When the baby resists early education for the first time, the baby will have resistance when he reaches a certain age. At this time, parents need patient guidance and calm response to help the baby develop a good and calm personality. The following is a knowledge sharing about the baby's first resistance to early education.
Why does the baby's first resistance to early education 1 "the first negative phase" appear earlier and earlier?
A new trend that cannot be ignored is that the starting point of children's "first negative phase" has been advanced from two and a half years old to about 20 months. More and more children under the age of two have learned to talk back to their parents and say irony. The more depressed adults are, the happier children are. Early education experts believe that under the influence of parents' excessive care and TV culture, children are generally precocious, self-awareness germinates early, and enter the "first negative period" in advance.
The early appearance of the "first negative phase" is not a bad thing, it is the need of children's self-development. In early childhood, self-development is in an "impulsive stage", and children often say "no" to every proposal made by their parents. This is exactly what they want to emphasize their existence by denying the views and instructions of adults, and it is also a way to seek the respect of adults. They also want to show their abilities to adults, because he feels that his abilities are already very strong. Once parents think that he is still a little doll, they want to do everything for him and make decisions for him, and the contradiction between parents and children will be staged day by day.
What is the secret behind "resistance"
"I can do it, I can do it."
After the baby's deciduous teeth are all pulled out, it will show an obvious autonomy and independence. He wants to do everything by himself and likes to imitate what adults or friends of his age do. If you don't let him do it, he will resist by crying or other forms. For example, children around the age of 2 are willing to eat with spoons instead of being fed by others. If forced feeding, children will have resistance. For another example, children should start washing socks when they see their mothers washing them. If his mother is worried that she won't wash clothes, he will cry.
Coping: the baby is curious and eager to try, and the parents of the child give the baby the opportunity to learn and exercise. For example, you can give your baby a small basin and a handkerchief and let him wash his handkerchief and socks himself. In the process of washing, his mother should teach him to wet his handkerchief, apply soap and rub it with his hands. Let the baby exercise his hands-on ability in play, so as to match his actual ability with the growing independence.
"I have the right to make decisions for myself"
The baby is about 2 years old and will generally be disobedient. The guest asked the baby to choose a drink, and the adult must have chosen it for him because he cried and refused. Adults will take him to the amusement park on their rest days, but he will stay at home and watch cartoons. You want him to wear blue pants, but he must wear red pants ... He is so eager to express his desire to "make a decision for himself", even if he doesn't mean it.
Coping: At this time, taking a rude attitude without asking the reason will often lead to stronger resistance of children and form bad characters such as withdrawal and withdrawal. When a child resists, it is an effective method to take a step back, rely on him for a while, and then persuade and guide him to pass the resistance period smoothly.
"It's fun to make mom angry."
The baby says "no" to every proposal made by his parents. Almost makes my mother angry. At this time, the first thing is to convince your emotions not to be influenced by children. First of all, the mother should make it clear that when the child says "no" or disagrees with you, he is not aiming at you or this matter. He just wants to show that he has the right to deny and that he can be the master of his own affairs.
Response: At this time, quietly making reasonable concessions can resolve a considerable part of the resistance. Of course, there must be a bottom line, and unreasonable resistance to the baby must be resolutely corrected. For example, two or three-year-old children should never be allowed to play with electrical switches, nor should they play with lighters and switch gas stoves. In the period of children's resistance, you should become one with your children, guide and educate them to know the unfamiliar world. At the same time, if you don't get angry, your children will lose interest in this game of "testing the mother's bottom line".
Baby's first rebellion against early education 2 Once upon a time, a baby who was hungry in his parents' arms would eat with a spoon and stagger to take the first step. The baby has grown up and parents are so happy. With the improvement of baby's sports ability, the expansion of activities and the growing curiosity, the baby began to draft his own "Declaration of Independence". At this stage, he is uncharacteristically stubborn, willful and even tough. In his growth dictionary, "no" has become the most frequently used word, which we usually call the "first negative phase" of this period. In the face of "difficult" babies, parents are inevitably at a loss, and their hearts are still somewhat lost and worried. In fact, this is a necessary journey for every baby's psychological development.
In the process of children's psychological development, there is an obvious stage, which is impatient, disobedient and unwilling to let others interfere in their own affairs. The performance characterized by this kind of rebellion is called rebellious period by psychologists.
The first three years after a baby's birth is a critical period for the baby's growth and development, and there are significant changes in both physical and psychological aspects. Therefore, in the initial negative stage, how to make the baby spend his life smoothly has become the most concerned topic for parents. However, what needs to be known is that resistance is a sign of children's growth and progress, and it is also a critical period for the development of children's behavioral qualities such as autonomy, independence, self-confidence, willpower and imagination. In this period, as long as the child's behavior is harmless, adults should not interfere and restrain the baby's behavior too much. If adults still treat rebellious babies like newborns, forcing them to do what adults want, or treating them by beating, cursing or threatening, then these babies will lose self-confidence and have the concept of self-denial. Medical psychological research at home and abroad shows that excessive inhibition of baby's resistance will affect its physical and mental development.
What is a rebellious baby like?
After the baby has self-awareness, he begins to learn to imitate adults and can walk independently. When eating independently, there will be the first period of resistance in life. With the growth of age, the baby's rebellious behavior becomes more and more obvious. It is often manifested as an opposition to adults: you say that this kind of thing can't be touched, but he insists on touching it. You said that eating vegetables is nutritious and you should eat more, but he refused to eat. You often say what you say, he does what he says, and even talks back to adults. Entering this "extraordinary period", you can hear the baby say the most. One word is "No ..."
How to deal with and adjust the baby's rebellious mood
When the baby is in the first negative stage, parents especially need patience, guide and educate the baby to know the unfamiliar world, learn to praise and criticize the baby kindly, and let the baby's body and mind develop normally.
When our baby loses his temper, as parents, we should first understand the reasons for his temper. Let the baby vent, such as yelling. Then we know the reason in time and find a solution. When the baby calms down, we will reason with the baby and tell him that it is wrong to lose his temper for no reason. In the future, if the baby encounters unhappy things, he should tell his mother or father in time, and we can find a solution together.
Using the transfer method, parents can do some strange behaviors, such as suddenly turning off the lights and turning on the lights to divert the baby's attention, so that the baby's temper will not get up. Because the baby is young and inattentive, it is easy to divert attention. This method can be used when we don't know the reason why the baby loses his temper.
Get the baby out of here. If he suddenly loses his temper and makes noise, you can quietly take him to the car or bathroom, and then take him back to his original place after the noise subsides.
When a baby does something you don't like, you should first see how well he does it. If it's just unreasonable or won't hurt your health, then ignore him and wait for him to calm down naturally. When the child is too noisy, you whisper to him and he won't listen.
When the baby makes an annoying performance, the parents simply ignore it and don't make any response. They don't look at him, ignore him, pretend to be doing their own thing and see nothing, so that the baby will be quiet. Because the rebellious baby sometimes makes some strange actions just to attract the attention of adults, parents should consider whether to ignore him when your baby makes such actions.
When the baby is still pestering after you refuse his request, you should not persuade him endlessly. You can answer him repeatedly in a simple sentence until he listens.
After the baby corrects his behavior, you should pay attention to him immediately and praise him in time. When the noise is too loud, leave the baby alone for a few minutes, and when he calms down, the parents will comfort him.