Encourage children's compassion.

Personal experience is very important for children to care about others. Some emotional intelligence skills in understanding, especially interpersonal relationships, can only be effectively developed in the emotional brain through personal experience and experience.

Although the logical ability in language and thinking is very important to cultivate children's values, they can't shape children's behavior. Only by making children care about others and have a sense of pride and belonging can this task be completed.

Honesty and integrity

Honesty and integrity are indispensable good qualities, so children should be educated to have these two qualities from an early age, and they should always be required. As children get older, their understanding of honesty will change, but the standard should not change at all.

When a child is very young, you can enjoy some books and TV programs with him, play trust-building games, learn about the changes in children's secret content, and seize the opportunity to discuss honesty and morality with them.

Cultivate negative moral feelings

Shame and guilt are not bad emotions. As long as they are used properly, they help to cultivate moral children.

How to use shame and guilt properly depends on the child's personality, but their proper use can make the whole family a new whole.

Emotional intelligence thinking skills

Look at and think realistically.

Looking at and thinking realistically is the opposite of self-deception.

Positive stories are the best way to cultivate children's realistic thinking ability, whether you make them up yourself or read them from the bookshelf.

If you can think about your own problems realistically, your children will certainly learn this skill. Don't hide the truth from children, even if it is extremely painful.

Cultivate children's optimism.

Children should develop an optimistic personality, so as to cope with mental and physical diseases such as depression more effectively.

Only by thinking realistically and experiencing challenges suitable for your age can you develop an optimistic character.

Parents must be optimistic when getting along with their children. Children learn most easily from their parents' words and deeds.

Help children change their behavior.

Children over the age of 6 can talk to themselves and act as coaches, which can expand their attention span and improve their ability.

To make soliloquy effective, we must strengthen training repeatedly and make it a part of children's thoughts and behaviors.

You can choose a specific image method to guide children to deal with physical and mental pain.

The sooner children learn these skills, the more effective they will be.

Repetition is very important for children to master these skills, so they should participate with full enthusiasm and make boring work interesting.

Cultivate children's ability to solve problems by themselves

Teach children to solve problems through examples.

Children can learn to solve problems through their own experiences. So parents should give them problems, let them solve them themselves, and don't always interfere.

Show problem-solving skills in front of children through family meetings, thus creating a problem-solving atmosphere in the family.

Language for teaching children to solve problems.

After the child is 4 years old, you can teach him to use problem-solving language.

Start with simple word games and then use these simple words to solve children's problems. For example, teach children to say "just like this" or "just like that" and "should" and "can".

Problem-solving method training

After children enter school, they can learn how to solve problems in many ways.

When children reach the age of eight or nine, they can weigh the advantages and disadvantages of various schemes and choose the best one.

Focusing on solutions rather than problems will help children overcome obstacles.

Older children need to establish a supportive relationship with their parents, who need to help them solve more problems. But it can only serve as a scaffold and provide a framework for them to solve problems, and it must not interfere.

Cultivate children's social skills

Teach children to master speaking skills.

Social skills can be learned.

Conversation skills can help children get social admission tickets, thus preparing them for social integration in advance.

Speaking skills include introducing yourself, asking others, expressing your interests and accepting others.

Give children the source of happiness-sense of humor and pleasure

Humor is a magic weapon for doing things and a panacea for healing wounds.

Although children's ability to tell jokes and make others laugh varies from person to person, every child has the ability to appreciate humor.

Humor has different functions at different ages, but it helps to get along with people and deal with a series of problems from beginning to end in a person's life. So, learn to be humorous.

Teach children the skills of making friends.

Making friends with children is not only as simple as having a playmate, but also lays a good foundation for him to enter the society in the future.

Although adults can't force children to get along with others, they can tell him the important role of friends in his life with examples.

Make sure that children have the opportunity to master dating skills suitable for their age.

Let the children play a role in the group

Getting along with peers and groups is an important step in children's development, which will affect children's interpersonal relationships when they enter adolescence and adulthood.

