What are the four basic elements of successful talents? 1, IQ is IQ, which is what we usually call intelligence. IQ is a comprehensive quality including people's attention, observation, memory, thinking and imagination. Attention is the degree of attention to one thing, and it is whether the child is focused. IQ is the recognition of the comprehensive level of attention, observation, thinking, memory and imagination, and it is the first element of successful talents. 2, EQ is EQ, EQ or EQ. Among them, five words are the most critical: confidant, self-discipline, self-interest, knowing people and understanding people. A bosom friend is a correct understanding of oneself. It is very important for a person and a child to have a correct understanding and evaluation of themselves. Self-discipline is to be strict with yourself. Self-interest is whether to pay attention to the factors that are beneficial to your own development. Knowing people is the understanding and knowledge of others and people who are not in contact with themselves. Harmony means living in harmony with others. These five words are the key factors of emotional intelligence, but they are actually non-intellectual factors. 3.AQ is an adversity quotient. This is about people's will quality, whether they have perseverance, courage and persistence, whether they can persist in doing one thing, especially when facing difficulties, whether they can face themselves, whether they have the courage to overcome difficulties or whether they are easily knocked down by difficulties. 4.CQ is to create intelligence. Whether children have creativity since childhood, including whether they have creative consciousness, that is, they want to create, innovate and do things that others can't, whether they have creative thinking, that is, they are agile, witty and able to come up with new ideas, and whether they have creative personality traits, that is, they have ideals, ambitions and sense of responsibility. People who have no ambitions and ideals are certainly not creative, and it is impossible to be a monk who is full and looks forward to dark and clinks the bell all day. Finally, you need to have creative skills. Creative skills are to be learned, that is, whether you can create.
I didn't study the above four contents, but after a teacher in Tsinghua told me, I summarized them according to the research results of some experts in Europe and America.
What is your child's IQ? Normal intelligence and successful personality. From primary school, as long as the children who can keep up with them have normal intelligence, whether they can become talents depends on their personality and quality. If you think about it carefully, if you have these four factors and advantages, you will definitely become useful. Whether you have talent or not should be measured from these four aspects. Adversity IQ is different, especially creative IQ. Everyone has this problem, including me. I am 66 years old and employed as a teacher. I often measure myself. Although I am old, I always want to do something creative. I get up at five o'clock every day to collect information on the internet, and I have to collect information and read books every day when I have time. There are also older comrades present here, and they also want to do something here to attend classes. A person's mind is a waste of money, and it will become stupid if it is not used.
What is intelligence? It is a comprehensive level. Nowadays, people value one of their abilities, such as good memory, but good memory does not mean high overall level, high comprehensive level of attention, observation and imagination, so light memory is not good. There used to be a saying that "so-and-so is a bookcase with two legs". There are many things in my head, but I can't use them, so I have a bad memory. The core is thinking ability, that is, whether you can think about problems and whether you are good at coming up with ideas to solve problems. This is the core of intelligence, such as arithmetic. It is very important to be able to solve problems. Second, the relationship between intellectual development and knowledge learning. Before children go to primary school, intelligence has developed to about 70% of all intelligence, that is, it has developed here at the age of seven, and the other 30% has developed in primary schools, middle schools and even universities. However, the knowledge learned from primary school has multiplied, so intellectual development is related to knowledge learning, but intellectual development and knowledge learned are not the same thing. I want to tell you that intellectual development is related to learning, but it is not the same thing. 90% of students study after primary school, but their intelligence is only 30%. Therefore, early intelligence is very important. Children begin to learn intelligence at the age of four or five or even earlier, and it will be better if they have basic learning. Intelligence is an important condition for learning, but it is not the only condition. What is needed is non-intellectual factors.
What are the basic factors that determine a child's learning quality? 1, intelligence level. 2. Non-intelligence level. I talked about what intelligence includes. Let's talk about what non-intelligence factors include: motivation (what do you want to do, whether you want to do it), interest (whether you are interested in doing it), temperament type, emotion, will quality and personality.
