Zhou Xiao is a post-90s generation and an only child. Neither she nor her husband is willing to give up their jobs after marriage. Considering that I have to raise four old people in the future, the current economic situation is not enough to pay for the future expenses, so I want to struggle for a few more years to regenerate my baby. However, the old people at home can't wait, urging them to have a baby every day, and even directly buying "tonic" for Zhou Xiao, which makes her laugh and cry.
After three years of marriage, Zhou Xiao still has no children. Some time ago, my mother-in-law couldn't help it, and directly called Zhou Xiao and her husband unfilial! But the reality is that Zhou Xiao's in-laws have worked in the countryside all their lives and have no retirement salary or other sufficient savings.
Although Zhou Xiao's parents have retirement wages, their income is meager. The young couple just bought a house and want to pay the mortgage. Under such circumstances, they really dare not have children at will.
Zhou Xiao believes that since you have children, you should be responsible for their life. If you can't give your child the best, you might as well not. This sentence made my mother-in-law very angry. Is it necessary to consider so many things when giving birth?
Nowadays, young people's ideas are not so traditional, and some people make fun of themselves. Not having children is the biggest responsibility I can bear! In fact, there are difficulties behind this. Most post-80s and post-90s are reluctant to have children, which is actually caused by the big environment.
1, unable to afford the children's expenses.
Different from the past, today's children are faced with a lot of expenses as soon as they land, including milk powder, diapers, all kinds of nursing supplies, early education in the later stage, later study, marriage and childbirth. Some people have calculated an account to raise a child to graduate from college, at least more than one million. This expenditure is undoubtedly a heavy burden for young people with unstable income and car loans.
I don't want to lose my life.
In the eyes of the older generation, having children is an obligation, and I don't feel that my life is lacking because of having children. But contemporary young people have more ideas. In addition to real life, they also need poetry and distance. After giving birth to a child, it is destined to be surrounded by the child's milk powder diapers, and there will be no freedom in the next decade. Some couples attach great importance to spiritual enjoyment and don't want to lose their lives, so they choose Dink.
I'm afraid I can't educate my children well.
With the improvement of people's comprehensive quality, people think more and more about having children. Even with abundant material resources, many young couples are still afraid to have children. Especially those introverted people are always worried that they can't give their children a sound life and don't want them to face the complicated social environment. The reason is because I am worried that I can't educate my children well and give them a good life.
Having children is not a necessary topic in life. In fact, there are many more important things to do in a person's life, and there are more choices waiting for you. Whether or not to have children should be decided according to their own situation, so that both husband and wife can reach an understanding and avoid regrets in the future!