In fact, careful mothers will find that children are very orderly, especially after entering the sensitive period. At this time, if parents can give good guidance, it is easy to cultivate a good baby who is polite, organized and has good living habits.
Children around the age of 2 are interested in the orientation of household items, the order of doing things, and the actions of adults. Even when they are fascinated by actions, sometimes adults will follow them immediately (this is a very good opportunity to educate their babies about good order, but unfortunately many adults will refuse such exercises for various reasons).
First of all, carefully observe and experience the child's sense of order. In the process of educating children, we must grasp a principle, and any problem should be considered from the perspective of children. Children grow up from ignorance, and he can't fully understand the objects and social relations established by adults. We need to teach our children all the rules, usage and social etiquette. They have their own way of thinking, and they must have their own reasons for doing things.
Once when I went out, I urged Ding Ding to "put on his shoes" and put them away, but he ran away. I shouted and ignored me. He controlled his temper and said, Tintin, here are the shoes. Keep the change. He mumbled "stool stool". Oh, it turns out that he has to sit on a stool to wear shoes. I forgot! He believes that you must sit on a stool before wearing shoes. We will find that many things are like this. The first time we helped the baby, the order was remembered by the baby, and he will definitely do it in the future. After he finished wearing shoes, I said, you go first, and my mother took off her mobile phone and came out immediately. I found him standing at the door waiting for me, pointing to my shoes and saying, "Mom wears shoes"! Maybe mom doesn't wear shoes, so he can't go to his next step: going out.
For example, when washing hands, he has his own program. Once I thought his hands were clean, so I washed them with water and said, "OK!" " He shook his head and said, "No, no". I said, "It's already very clean. Just rinse it without soap." He still shook his head and must wash it with soap. He was about to cry. (I immediately changed my mind. Sometimes giving soap is easy to confuse the baby's thinking, but it is not conducive to the child's clear thinking. So I patiently repeated the steps of washing my hands and washed them with soap. As a result, he ran to play happily.
There are many such examples. For example, he insists on making milk powder himself now, and then sits on the sofa and waits for me to make it. Once, he burst into tears, but refused to sit on the sofa. I thought about it carefully and observed what was wrong. I can't tell, so I keep asking Tintin. He pointed at the lid with a bitter face. It turned out to be the lid of milk powder, which was half covered (I thought there was not enough milk powder, so I covered it when he left), which did not conform to his working procedures and disrupted his order. In life, a careful mother will certainly find many such examples.
You can also try to observe the baby. Every baby must have his own sense of order about things (but this sense of order may not necessarily conform to the ideas of adults. Ding Ding, since I was a child, I have paid special attention to cultivating his understanding of the rules of our life and always guided him, so there are few unreasonable sequential thinking, I hope I can discuss it with all mothers, especially when the baby suddenly loses his temper or suddenly becomes awkward. Maybe you should think it over. Can I help you?
Do you find a common feature in these children's sense of order? It is this sense of order that almost all babies draw conclusions by observing themselves, and we rarely ask them to do it or force them to do it. Almost all the children are watching while we are doing it. Therefore, in parenting, we should also learn to appreciate the details of life and try to share our experiences with our children. Before we can take care of ourselves completely, children always show great interest in our adults' behavior and observe many details that we have not noticed ourselves, so we must pay attention to our daily behavior, and you must first do what you want your children to be. Of course, when we grow up, it won't bother us so much. So we should also cherish this wonderful time.
After a period of observation, you can gradually master the law of your baby's sense of order. We should try not to disobey the baby's orders, and we should seriously correct any mistakes. For example, Tintin immediately ran to the sofa to sit and wait after pouring milk powder. Now I added an item to him in the middle, that is, put the milk powder can back to its original position. He mastered it quickly and found it interesting. Every time he finished drinking, he was very happy and came to wait for me to make milk powder for him to drink. In addition, when changing the baby's sense of order, don't break the overall sense of order. You can reduce or increase one or two steps first, or change one of them. The living habits at home should also try not to change frequently, which makes the baby's sense of order at a loss.
We should be very careful with the child and protect his or her mind like a priceless treasure.
So, how to cultivate a sense of order to guide the baby?
First of all, we should arrange an environment suitable for the baby to form a good sense of order. Articles should be placed in a position suitable for children to take freely. Children's practical items should be as small as possible, such as tables, chairs, bookshelves, etc. , convenient for baby to use, and put it back in time after use. All kinds of articles have relatively fixed placement positions. If you can do it, you can get something with your eyes closed, that's the best. ) After using it, you have the habit of returning to your place in time.
Secondly, when educating your baby, you should relax naturally, and don't deliberately raise the volume to exaggerate the action, which is an underestimate of your baby's intelligence. (Now I see that some early education institutions are like this. Overexaggerating one's movements and language may give the baby bad stimulation. If we see the baby paying attention to our movements, we can do it slowly to make the baby see more clearly, but don't exaggerate. We can talk to the baby at a normal speed and make the baby feel that everything is natural. Then when we do the same thing again in the future, we should try to keep the same order. We don't have to be strict with everything, but we can guarantee it in general. For example, say goodbye before going out and say thank you when you are done (once I finished outside and gave Ding Ding water to drink, Ding Ding said thank you, and the mother next to me opened her mouth in surprise. It's just a habit. Say hello when you see it, wash your hands before eating and so on.
Finally, be careful not to let the baby lose happiness to maintain a sense of order. It is the most important thing to make children happy in parenting. Children's sense of order is born, not forced by us. The best we can do as parents is to help them and create good conditions for them. But don't let the baby be bound.
I often make mistakes myself. For example, once a friend came to play at home, Tintin was painting and another child was playing with a car. He was attracted by the sound, and the smiling one tried to run to play, but I stopped him by mistake and asked him to put away the crayons and play again (he did, but he was far less happy). Although he completely forgot after playing for a while and became very happy, I still regret (if he often does this) that I will weigh the sense of order and happiness in the future, and I will choose to make the baby happy and cultivate concentration.
Also, because children's thinking is very active, sometimes they may do things out of their own order, so we should learn to allow. For example, Tintin is sometimes very polite, greeting his aunt, uncle, goodbye, thank you and so on. Sometimes he stops yelling or doesn't follow this rule. Be tolerant and don't force children. Children have their own ideas, such as being in a bad mood, such as not liking this aunt, being unfamiliar, or being sleepy. You can wait until you get home to tell your baby what is right and what is wrong. Never scold a child in front of others. Children have self-esteem and need respect.
In short, trust children, children who have done nothing wrong, only parents who have taught them wrong. If we cultivate a sense of order and make our children happy, we will always choose the latter.