The most important thing is personality. What kind of personality do you have? The core of personality is will and self-control, and then interest. Only by ensuring the pursuit and development of interest with the quality of will can we develop in the ideal direction. Under the non-intelligence factors, I listed two more important factors, which determine your development and your child's learning level. Many children are not bad in intelligence and are in a smarter state than others. The reasons are non-intellectual factors and poor self-control. If children want to develop well, they will never catch non-intellectual factors. The coordinated development of intellectual factors and non-intellectual factors is the basic guarantee for their success. The poor learning level of most children in our country is not an intellectual problem, but a non-intellectual factor problem, that is, whether they have self-control, ambition and good habits. If you think about it carefully, children who are responsible, ambitious, well-used and responsible learn well, but many parents don't find this. It is a misunderstanding to focus only on learning. If children are cultivated to have ambition and self-control, the situation will be different. Let me tell you a simple story. A professor did an experiment. In front of twenty one-year-old and two-year-old children in kindergarten, the professor took a bag of candy and gave each child a piece of candy. He told the children that he would go out to do business after giving candy, and then give him another piece when he came back without eating candy. Children listen carefully. The professor gave each child a piece of candy and went out. What will happen to these children? As soon as the professor left, some children's candy had already entered their stomachs. Some children peeled it and wanted to eat it, but they put it down again. Some children did not move and did not look at anything else at all. These three kinds of children reflect the different educational methods of their parents. After the professor came back, all the children who didn't eat candy gave a candy and recorded the situation. Thirty years later, these children were found. At that time, most of the children who ate sugar immediately lost hope were like this. Those who don't eat sugar, especially those who don't peel sugar, have a very high success rate because he has self-control, but he can control himself when he is young. This is a non-intellectual factor. Why do some children eat candy on the spot? Because these children give whatever they want at home immediately, they have never delayed satisfaction training. Now my little grandson is in primary school and comes back from Canada. Eating, drinking, Lazarus, doing anything is not to satisfy him immediately. Keep him waiting and train him to control himself while waiting. A friend of mine said that when I went to a Japanese kindergarten, my aunt wouldn't let me eat it after eating, but she announced that she would eat it after eating. Waiting for more than ten or eight minutes is delaying training, but some of our parents can't do it. How important are non-intellectual factors? At the beginning of the 20th century, a professor conducted a large-scale follow-up survey of 1500 children with high IQ for 30 years. The results show that there is no difference in their intelligence level, and the difference is due to non-intelligence factors. Those who succeed are those who are confident, idealistic and persistent. These things tell us a truth: non-intellectual factors are very important. There is an excellent student in a department in Tsinghua University. His intelligence is 6 in the personality test, and he will pass it soon. Other students' intelligence is 9, 10. Why is he admitted to Tsinghua and still an excellent student? Conclusion Non-intelligence factors promote the development of wisdom and potential. The first story is a big investigation, and the second story is a student in Tsinghua University. These are all true stories. What are the main factors that affect children's intellectual development and academic performance in the family? I told a couplet on TV, probably handed down from the Ming Dynasty. Loyalty has been a family heirloom for a long time, and a female directors asked me what happened. Loyalty is about a family with good character, which takes a long time to remember when studying. Three weeks ago, I went to my hometown Guanghan, Sichuan, and set up a park in Guanghan, Sichuan. I saw my ancestral home, which is a couplet hanging in the middle hall. There are two different words. The couplet hung in the ancestral home of the comrades is "De Jia Jiu An, the secretary likes to be a secretary." The moral level and intelligence level of your family have a direct impact on children, which has been the case since ancient times. Third, the intellectual environment of the family. 