Then, in the face of this emotional change of children, some parents actually feel that they were too spoiled before, so children have so many bad temper?
If parents really think so, it can only be said that the baby is too wronged! This series of changes in children is actually the behavior that most children will learn at this stage, and it is a "common disease" for babies all over the world.
The child is growing. This growth is not only physical, but also psychological.
As soon as a child is born, there is no concept of "I" at the beginning of brain development. With the continuous development of the brain, children's cognition of the surrounding environment becomes clearer and clearer, and they begin to have "self-awareness".
In other words, children begin to have the concept of "I", just like getting a new toy, they will always play for a few days, and children will especially want to feel "I".
Then if children obey their parents in everything, they will not feel the existence of "I", so children at this stage will be very rebellious.
Because children's language expression ability at this stage is not very good, so children all express their emotions with body language, roll or cry.
Child psychologists call children at this stage "two terrible ones".
Then most "terrible two-year-olds" will have the following four behaviors. If not, you can only say, congratulations to the mother for finding the treasure.
Because children have to feel "I". So the baby said no to what his parents told him to do. Tell him to eat and say "no", tell him to drink water and say "no", tell him to change clothes and say "no", and tell him to wash his face and say "no" ...
In short, the baby says no to everything he is told, and the word "no" has become the mantra of children at this stage. Dany once told her daughter Xiao Dan in Weibo that she likes to talk about all kinds of "no".
When things are put away, children are always in a mess, and they are keen to throw things and destroy things. This is also the typical behavior of children when they are "terrible two years old". Similarly, children also want to feel the existence of "I".
When babies throw things, they don't really want to fight against their parents. As long as parents observe carefully, they will find that children actually enjoy the process of throwing things.
Children find that they can have an impact on the world, so this thing itself is an interesting thing for children, which will make them feel the existence of "I", so children will keep trying.
The most emotional thing for a child is that others don't listen to him and disturb his order. Children can't talk, so there will be a series of emotional actions, such as reaching out and hitting others and suddenly crying.
When the baby's self-awareness gradually develops, it will begin to be independent. So you have to do everything yourself and listen to me. However, this stage is also the beginning of parents' good habit of cultivating their children's independence.
Some extroverted children, when they are 2-3 years old, will have the situation that "the more their parents don't let them do, the more they have to do". Of course, it is also to express yourself. Because of my extroverted personality, I won't just say no, I will take action.
Parents say don't play with water, he has to play with water; Parents said whether to walk on the sofa, but he insisted on jumping on the sofa twice. ...
Of course, some children do this because they don't care enough at ordinary times and will deliberately attract their parents' attention in this way, which depends on their parents' specific judgment according to their family situation.
Although this is an inevitable behavior for children to grow up to this stage, it does not mean that parents can let their children do whatever they want.
Knowing what kind of psychology children have when they have this problem, parents can regulate their children's behavior in a more correct and appropriate way.
Parents can try this.
1, stay calm and communicate with children.
Now that we know that children are not unreasonable. Parents can try to stay calm when their children's emotions break out, and then have a * * * relationship with their children to express this from the child's point of view.
When children feel that they are understood, it is easy to calm them down, and then it is better to reason with them and set rules for them, so it is easier to listen.
2. Give your baby some freedom
Parents always treat their children as babies who can do nothing. In fact, as long as children are given the opportunity, they can accomplish many things well. Give your baby some freedom and time. Even if the child does badly and slowly, he is allowed to do it himself.
3. Let children change from "passive" to "active"
In this case, parents can change some of their expressions. For example, to let children eat, it is better to say to them, "Do you want to eat from a rabbit bowl or a watermelon bowl?" .
Children think they are making choices, but in fact, no matter what they choose, they will go to eat well.
Before the baby is 3 years old, he is very willing to imitate others, so many picture books are behavioral habits. When parents show it to their children, they will be willing to imitate the protagonist in the picture book. # There are many ways to raise children #
Parents ask their children to finish eating, and the children may not listen, but tell them that all the bears in the picture book are finished, and the children will look at the bears and finish eating.
Recommend a set of 30 books * * * called "Picture Book Story Book of Early Education for 0-3 Years Old", each book corresponds to a theme, such as brushing teeth, eating, pooping, I will get dressed, queue up, hello, respond loudly, sorry, good friend, thank you and so on. All around the common theme of children's growth and life.
Each book is brightly colored, which can attract children's attention, and it is all cartoon characters such as little goats and rabbits that children like. Children are more interested in reading, guide them to imitate the characters in picture books, and form good behavior habits imperceptibly.
This book is 170mm 160mm, which is not a large format, but it just fits the size of a child's palm and is convenient for children to read.