She said she wouldn't clean it, and waited for her husband to come back to clean it the next day, and the video followed up. The next day, the husband went home to clean up the scattered flour, and even the mother-in-law heard the news and came to help.
The video also attracted the onlookers of Professor Chu Yin (who has millions of fans and often expresses his views on various things through videos). He commented on the crying of stay-at-home mothers in the video, saying that stay-at-home mothers teach their children like this because they are incompetent. He said that it is not easy to be a full-time mother, but it is the mother's incompetence to make the family like this when the child is four or five years old. The child turned into Xiong Haizi, and the mother didn't take care of it. The full-time mother of others took good care of the two children.
Professor Chu also said that being a full-time mother is a profession. If you haven't done a job well for four or five years, why bother to shout tired? Cover up your incompetence.
Later, my mother also saw the video of Professor Chu. She felt wronged and unconvinced. She sent several videos to defend herself, saying that the children were not ignorant, and she took care of both children alone. No one helped her, but she attached great importance to her children's education. Children learn to dress themselves at an early age and go to the toilet by themselves, saying it is an emergency. The professor didn't investigate, and just said that her child was Xiong Haizi and ignorant based on a video.
Of course, Professor Chu later sent a video, emphasizing that it is not easy to be a full-time mother, but you also need to learn and improve yourself. Dealing with housework, doing housework and taking care of children all require skills and knowledge. Stay-at-home mothers should love life instead of crying that they are tired.
Some people in the comments say that some people are good at the same job, others are not good at it, they are not good at a job, and they can jump ship. If stay-at-home mothers are a profession, can they jump ship?
If a stay-at-home mother is really a profession, we can look at the characteristics of this profession.
1, the work content is complicated.
First, taking care of children, according to the size of children, the focus of work at different stages is different. In infancy, children need to nurse, feed, change diapers, put them to sleep and play with them. Some families have added early education content since childhood to develop their intelligence.
Before children go to kindergarten, they should take them out to play, brush their teeth in the morning and evening, help them dress, read books and tell stories, and play games with them.
The second is to do housework.
Including buying food, cooking, cleaning and washing clothes. If no one helps, sometimes you need to cook with your child in your arms and leave the door open when you go to the toilet.
In the supermarket, I saw some mothers shopping with their young children. The children hung on their chests with waist stools and went out with big bags in their hands.
Being a full-time mother at home can be said to have multiple roles, such as being a mother, nanny, cooking and cleaning. And the work content is very complicated.
2. No pre-job training.
Anyone who has worked before knows that pre-job training is usually needed, and the job content, job skills, workflow and assessment criteria will be informed in advance. After the training, I was able to complete my normal work as required, but I didn't provide pre-job training for my parents. How should first-time mothers and full-time mothers take care of their children? What is the process of housework? How to test your work and how to improve it? There is no standard, and there is no guidance. Full-time mothers want to improve their skills, basically relying on self-awareness. People with high understanding and ability may do well, while those with poor understanding and ability don't know how to improve themselves.
So there is a saying: we are also parents for the first time, please forgive us.
3. Children are not machines.
Even if the mother studies parenting knowledge hard, each child's innate character is different and the family environment is different. The same parenting method is good for other children and may not be applicable to her own children.
A child is a lively little life with its own personality and thoughts, not a machine. As long as he operates according to the technological standards, he can produce qualified products. There are too many uncontrollable factors for children. There are no two identical people in the world, and every child is unique. Teachers are professional educators, and the students they teach are very different. It is impossible for parents to teach perfect children according to their own wishes.
Stay-at-home mothers are available 24 hours a day.
The 996 working mode of migrant workers is desperate. When full-time mothers never leave work, it is 007 all year round (zero work and zero work, seven days a week). No matter how easy the work is, this working mode will make people very tired. Stay-at-home mothers are faced with monotonous, boring and endless housework. Children have no time of their own except sleeping. When their children are sleeping, they must clean up the housework quickly. At night, I am afraid that my child will wet the bed, wake up the child to go to the toilet, worry that the child will catch cold, and cover the child in the middle of the night.
It is natural for children to be naughty, and experts also say that children should be allowed to explore more. Therefore, it is normal to play with water, rice and noodles and "destroy". It can't be said that the child is naughty because the mother didn't teach it well.
A child who is never naughty and never causes any "trouble" cannot exist unless there are special reasons.
Stay-at-home mothers are tired all year round.
However, other jobs can jump ship. Is it okay to be a full-time mother? If the child can't get it back, it is irresponsible not to take it, and there is no chance to quit.
Professor Chu said that the inability to raise children is the incompetence of stay-at-home mothers and the incompetence of education.
Stay-at-home moms really need to study. I have been taking care of my baby full-time since I resigned at the end of last year. I deeply feel that being a full-time mother is not good, and I have a lot to learn.
The first is parenting knowledge, and there are some rules for children's development. Although learning parenting knowledge may not make children become excellent, it can also avoid some pits; The second is sorting and storage skills. Families with children will definitely have more things at home. In addition to daily necessities, there are children's toys, clothes, books, snacks and so on. It will also increase a lot. Children like to take out all their toys. If there is no certain sorting and storage skills, the home is really easy to mess; Third, time management, although at home every day, but time is occupied by trivial things, it is easy to feel that nothing has been done, but time has passed and I am busy every day, but I can't see the results.
Others include diet, financial investment and personal energy management, which need to be studied.
If you don't study, it's really easy to be busy all day, but the children didn't bring anything.
However, stay-at-home mothers need the support of family and society if they want to pursue further studies, so that stay-at-home mothers have time, opportunities and channels to study.
Children's education also needs other family members besides full-time mothers, such as fathers, and relevant departments should also provide a better environment for children's growth.
Children are born with different natures and growing environments, and mothers' own qualities and abilities are also different. We can't shift the responsibility for children's growth to the mother.
Stay-at-home mothers may be responsible for their children's poor teaching, but not necessarily because their mothers are incompetent.
Stay-at-home mothers need more support and tolerance.