1, the intellectual environment of the family. What conditions should be created? What is the level of parents' own intellectual activities? Do parents like to use their brains? How well parents use their brains is very important. I met a teacher who told the story of a child who went from primary school to junior high school. He found that the child looks smart, good at math and acceptable in Chinese, but there are always problems with his composition, and he can't write half a sentence in the end. I studied with him and said that I would study Children's Home's intellectual environment. My teacher and I went to the students' home. The child's parents are German military attache and his wife. They are graduates of a famous university. His grandmother takes care of him in good condition. We talked with his grandmother for five minutes and found that grandma actually said half a sentence and stopped without finishing it. She thought the child understood, or that's how she expressed it. The child wrote half a sentence because his parents' intellectual activities influenced his language. We came up with a solution to this problem. I told the teacher to draw half of the sentence in the child's composition and ask him to add the other half to make the sentence complete. In addition, give the student a task to listen carefully when talking to grandma at home and see if it is complete after listening. If it is not complete, tell grandma that "you haven't finished half of your words, you should say it is complete" and let him be the teacher of thinking language for grandma. Two months later, the child has stopped writing half a sentence in his composition, and the wrong and bad thinking influence has been corrected by us. Parents' intellectual activities affect children, and the level of parents' intellectual activities has a great influence on children's intellectual development. Don't rely entirely on the teacher. Some people rely on teachers to give their children to school, which is wrong. Teachers have the role of teachers, you should cooperate, and parents have the role of parents. Intelligence should be cultivated by intelligence, and thoughtful parents should think more when they are in contact with their children's lives. Some parents are too lazy to think with their children. This is a misunderstanding, and children should be influenced by actual intellectual activities. With children, parents love to think, children love to think, and parents are lazy, so it is difficult to make children smart. 2. Parents' attitude and performance of seeking knowledge. Do you know anything? Do you still read? Are you still studying? You can't rest on your laurels when it comes to seeking knowledge. If parents are eager for knowledge and behave well, children will study like their parents, only asking them to study hard, but not studying themselves, and children will not listen to their parents. Not long ago, I had a research group doing experiments in Daxing County. Five parents said that their children were not good at school. I asked each parent to introduce whether they subscribed to newspapers, what newspapers they subscribed to and what books they didn't have. None of the five parents subscribed to the newspaper and didn't have a book for half a year. It doesn't matter if they don't subscribe to newspapers or books. What books did they read in six months? Five parents haven't read any books. How strong can such an environment require children to study hard? No matter how educated you are, you don't study, but ask your children to study. Can you study hard? Some parents have reached this level, earning money for their children, only talking about material conditions, not mental conditions. Speaking of reading, I'll give you a statistic. According to online reports, about 50% of Israelis have gone to college, with an average of 48 books per person per year. Americans read 28 books each year, while China reads 2.8 books each year. I think our children are not as enthusiastic about reading as Israelis, because their parents read only 2.8 books on average, and some parents don't read a book for a year. Last year, there was a survey that people in China read books. Think about it, adults don't read, only ask children to read. A parent told me that his children didn't study well. He said this home is a three-bedroom apartment. Every day, children study in their own rooms. They watch TV in their own rooms. This is not right. Children see themselves studying, parents are watching TV, and their hearts are unbalanced. He must consider what his parents are watching. When I say children study, you also study, giving children time to watch TV. At that time, you also watched TV, but less than children. This is a good father and mother.
