Author: Shi Huiping (Hui Ling Hui Jie's father)
Children's situation
My children Shi and Shi Huijie are twin sons. My marriage is rather bumpy. Because of a wrong choice, my ex-wife and I left home to work in Guangdong only three months after we got married. Four years later, she died of illness, and we left no children.
Five years later, I married my present wife. From my wife's mouth, I learned that in 20 10, she was pregnant with three children and eventually miscarried (one of them was stillborn). Because my mother had lung cancer during that time, I was eager to have a baby for her, but it was a pity that I couldn't let her see her grandson in the end. Twin sons were not born until July of 20 10. I can't tell you how happy I am. I remember writing a diary for my children before they were born. I thought god had compensated me for all my previous sufferings. I am content to have such good children: they are beautiful and really inherit our advantages. I once told my relatives that it would be better for our children in the future.
In the meantime, I took good care of them. Children aged 65,438+0 and 65,438+0 and two months can walk (they don't know how to climb before walking, but they just wipe their bottoms on the ground), and they are also very lively but active. They eat well, sleep well and seldom get sick. I also hired a nanny for them. In this way, I will be sent to kindergarten at the age of 3, and the child will not be able to speak at this time. Soon after I went to kindergarten, the problem was exposed: I remember a parent-teacher meeting, first watching all the children do exercises in the square,
My children are running around in the distance. Once Bao Xiao was bitten black and blue by a child at school (arms, chest and back were all red), and Dabao was also bitten. I remember that night the headmaster led a group of teachers to my house to apologize. In fact, we didn't blame the teacher, but the person in charge of the school euphemistically expressed the hope that we would transfer the children (strangely, I said it should be the perpetrator). Considering the situation of this school, change the kindergarten for the children next semester.
But the teacher gave feedback that the children, especially Dabao, couldn't sit still and were too active. Later, he consulted an Oriental Baby Education Center. The teacher said that Dabao fainted (the first time I heard the concept of syncope), so Dabao trained in Oriental Baby for 3 months. Later, I took them to another kindergarten, because they couldn't speak, and the director always felt a little embarrassed and didn't want to accept them.
During the period, my cousin sometimes called to ask about the child's condition, and when he learned that the child could not speak, he urged me to take the child to the hospital for examination (in fact, we were not in such a hurry, and some rural people said that some children spoke late), so he took the child to Guangzhou Children's Hospital for many examinations, including EEG and MRI, in the first half of 20 14 (in Huangpu, the child needed anesthesia, but Bao Xiao still didn't wake up when he returned to Dongguan). 20 14, 10,
We also took our children to a training institution in Dongguan for consultation during the holiday, and the director also concluded that Dabao is a typical autistic person (saying Bao Xiao is not).
Combined with the children's situation: unable to talk, unable to make phone calls, unable to look at each other well, more interested in things than people ..., we accepted the reality and actively intervened: 654381October 20th, we sent our children to Zhangmutou campus of Smart Rabbit and began to intervene in training. The night before delivery, I had a phone conversation with President LAM Raymond for over an hour.
I remember he said that autism is a world problem, and the cause has not been found yet. It is a minor brain injury in children that cannot be cured, and a lifelong disability cannot be cured. Only by strengthening children's other functions through intervention training can we make up for the damaged functions, and children must develop their language before the age of 6, otherwise I am afraid they will never speak it. After three months of training, I feel that their progress is not obvious. In the second year, for various reasons, the children were arranged to be integrated in a good integration school in the mainland. More than half a year later, the child still can't speak, and he is anxious about his illness. He was sent to the Shenzhen campus for intervention training.
Parental exploration
At this stage, I am most anxious. When I was in doubt, I searched this strange disease on the Internet and added some so-called autism exchange groups. One day, I happened to see in the group that Buddhism can treat autistic children. It seems that I caught a straw, so I immediately added QQ of several brothers and asked them for advice.
Then they got some Buddhist books and tools that they sent selflessly. I reflected on some causes and effects, such as my father's murder, our abortion and so on. So I began to practice firmly, but it was a challenge to do my homework at least three hours a day according to the requirements in the book. I didn't work hard at first, but then I calmed down and kept practicing for a while. My idea is that no matter what method is used, as long as it can make children better, it is worth a try. During the period, I had communication with many senior brothers, and learned that children in several cases have recovered. I firmly believe that only Buddhism is the fundamental solution to children's autism. I also maintained communication with a parent who recovered well after training in an institution in Huizhou. I admire what these parents have done for their children.
At the same time, I also know the pain and suffering of autistic families. During the period, I also had an in-depth exchange with a brother who practiced Tibetan Buddhism in Shandong, and learned that the mother of an autistic child in Henan put her child in foster care in a temple.