Although you can't force your child to get along with others, you can tell him the importance of friends in life by setting an example.

Ensure that children have the opportunity to get along with peers of similar age and similar interests, and let children master the skills of getting along with peers.

Tell children that it is important to be polite.

Civilization of children's behavior is very important. Children's behavior is the standard by which others evaluate them. Only parents can cultivate children's good behavior.

Politeness is a simple and easy-to-learn skill, which has a far-reaching impact on children's future success.

Self-motivation is part of success

Hope of success

Facts have proved that the more parents have hope and confidence in their children, the higher their expectations will be, which is undoubtedly very beneficial to their growth. Therefore, parents should ask their children to study hard, spend more time doing homework, doing housework, reading books and understanding the outside world.

Provide children with opportunities to master all aspects of their own learning.

Teach children how to allocate time and make rational use of time.

If the child does not reach the level commensurate with his ability after school, he should cooperate with the teacher to break down the child's learning task into many small steps. Let children have a say in setting goals and measuring progress. And educate and help them through art, music and field trips.

Don't blame the school for not doing enough. Parents should spend more time on their children's education.

Teach children computers, which can provide them with endless learning opportunities.

Perseverance, perseverance

Most children misunderstand the concepts of hard work and ability, mistakenly thinking that only people with strong ability have more chances to succeed, and hard work is useless. This development and change should be compensated by parents, who can cultivate their children's perseverance.

The ability to manage time is an important part of emotional intelligence, which will benefit children for life. It's never too early to teach children these skills.

Hobbies contain the dual characteristics of fun and learning, which is also a unique way to cultivate diligent learning character.

Face up to difficulties and overcome them

When a child reaches the age of thirteen or fourteen, his ability is very weak, and he will regard his ability as the decisive factor of success, so he will try his best to show himself (even if he looks stupid) in order not to be regarded as a loser.

Children should be taught to focus on efforts rather than results to make up for the above shortcomings in the development process.

Teach children that success is based on failure.

Help children get a sense of success in group cooperation, rather than being satisfied with personal achievements.

Emotional ability

Consciousness and expression of emotion

Parents should always pay attention to their children's emotional changes and let them express their emotional needs, which is of great benefit to their physical and mental health. Teach children the skills of active listening and help them develop beneficial emotional relationships.

Master the skills of language communication

Teach children to read nonverbal emotions so that they can understand every detail of emotional communication.

Emotional communication needs to know others and their own language style, such as posture, body language, facial expression, tone and so on.

Emotional communication also includes the way people speak. Some children are lacking in this respect and need help to understand the emotions expressed by tone and speed of speech.

Emotional control

Children should learn to control their emotions, especially anger and aggression.

In particular, children are good at fighting in games, which is easy to breed children's impatient temperament. It is necessary to control children's games and let their temperament develop healthily.

Fortunately, there are many ways to stimulate the thinking part of the brain to help children suppress anger.

Conflict resolution skills through negotiation and mediation should be part of children's education.

Treat mental trauma

The therapeutic power of the brain has not been developed to a large extent.

Studies have shown that children can master various mental and physical therapies by stimulating specific biochemical substances produced by the brain.

Creating a good lifestyle for children and strengthening their immune system are good for children now and in the future.

Computer and EQ

Using software to improve emotional intelligence

Software can stimulate the activities of emotional and thinking parts of the brain, thus teaching children many emotional intelligence skills.

Software is very attractive to children and has the advantage of repetition, so it plays an important role in teaching children emotional intelligence skills.

More and more software that encourages creativity and realistic thinking can cultivate children's values, make them feel immersive and improve their ability to deal with various practical problems.

World children's computer emotional quotient

Internet and cable TV services have opened up new fields for children's learning and communication. The development of modern science and technology has not isolated children, on the contrary, it has broken the boundaries between region and prejudice, thus connecting children all over the world.

Although the computer is dangerous to children and parents should supervise it, its advantages far outweigh the problems it brings.

The biggest danger for children is that they are not exposed to problems, but are left behind by new technology.