I know a pair of parents. My mother is semi-illiterate, and my father is an official. From the third grade, dad said that children can decide how much TV to watch every Monday to Friday, and they can circle the programs twice in the TV newspaper. My father circled the program only once. My father asked the children what to do if they only watch TV twice a week. The child said that he would be punished for not watching TV for a week. While the children are studying, their father is also studying in the hall. Dad draws key points, writes eyebrows and takes notes in the books he studies. After 20 minutes of study, the father and son scuffled. The children went back to study when they saw their father studying so hard. In senior three, the child was sent to South China University of Technology in Guangzhou, but the child didn't go. He said that his ideal was to go to the Department of Architecture in Tsinghua University. His father said that he would take the Tsinghua exam as a graduate student, but the children disagreed. Dad asked what to do if he failed the exam. The child said that if he failed the exam, he would be allowed to repeat his studies for one year. If he doesn't pass the exam again, he will work and take the exam again, and he must be admitted to Tsinghua. As a result, the children were really admitted to Tsinghua, and there was a brightly lit column for them to make a program. His father told him the news when his son came back on Friday. The children said that they couldn't go, saying that they just had nothing to be proud of in Tsinghua, which was far from their ideal. Dad persuaded his son for a long time before agreeing to do the show, and warned him that it wouldn't happen again. Don't promise casually in the future. There is nothing wrong with being admitted to Tsinghua. Parents' attitude and performance of seeking knowledge are very important. 3. Family bookshelves. Do you have any family bookshelves or bookcases at home? According to the truth, in this society and family, there must be bookcases and books for everyone to read, which is very good for children to develop the habit of exchanging reading experience. I went to a primary school student's house, and his grandmother accompanied him. The 70-year-old grandmother is listening to the radio to learn Japanese, her grandson is studying in the back room, her mother goes to night school and her father is on a business trip. There are two bookshelves in his house. Mom and dad's books are put together, and grandma has half a bookshelf. Some people don't have bookshelves, only pictorial pictures of handsome men. What will happen to the child? 4. Relatively fixed study time, study space and study environment. Everyone has a biological clock, learning in a fixed time and space, and it is easy to enter the state. Study in the British library, go in the morning and come back at night. The place where I sat was relatively fixed, and the floor was scratched by my foot. Learn to exercise your willpower in a noisy environment. The above four points are the intellectual environment of the family. Parents can compare their achievements and decide whether to change. Fourth, the interpersonal environment of the family. Interpersonal environment affects children's learning, and a good interpersonal environment is an important condition for children's learning. The good thing is "harmony", the family is not harmonious, children always fight, quarrel, divorce, divide property, and study is not good. There is a family where the husband and wife always quarrel. He said he made it clear to his son that he quarreled with his mother and his son imitated him. How childish. Can children be unaffected? If the family is not harmonious and often quarrels, children will feel insecure and easily upset, which will seriously affect their studies. They will be afraid when they are young, bored when they are old, and resentful when they are old, especially when their parents want to divorce. A mother in Chongwen District came to me and said she wanted a divorce. After the divorce, she didn't tell the child, but the child had feelings. After asking her mother, her mother told him that the child said, "Mom, what do you have in this situation?" This has reached the point of disgust. And parents. When the couple were in the cold war, the son wrote a letter to his mother, saying that he would leave this home. If mother wants another child, she will have another one. He was about to leave. Mom and dad are always cold war, how can children stay at home? If there is no big contradiction, don't fight, don't make noise, and tolerate each other for the sake of children and themselves. The divorce rate is very high now, which has a great influence on the next generation. Interpersonal relationship is very important at home, so we should adjust family interpersonal relationship and see where the contradictions are. First, the relationship between husband and wife, then the relationship with children, and the relationship with grandparents, relatives and friends should be in a harmonious atmosphere. Some people go home outside, so they are called "rats with guns in their nests". Advise them not to cross anywhere in the future. It is reasonable to travel all over the world, and crossing can't solve the problem. We should adjust interpersonal relationships, be harmonious and inclusive, and sit down and talk. The relationship between parents of children is the key to family interpersonal relationship, and the relationship between husband and wife is the key to interpersonal relationship. Fifth, parents guide their children. How to guide, guide what? Many parents have misunderstandings and don't know what to do. What is the focus of guiding children to learn? The law tells us that we should not only pay attention to the results and scores, but also pay attention to the learning attitude, learning process, learning methods and learning habits. You can't just look at the scores. Last time 80 points, this time 75 points, you criticized the children. Why is 75 points worse than 80 points? The teacher is four to three to three, 40% is the most basic, 30% is difficult in foundation and 30% is difficult in distance. If the problem ratio becomes three to three to four, the average score is ten. If it becomes three to two to five, what is the result? What makes you say something? What's more, there are physical conditions, stress, learning status and other factors. We should strengthen the pertinence of guidance. We can learn from teachers from three levels: basic knowledge, basic concepts, basic skills, that is, the ability to solve basic problems, and comprehensive ability including innovation ability. It depends on which level of problems are more obvious, whether the foundation is bad or the basic skills are bad or the comprehensive ability is not good. You can communicate with teachers and help them solve problems. Some parents say that children can do difficult problems, but they will lose points. If the foundation is not solid, they will not do difficult problems in the future. "Double basics" means that basic knowledge and skills are the most important. Only when the foundation is solid can a building be built on it. Guidance should be targeted, not simplified. After the parent-teacher conference, parents often tell their children that "Chinese should be studious and math should be refueled". You don't know how to refuel if you need some guidance. Does the child know how to refuel?
