish really keeps pace with the times.

But this wish is a wish, and it is not necessary. Born unchanged, after all, they are all their own flesh and blood, aren't they? How can a mother be so cruel, just because she is not a son or a daughter, she doesn't care about her children?

There really is. This forest is very big, and there are really all kinds of wonderful things.

In such a mother's mind, there must be one thing that is particularly important, and that is to love to compare, whether she admits it or not. Caring for offspring is the instinct and nature of animals, and for higher animals such as humans, the only reason to be rude to children can only be to hinder their own interests. In other words, the birth of the second child made this person with both children completely collapse.

An invisible vanity may be more important than a tangible child. This contrast is really shocking.

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This comparison has always existed.

When I was a child, I often heard my parents say that when they were young, they paid attention to four big things when they got married, sewing machine, bicycle, watch and radio. If anyone can buy a good set, it must be an enviable thing. Later, these four pieces were gradually changed into color TV sets, refrigerators, washing machines and tape recorders. Nowadays, the necessary conditions for blind date have become hukou, house and car.

In Ode to Joy, Fan has dated countless times, and those who have no house or car don't even look at it. If Wang Baichuan hadn't borrowed his old classmate's identity, he wouldn't even appear in the camera.

In the era of the only child, parents are used to comparing one child. Than looks, than study, than study, than marriage. Now that the second child era has come, even the sex of the child has become the content of comparison, which is really funny.

But even funnier, there are always many people chasing these secular values. Apart from seemingly decent and vain, in fact, in the final analysis, I just want to prove my value through these * * * knowledge standards. But this just shows their inner emptiness and lack of confidence.

Those who love to keep up with the joneses must follow the crowd, while those who follow the crowd often don't know what they really want.

Just like when we first went to college, there was no class teacher and we didn't know what to do at once. So I watched people go to the club and I went to the club myself. Watching others go to practice, I have to go to the society myself; I also pretend to learn when I watch others take various certificates.

After becoming parents, these people treat themselves and their children the same way. They watched people go to early education, and they followed. If you watch others learn their specialties, you must sign up, even if the children don't like it. They never know how much the words "look at other people's children" will hurt their hearts.

Conformity is the simplest and most clumsy choice, because you give up thinking and paralyze your unique soul with a life that is no different from others. You think you can feel at ease, but in the end, conformity will only make you more anxious.

Don't try to cover up strategic laziness with tactical diligence. One day, you will either be exhausted by tactical diligence or killed by strategic laziness.

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People who love to compare with others will pay special attention to others' evaluation of themselves and then let themselves live in the eyes of others. But this is only a person's most complete failure and great sorrow.

Because when you can't meet other people's standards, you will be annoyed, just like those two mothers who don't care about their children. You put yourself in an uncontrollable state and let other people's comments affect your mood. Sad, sad.

But when you get to it? Do you think the ending will be happy?

All wet.

A friend said that she was proud to see her children performing on the stage, which attracted the audience's attention. She shed tears with excitement and vowed to love her children more. However, when I came home with a twisted face and saw him playing around in his chair, he was indifferent to his homework, study and even criticism of his teacher, my anger began to burn again.

Vanity is always the appearance, and no matter how gorgeous it is, it can't be all. Life is still a trivial part. However, when you put on that vanity coat and have to clean up the chicken feathers in that place, you will find that your unwillingness, disappointment and pain will be doubled.

When your expectations are infinitely raised by vanity, disappointment is the doomed ending. The only difference is that the higher you lift, the harder you fall.

Children are the continuation of your own life, the echo of your value, not the medium of comparison. Many parents don't understand that, in their view, many problems in their children are just the projection of their inner anxiety and dissatisfaction.

You want your child to be omnipotent and perfect, but you are full of smelly problems. What's even more frightening is that I don't know, and I still condescend to point at the children.

Comparison is the ugliest aspect of human nature. If you agree that parents should give their children the best things, then please don't let your ugly comparison bind that beautiful little life.

Every life has infinite possibilities at the beginning, but most children are confined to the same appearance by their parents' comparison. Those parents satisfy their selfishness by killing their children's uniqueness and forcing them to follow the crowd. They use their ugliness to delimit the ceiling of the child, but they are still dreaming of the child.

Don't touch the child!

Back to the initial heart of parents, the health and happiness of children is the most important thing. As for whether TA is male or female, tall or short, and whether learning is good or bad, parents are asking for trouble.

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