To tell the truth, this is a very painful, gloomy and tangled period in my life. Often depressed, don't want to talk, and have little contact with friends. I am secretly worried about my child's future. But also worry about the economy, sometimes it is really difficult or even collapse. Fortunately, my wife is a very capable person, and I am grateful to her for supporting this heavy family alone at this most difficult stage.
One morning in March this year, I turned on my computer and received an email in my mailbox. When I read the title, I talked about treating autism with pharmacist Buddhism. When I saw the case in the article, I was sensitive to realize that a brand-new way can cure children.
Reading it in one breath is like getting a treasure. However, just as I was about to answer the phone call from Master Hui Ke, this email was suddenly blocked. Later, I contacted the owner of the group and asked him to resend the email, so I contacted Master Fan (Ben) and Brother Shi, and I couldn't wait to call the master for more than 40 minutes that night. I remember the master said with certainty that autism is not a disease, nor is it an incurable brain injury, nor is it a lifelong disability, but his mental consciousness is still in another space. If he wants to pull consciousness back into human space, the child can learn something. He said it's not the cow's fault to play the lute to the cow, but the person's fault. Such children spend their parents' time.
Don't worry about the baby being abnormal. The master has repeatedly told me to have confidence and rest assured that many parents have traveled all over the country, and Guangzhou Dojo is the last stop. I suggest taking time to take my children to Guangzhou, check the cause and effect, and then make plans. At this time, hope rose in my heart and I felt that the child was saved.
Buddhism saved Du Jie.
In this way, we took our children to Guangzhou Huangpu Dojo on March 19. In the Dojo, the master checked the cause and effect for us. Because there were dead people in the family, abortion and other factors, the treatment plan was determined and the prescription was given to the child. On May 5 and May 26, we asked Master to do Buddha's work twice to cure diseases. On May 27th, Master named the children Shi and Shi Huijie.
Children will change
May this year is the most obvious month for my little treasure to change. From this month on, Shi Huijie suddenly became an active language.
Progress day by day: from not being able to speak before, I can speak some sentences now; In the past, when training words, the words were unclear and the voices were small. Now the words are basically clear and the voices are mostly; He knows a lot about vegetables, fruits, animals, vehicles, signs and daily necessities. The guide number can count to 100. He can call out the names of his family, express the weather and interact with adults more. People are very lively and their cognitive understanding has improved; Playing mobile phone/tablet games is very fast ...
Shi basically cooperated with the teacher's training at school, and his personality was slightly better than before, and the crying and noisy situation was alleviated, so he could sit still for a long time. Ask him to give him instructions and respond better than before; Now I can talk to the teacher in class; Self-care ability has also improved, such as knowing to go to the toilet; I used not to call my father (always called Dede), but now I will call my father; Cognitive understanding needs to be strengthened. Equally surprising: I pulled a nerve in my leg during an exercise last April. After a year, I often feel a little dull pain. I took Chinese medicine, and I couldn't get rid of exercise, but the pain stopped later.
Parental mentality
I believe that after Buddhism resolves some causes and effects, the situation of children will get better and better. Although there is still a big gap between children's cognitive understanding and children of the same age, it is far from being recovered, but I am no longer depressed and anxious, and I am no longer full of gloom. I believe that there are at least three solutions to any problem in this world. For karmic diseases, Buddhism is the complete solution:
From the sharing of some senior brothers, I know that the master has told me to be cautious and wise. No matter what happens to your child, as long as you make sure you are calm, let go of your anxiety and don't insist on your child's progress, maybe your child will make progress, too. Changing yourself can change everything, and the heart will not change with the environment, making the heart cleaner, kinder and more energetic.
(2) concentrate on reading the pharmacist's mantra, return it, release it, repent, do good deeds and plant Futian, earnestly pray for the blessing of Buddha and Bodhisattva, and pray for the blessing of Master, and then continue to solve the unjust creditors according to Master's method, so that they can get rid of their sufferings, get Bodhi early and die in pure land. (3) After pulling the child's consciousness back from another space, supplemented by patient education, the child's abnormal behavior problems will gradually disappear and the IQ response will be improved, so that the child will definitely recover and even be smarter than other children, and our family will be complete. I know this process will still be very difficult, and I still have a lot to change and improve. But I believe that children come to visit us and are angels who illuminate our hearts. I believe that winter will eventually pass, and spring is no longer far away!
I want to share this with you, hoping to inspire similar parents. Everything in this world is empty, only cause and effect are not empty. I hope to open my wisdom and smell Buddhism as soon as possible to benefit all beings. Practice and cultivate your mind, correct your wrong words and deeds, protect your body and mind, do all kinds of evil and do all kinds of good! I would like to use this merit to repay all autistic children and wish them a speedy recovery and wisdom!