It depends on how smart your child is, what are the advantages and disadvantages, and what are the multiple intelligences? Eight kinds of intelligence: mathematical logic intelligence, language intelligence, spatial image intelligence, music intelligence, action intelligence, interpersonal intelligence, self-reflection intelligence and natural observation intelligence. Now we are studying the ninth kind of intelligence. After a child's inner quality is shown, it will be reflected in these eight aspects. It is very important for you to look at the advantages and disadvantages of these eight aspects of children. For example, musical intelligence, the core issue is intonation, which can be reflected when you listen accurately. When you practice musical instruments, your movements are very dexterous. If your child can't do this, don't practice hard. I have been to America many times and lived in America. There is an organization in America that will tell you how smart your children are in music in half an hour. Everyone's intellectual advantage is different, so we should learn from each other's strong points instead of avoiding them. If you have poor sports intelligence, you will run slowly. Nowadays, children have various postures when running in sports. Only a few children ran as the teacher asked. They are good at sports. In order to complement each other, I live in the dormitory of higher education primary school, and there is a music art kindergarten. The children in our school charge 20 thousand a year, and the children outside charge 30 thousand a year. My little grandson studies there. One day he asked me if I could be a puppy, because he didn't want to go to kindergarten for piano lessons. I talked to his piano teacher and asked him to encourage his children more. Two weeks later, the children became interested in the piano, which was related to the teacher's education. Now I am in primary school, and I have enrolled my little grandson in another class. I said I didn't want to learn and I was willing to learn. There are too many extracurricular classes now. Some people make money, and the school gets some commission. I asked my little grandson what class he was enrolled in, but he didn't say anything. Because of the delay in playing, I chose an experimental science experiment introduced from Australia for him. Many after-school classes are so stupid that they can't speak English for a long time. How many top Olympic mathematicians can you pull? If you are really interested, you can do it. If you are not interested, you might as well not learn. Make good use of each other's strengths and make up for each other's shortcomings. Some children have learned three or four extracurricular courses, but parents don't understand them. They think they are tone deaf, so they have to let their children learn piano. Too much investment may not be effective. There are several people who can really become pianists, and more of them just cultivate their own qualities. Every child has his strengths, and it is very important for him to develop his strengths in the future. You should be good at finding and making up for weaknesses. It is a complete misunderstanding that you can only communicate with your child if you understand his 100 language. If you don't study children, you want to keep up with others' children in your own mind. Any intelligence is developed in the corresponding intelligent activities, and practice must be provided. Last year, a publishing house published a set of books, which is the cultivation of multiple intelligences in kindergartens. Fifth, parents and schools actively cooperate. 1, take the initiative to visit the school, don't wait for home visits, take the initiative to communicate with the class teacher, discuss problems instead of complaining, and it is best to involve the children. Study the advantages and disadvantages of children, discuss how to solve them, and don't complain. Parents and teachers should adopt various methods. There are many ways to communicate now, such as letters and emails. Parents should take part in class activities and talk to teachers. 3. Actively participate in school study. Sixth, attach great importance to the cultivation of study habits. 1. Children have living habits, working habits, good manners and study habits. Four main habits. What are your habits in these four areas? There are several things to pay attention to in study habits: the habit of focusing on time and stressing learning efficiency. Only dedication, not muddling along, will be efficient. Some parents don't pay attention to it. It only takes about 15 minutes to concentrate on homework in the first grade of primary school, 30 minutes in the fourth grade, 40 minutes in the fifth and sixth grades, and 1 hour in junior high school and senior high school. Children can concentrate 15 minutes. If he has to concentrate for 30 minutes, then the remaining 15 minutes will be muddling along. Someone once did an experiment, sending a piece of paper to every senior one and asking them to write Chinese characters. In the first five minutes, there was silence. In the sixth minute, two people moved, 10 minute, five or six children moved, and in 20 minutes, the world was in chaos. After a week of experiments, it is still the same. The two children who started moving in the sixth minute were the same as last week, and the five or six children who started moving in the 10 minute were the same as last week. So some children's self-control ability is 5 minutes, and some children's self-control ability is 10 minutes. Don't compare with other children. You should observe how long the child can control it. If he only pays attention for 5 minutes and you want him to pay attention for 20 minutes, then you should cultivate him to linger 15 minutes. Don't compare with other people's children, they are other people's children. 