1, don't worry about crying, and don't use small toys to distract your attention.
As long as the baby cries aloud, the nervous system immediately tightens and tries every means to stop the baby from sobbing? Are you such a mother? However, mothers are like this. She especially hates babies' crying. If the child cried, she said that even if she fell asleep, she would wake up immediately. But now it's more than six months, and the baby refuses to cooperate when changing diapers. If mom changes diapers again, she will cry and make trouble. At this moment, I can only give Ran Ran a toy, and then quickly help Ran Ran change diapers. Do you use this method? Because he can carry out your plan quickly.
In such a caring relationship, there is no partnership, and everyone's baby is like a doll in bed, completely dominated by himself. And what happens after giving the baby toys? When we are playing, we can feel everyone's "care" for him, but our own baby will not concentrate. Therefore, it is not recommended to use small toys to distract the baby's attention in interactive communication. On the contrary, the baby's experience of changing diapers should be regarded as a practical experience. For example, can we gently approach the baby, communicate with the child and ask him if he is uncomfortable? Do you want the baby to change diapers? Explain your every step to your child.
What if the baby cries and refuses to cooperate? Can wait for a while, and then ask with concern, is the baby uncomfortable? Don't want mom and baby to change diapers? Then I will change it later. There's no need to worry about the baby sobbing. Sobbing is also because of his experience. Why did you move it? If you use this method, a baby who is not focused will become a baby who cares about the caregiver thoroughly. Slowly, the baby's duration, body consciousness and cooperation consciousness will be improved, and he will gradually get used to such things and enjoy them. Gradually, they will know how to invest time and energy in things they are interested in to win prizes.
2. Crying and joking, you don't need to "ignore" the law, but you should attach great importance to care.
As we all know, waiting is very important, but adults always have a lot of things that must be busy, and it is difficult to concentrate on waiting for the baby when time and energy are exhausted, so we are likely to become half-hearted companions. After all, taking care of the task is boring. Many times, I can't control it, and my spirit will be distracted. When the baby sleeps well, it is easy to fall into guilt and feel that he has not waited for the baby completely.
In fact, we don't have to spend too much time and energy waiting. Now I will explain to you a new entertainment project that has been used in education for a long time: the length of wooden floor. Some researchers believe that when our baby is crying and noisy, we don't need to choose protective or neglected methods. In the cold winter, we can stay calm with more attention instead of less attention.
During the wooden floor, we only need 30 minutes of one-on-one interaction, and everyone's only goal is to reply to the baby immediately. At the moment, there are interesting toys around us. We don't have all the plans and expectations, just look at what the baby will do and how to reply. Many psychotherapists have confirmed that thorough care is very beneficial, not cocky. As long as most of us seldom get this kind of care in our daily life, try to recall that if you get someone's care, you can feel that kind of pleasure.
If you are angry, there is no need to hide it.
If you pick up a baby who doesn't want to go home and is playing in a children's playground, he suddenly turns to yell at you, and the older baby will continue to fight and vomit ... how do you keep calm? Rather than "hiding" your own peace, it is better to say that you really express your state of mind and tell your baby seriously at once, too lazy to pay attention to you! Then stop talking and stay as far away from the baby as possible. Leave some time for yourself to calm down and watch the baby's next main performance. When dealing with this annoying situation, people are more likely to make many mistakes, for example,
The baby makes us very angry, and everyone is very exaggerated. Sometimes, the baby will find your grandiose personal behavior very interesting and repetitive, so that you can repeat this grandiose personal behavior (for example, if you shout after catching your hair, the baby will probably repeat it); It is also possible that people will scold, blame, complain or destroy their self-esteem, which is very undesirable and completely violates the principle of evidence-based. What we need to do is to make our thoughts clear based on evidence, instead of squeezing out a smile and seeking comfort. However, if your child has serious personal behavior when you are justified, we should take further effective measures instead of just telling your baby your feelings.