Hello, I'm Yu Man.

How hot is early education? As soon as you open the internet, it seems that the news is overwhelming, telling you that if you want your children to run faster than others' children, you can't lose at the starting line.

Even elevator advertisements in various communities are full of advertisements about "early education", as if any child would fall behind if he didn't accept some early education or something.

But what is early education? I wonder if any parents have seriously considered this issue.

It seems that early education is a particularly high time, so many families have the conditions to send their children to early education centers; Those who have no conditions should also create conditions, such as going into battle in person.

As a result, all kinds of early education tools and early education books have come out in Taobao shops, and you still don't know which one is good.

At this time, you heard the neighbor next door say, "Did you hear that all the children in Sister Liu's family can read?"

Then your mind appeared the appearance of Liu Jie's child: "Really? ! You can read at the age of three? ! "

I can't believe it. I look back at my own child, who is only a few months old. I don't know a word. I just watch cartoons and shout to go out to play. I'm worried: it's over! Lost at the starting line.

You have a concept in your mind-it seems that if a child can study early, he will be smarter and will definitely have a future. So, what happened to those children who read early?

Li Jie is a teacher. Since Xiaozhi was born, she was worried that she would lose at the starting line, so she made plans long ago to let him know how many words she had and when she could read independently.

Xiao Zhi was quite cooperative when he was young, and became a famous "child prodigy" in the community, which made Li Jie, as a teacher, particularly proud. But soon, after going to school, Xiao Zhi gradually became less "genius" than Li Jie imagined.

When other children know how to read, he has learned those words and doesn't want to learn them at all. After Li Jie found out, he was given many tasks. With more tasks, Xiao Zhi became bored and didn't like reading so much anymore. Until later, Li Jie had a headache because he didn't like studying. She doesn't know what to do or what the problem is.

In fact, Hu Jie doesn't want to teach Kiki to read so early, but this chick likes listening to stories very much, but her mother has something to do every day and doesn't have much time to tell her. Sometimes she can't help but say, "If you can read it yourself, read it yourself, without waiting for your mother to tell you."

I don't know if Kiki wrote it down, so I asked my mother, "What is this?" "What's that?" I finished a picture book story.

When she was four years old, Kiki had a clean mouth and liked to tell stories to other children. Great, there must be a new story after you finish it, right? Kiki holds a picture book story every day and wants to learn something new.

Sister Hu began to worry: it doesn't matter whether she can read or not, but what if she learned all the words before going to school?

Obviously, Hu Jie thinks too much. Qiqi likes reading books. When other children are still studying, she has seen fairy tales from picture books and even appeared in various famous books.

Although hujie doesn't know what's the use of reading so many extra-curricular books, Kiki's composition is really better in the class. She never worried. On the contrary, she is worried about math, and she can't figure it out herself. How can I put it?

Sister Xiaoqing is a lazy mother. She doesn't like to "arrange" her children, so she was not in a hurry to go to any early education center when she was young, and she didn't want her children to read quickly. What did the other children learn? Is it the same with her own baby?

While others are busy taking their children to learn this and that, Sister Xiaoqing's plan is: (1) teach potatoes to do their own thing; (2) Teach potatoes to be trustworthy; (3) Teach potatoes to do things as planned.

In this way, she naturally hopes that her children will be independent as soon as possible and be a "worry-free lazy mother." When the potato expressed that she wanted to eat by herself, she tried to create conditions for the potato to eat by herself; When potatoes show special interest in dressing themselves, picture book story+practice allows potatoes to master this skill quickly; When Potato wants to play with clay figurines, she takes him to play with various handicrafts about clay, soft clay and plasticine. ...

In short, when the potato shows some intention, she will take him to try it. Although it is often anticlimactic and messy, at least potatoes have been tried and will not be remembered next time; Or he likes it and will continue to do it in the future.

While doing these attempts, she tried to make potatoes "do their own thing", do everything by themselves, and pack things by themselves. Only when she has packed it herself can she take it out when she wants to play next time.

No matter what you play, you must first confirm with the potato: "How many times do you want to play? How long has it been? Will you protect yourself? what are you going to do？ What is the first step? What is the second step? What should I do in the third step ... "

Potatoes have done many things, but they have learned nothing. When I was in elementary school, Sister Xiaoqing found that many children in the circle could read, but her potatoes didn't seem to be there, nor did she have a sense of urgency. But soon she found that as long as the "learning rules" were established, potatoes would be well implemented, and there seemed to be nothing to worry about.

A little bigger, potatoes make their own study plans, and when to do something, without Xiaoqing's intervention at all. Just stare at him while he is making a plan and urge him to complete the progress. Very worry-free.

What happened to them at last?

Li Jie's children, she looked at it again and again, and finally failed to get into Tsinghua and Peking University as she imagined, but they were not as good as the children in the neighborhood.

Hujie's children are not bad. Although I never dreamed that I would be particularly awesome, after attending an ordinary university, Kiki found a good job, and her writing skills were solid, and her favorite words could be coded.

Xiaoqing's sister's child has a special complaint, and he has already planned to take the doctor's exam. Although Xiaoqing was worried about when he could find a girlfriend to get married, she left soon to find an old sister in the community to dance square dance.

Life seems to be safe, neither too good nor too bad for each of them. It can only be said that everyone has his own life, and children who are literate early are not necessarily geniuses; A child who can study late may not be a genius. One is to see what the expectations of adults are, and the other is to see where the initiative of children lies.

Interest is a child's first teacher. Early education should be based on children's love, natural curiosity and persistent initiative, and then follow his curiosity to create conditions for him and give him unlimited opportunities to enlarge.

Although Li Jie was kind at first, she didn't adjust in time when Xiao Zhi was already under pressure for so many books. Finally, reading became a compulsory course, which gave birth to "weariness of learning".

Good study habits can get twice the result with half the effort. Sister Xiaoqing likes to be lazy, but Potato started to go to school to cultivate and supervise his study habits. She stopped being lazy from the beginning.

Set a goal, do things in a purposeful, planned and step-by-step manner, check and fill gaps in the process of implementation, and adjust again and again to achieve the goal.

3. Encouragement and support are the driving force for children to move forward. Although Hu Jie never thought of early education for Kiki, when Kiki showed her thoughts and desires, she did not give a blow, but gave support and encouragement, providing more picture books as materials for Kiki to tell stories, and also bringing her to know more friends who like listening to stories and reading books, so as to establish a learning environment for mutual learning and common progress.

4. Knowing means knowing, and not knowing means not knowing. Sometimes children's learning progress will exceed the learning scope of adults. At this time, you can't help pretending to understand. Instead, you should teach him "learning methods" and then humbly ask him for help and make him your teacher.

One advantage of a good learning method is that no matter what he doesn't know in the future, he can master it through "self-study". As an adult, I don't have to work so hard I feel pressure for my child's growth, and I'm afraid I can't teach him.