2, learning, now many children rely on their parents, parents can only inspire and can not tell the answer, learning is their own business, eating chewed buns is not good, and some children interrogate students with answers. Now students should learn instead of learning, and if they can learn, they must learn. "The illiterate people in the future are not illiterate people, but people who can't learn." Learning to study is very important. 3. study as planned. Plan to discuss with children every day after class, weekends, winter and summer vacations, and let them order their own books, leaving room, not playing slam, but insisting. 4. Use your brain scientifically. Including the combination of study time and rest and the intersection of various disciplines. Step 5 use tools. At present, the main tools are dictionaries, dictionaries, mathematical tables, basic formulas of physical chemistry and so on. Computers have been around since primary school. I have a suggestion. Parents should prepare computers for their children. Parents should learn to use computers. Parents should be able to surf the internet and learn through computers, so as to control their children's use of computers well. Parents can't use computers, and children play games. Some parents say that they can't use computers, so they have to let their children use computers. This is not the fundamental solution. Children form internet addiction. A class teacher wrote a flat paper, and he knew all his students' emails. There is a blog in the class. One day after school, he pointed to a student and said, "You spent more than two hours online yesterday." How does the child think he knows? The head teacher said, "Do you think I can know?" The child left a message on the Internet saying: "Our class teacher can be invisible, so don't work overtime on the Internet." This is the information age. Why do some children have conflicts with their parents? There is a great difference in information and information ability between parents and children. Parents have information ability, so it is not easy for children to play endlessly. A parent said that his son surfed the Internet and his husband smashed the keyboard. I said that she should first criticize her husband for hitting the keyboard and ignore everything, which is equivalent to a fool taking care of a smart person. You should study first. Some parents are unconditional and reluctant, and some cultures need to be learned. Business people in our unit solve problems through computers, so they need to put articles in their own columns. If there are people here who can't use computers and have a primary school education or above, learn computers quickly, or they can't educate their children. Now all the children in kindergarten draw pictures on the computer. I taught my little grandson to send e-mail to his mother in Canada online. The most important thing in extracurricular reading is to control time and choose books. What books to choose, communicate with teachers and consult experts when necessary. Now books have everything. Children read, you have to read, or even read first, to have the right to dialogue. How can you communicate with your children if you don't read the books they read at all? You should read it first and see what you are inspired by. Without in-depth understanding, parents cannot provide financial and material support. This is the simplest truth. How to guide others to learn without going deep into the realm of learning? If my own family education is not successful and I don't study, I will sit here and tell you about family education. Will you listen? At present, some lectures in society are stupid. How many teachers know Cambridge English? He may not learn English well either. He can't solve all the problems given by the special math teacher who teaches Olympic Mathematics. In order for children to learn, you have to study, read with children and read with others. Ask questions with an open mind and create opportunities to ask more questions. When children ask questions, you can't just say no. If you don't understand, ask and communicate with them. Over time, the child will know about it. Ask questions with an open mind There are seven main study habits. How are your children? How are you doing on your own? Measure yourself first, then measure the children. It is a rule that education must cultivate good habits. "Good habits benefit life, and bad habits affect life." . We should cultivate good habits from an early age. Form good habits and benefit for life. Form bad habits and suffer for life. People who don't form good habits can accomplish nothing. Studying is a good habit, playing mahjong is a bad habit. Habit is second nature. From the perspective of learning, parents should pay attention to cultivating their children's good habits.