But please be clear, what does the child need in this question?
As far as I know, China citizens 18 years old can become conscripts. Conscripts can be discharged after serving for two years.
After the expiration of service, conscripts can be converted into volunteers according to the needs of the troops and their own wishes. Volunteers are professional soldiers and get paid by signing contracts. In other words, it is equivalent to a job. You can decide whether to renew this job according to your own needs.
In view of the fact that conscripts are generally young, my first thought is that the son of this subject actually has a choice, not that the army will not turn without him.
When you become a family, you should consider your wife and children. If you can't change jobs for the time being, you should also make some plans and meet your wife and children often. Instead of throwing his wife and children to his mother.
The mother-in-law took the place of her son and took care of the children. If the son of this family, that is, the father of the child, is here, and the father takes care of the child more, is there any problem? Is it necessary for dad to ask everyone what to do if their wives don't have children?
Indeed, children may be unlucky to meet such a family.
The daughter-in-law in this topic is really not the "mom and mom" that everyone is used to. Everyone thinks that a mother should be strong, hardworking, forbearing and loving her children. Everyone can blame her for saying that if you don't like children, you don't want children!
Just because a teacher is a job doesn't necessarily mean that you like children very much. Love for children has nothing to do with occupation and education.
Everyone has been a person for decades, and there are many things in life that are helpless. Who doesn't work hard Maybe the mother doesn't love her children, maybe it's a marriage without love and affection at all, or maybe something made her angry with her children? How complicated marriage is, how can my mother-in-law let everyone find the answer in one sentence?
The most qualified person to solve the problem is the father of this son and child in the army.
If he doesn't stand up, he doesn't care about the children. Will the mother-in-law quarrel with her daughter-in-law? Did the daughter-in-law marry her mother-in-law?
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Personally, I think it is best for the mother to take care of the children.
Tell a true story.
A girl beside me gave birth to a son at the age of eighteen. Because she is quite young, her mother-in-law doesn't trust her to take it alone, so she helps. This has become a big problem.
Mother-in-law won't talk about it, and she takes care of the children alone during the day and night. The girl's attitude towards her children is also unacceptable to her mother-in-law. For children under three years old, preaching is the main way to make mistakes. Girls are not. Once a child makes a mistake, he often scolds, fights and always shows impatience.
My mother-in-law can only feel sorry for her grandson. She will spread this harmless mother, and at most she will spit it out with others.
Once everyone chatted after dinner, and someone asked the girl, don't you feel bad about hitting the child? The girl smiled and said that if the heart doesn't hurt, it will hurt.
It is really doubtful whether girls have maternal love!
Later, the eldest son went to kindergarten and the youngest daughter was born. My mother-in-law learned the last lesson, and no matter what reason my daughter-in-law found, she no longer took her little granddaughter all day.
The girl was angry with her mother-in-law for a while. She looked at the crying child and cried with her. Slowly, she got used to and liked taking care of her little daughter. Seeing her little daughter crying, she stopped threatening to start work and learned to be patient.
Today, the youngest daughter is also in kindergarten.
Girls love their little girls so much that they take them everywhere. Even if a child makes a mistake, he can be reasonable and never do anything, just the opposite of treating his son.
Sometimes, the mother-in-law can't see that her daughter-in-law is unfair to her grandson and advises her daughter-in-law to be fair to her children. The girl smiled and said, let's each hurt one, or we will continue to favor our daughter.
Although, in life, girls will buy the same toys and cook the same delicious meals to satisfy the wishes of their two children. Doing everything a good mother should do, but the girl admits that she doesn't know the reason why she didn't take care of her. She really doesn't like her son.
Motherly love is born, but it just needs to be activated! Many mothers really don't love their children before taking care of them. This is not a case.
Children, a creature, are often brought with them to fall in love, so it is necessary for mothers to take care of their children personally if possible. My mother-in-law can do some trivial things if she wants to help.
Nowadays, there is really nothing to say. I don't want to bring my own children, and I use the excuse that children under three have no memory. This is really speechless.
You can ask your son to take time off to visit relatives, come back from the army, discuss with his daughter-in-law, and then face to face with the family to solve the problem together.
I remember when the child was born, all the old people in the family lived with us. I am willing and eager to take care of my children when I am old. However, the daughter-in-law is always clamoring to bring her own children. She always said that raising children by herself is better, more obedient and more sensible than raising children by grandparents.
I am very supportive of my wife. So, although the old man was very unhappy at that time, I tried my best to persuade the old man to support his wife to take care of the children alone.
Finally, our children are really brought up by their wives. As a result, as my daughter-in-law said at the beginning, it is really completely different to bring up children alone.
Really not so delicate, not so unreasonable, and obviously obedient and sensible. Although the child is not excellent in all aspects, the overall feeling is still very good and great.
Aunt, that only shows that your son is not doing well. If there is not enough love support for military marriage, family life will be unhappy. Daughter-in-law doesn't love children enough, which also shows that she doesn't have enough love and spiritual attachment to your son, so she is indifferent to children. I suggest that your son often contact his caring daughter-in-law, because the children are innocent, and when they are three years old, they are attached to their mothers, so don't let them be left behind.
Each child has no memory within three years old, which is a bit biased. Nowadays, due to the care of pregnant mothers, the brain development of infants and young children is very sound and their intelligence level is generally improved. I think babies gradually have memories after they are 2 years old.
My son, my boss was just two years old when I was pregnant with a second child. When he was two and a half years old, I sent him to my mother's kindergarten and my parents helped me pick him up. She remembers everything about grandma's kindergarten.
One by one, my grandson is also a little over two years old. In order to cultivate him to adapt to the kindergarten environment as soon as possible, he was sent to a private kindergarten first, and then officially entered a regular kindergarten when he was two and a half years old. Sun Tzu also knows his private kindergarten. It can be said that children have memories of the time.
As a people's teacher, it is better to take care of children by yourself. Don't make any excuses. Mother and child are connected, and children are sensitive to maternal love. A mother is a child's first teacher, who can carry out early education and language exchange.
You communicate well with your lover and make sense. A mother will be responsible for her children.
This daughter-in-law has no knowledge. Let her attend Li Meijin's lecture. 0 to 3 years old is the most important time to establish an attachment relationship. Making money at this time is a trivial matter.
Such a mother, even if the child has a memory, may not be of much benefit to the child.
Just an excuse not to take care of the children.
Children need company.
Maybe the baby mother is in poor health first, then she is depressed, and her husband is not around, so she may be in a bad mood.
As a person who has a memory before he was three years old, I can tell you for sure that it was just an excuse to be lazy with the baby. When I was one year old, I couldn't walk steadily, so I can still remember. When I was a child, my father refused to admit it. Later, my mother told me that it would be a little biased. For example, the entrance to the Cultural Palace was written as the entrance to the park, but I probably remember it.