These problems often make parents do not know how to deal with them, let alone how to communicate with their children, which leads to differences and even conflicts with them.
In fact, parents don't have to worry, because these situations mentioned above are the normal performance of children aged 13 or 14. These performances are staged and will change with the growth of children.
What we have to do is to put our minds right, overcome anxiety, truly understand children, and then find a skill that can get along well with children.
Your 13- 14-year-old child is a practical parenting guide book, telling parents all the truth about 13- 14-year-old child.
This book is the result of 40 years' research in Yale University. It is an encyclopedia of early education written by a child-rearing expert from the famous gesell Institute for Human Development in the United States, which tracks the real growth experiences of thousands of children. It has helped thousands of parents get out of the deadlock of the repressed parent-child relationship and swept away their most troublesome parenting doubts and anxieties.
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How to enter the inner world of children?
Teenagers often turn sharply or brake suddenly on the road to youth, which makes us unprepared. Adolescent children tend to be sad, suspicious and confused. They will start to like being alone, lock themselves up, reflect on some things and become less friendly.
This kind of "closure" is actually a kind of self-protection of children, who are protecting their weak and unique personality that has not yet been fully formed. We don't have to worry.
As parents, you must not blame your child for these performances, otherwise the child will feel that no one can understand him and will only be more depressed. At this stage, what we need to do is actually very simple, just like flying a kite, learn to let go appropriately.
14 age, full of vigor and vitality. The sudden change of children will make you feel like you had a dream. 13 After being alone for a year, children become more mature.
However, 14-year-old children can also give parents a headache. In the past, children may only think about their mothers' nagging, but now they even resent their fathers. In the eyes of children, we have become hopeless antiques. He will think that our clothes are rustic, our way of doing things is not good, and our ideas are outdated.
In fact, children are just looking for themselves and defining themselves. He is still at a loss. Deep down, he still loves us deeply. All we have to do is give him more space. If he wants to make up his mind, let him make his own decision. Don't nag him, as long as it is not a matter of principle, try not to criticize him. You can even tell him, "Don't worry, I support you." This way, your relationship with children will not be bad.
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How to help children become popular at school?
For children, the world in school is an independent world. He can study, play games and make friends at school.
/kloc-children aged 0/3 will like sports very much, especially boys. He often wants to have a free time after school and play ball with his good friends. We don't have to force him to go home immediately after school. We can arrange this free time with our children and give him some space. While exercising, he will have deeper feelings with his friends.
Adolescent children will be more picky. If a teacher has a bad attitude towards himself, he is likely to hate this course. But we don't have to worry too much, because children may also like a teacher, but they don't like his classes. He has been able to see things separately, which is a sign that children are mature and independent. Try to guide children and distinguish between teachers and courses. We can tell him: "The teacher will not learn from you all his life, but the knowledge you have learned can."
/kloc-After 0/4 years old, children's attitude towards teachers will change. Even when they criticize a teacher, they will be more relevant and not as emotional as people aged 13. However, due to their strong desire for expression, children may intentionally raise their voices or hide their classmates' books to attract everyone's attention when communicating between classes.
When the teacher finds us because of this, he must not think that the child is naughty and the child is too naughty. Instead, we should carefully analyze the reasons for these behaviors of children and have a good talk with teachers.
We should slow down our mentality, let the children deal with problems in their own way, give him correct guidance, and make his relationship with teachers and classmates more harmonious, which can also create a good learning atmosphere for him.
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How to guide children out of negative emotions?
13-year-old children, seemingly indifferent, are actually very sensitive inside, and it is easy to hurt their self-esteem with a little thing. For example, if a little pet dies, or if a good friend changes schools, or even if a little thing is not done well, we will make him sad for a long time.
Children are easily filled with worries. "What if I can't finish my homework?" "What if I can't get along well with my classmates?" "What if the sports meeting can't get a good ranking?" His face is full of worries, but if you ask him, he will tell you "nothing." He will tell his feelings to the people closest to him and most trusted.
This man is his good friend most of the time. If you want to understand the child's emotions, you should be more patient and don't ridicule and accuse him. Try to take care of your child's emotions and care more about him, but try not to interfere.
/kloc-children aged 0/4 are always full of energy and will be easier to get along with. Children become happy easily. Winning a ball game or being praised for wearing a new dress will make them jump for joy.
However, after going through the stage of introversion, once children have emotions, they will not close the door to digest themselves, and they are likely to yell at us. He will no longer deliberately control his emotions, but will actively let us know that he is "very sad" and "very angry".
If parents don't understand their children's emotions and feel that their children don't respect their elders, then scolding their children can easily hurt their self-esteem. What needs to be emphasized here is that you should never say to your child, "I did it for you", "Why don't you know anything" and "You disappoint me". Be sure to stand in the child's perspective and understand his feelings, so as to help the child get rid of negative emotions and make the child healthier physically and mentally.