What is etiquette?

1. "Gong Jianzhuang Jing, ethics also." (Interpretation of the Book of Rites).

2. Etiquette refers to the sum total of codes of conduct or norms that people agree and abide by due to the influence of historical traditions, customs, religious beliefs, trends of the times and other factors in social communication, aiming at establishing harmonious relations and meeting the spiritual requirements of etiquette.

In short, etiquette is the code of conduct and norm of self-discipline and respect for others, and it is the process and means to show respect and understanding for others.

3. Civilized etiquette is not only the embodiment of personal quality and education, but also the embodiment of personal morality and social morality.

The traditional principle (virtue) of treating people and things.

Benevolence (benevolence), righteousness (loyalty), courtesy (courtesy, harmony), wisdom (wisdom) and faith (honesty)

Enthusiasm (gentleness), kindness (kindness), respect (respect), frugality (frugality) and humility (modesty)

Basic principles of children's etiquette

1. Etiquette purpose: harmony (physical and mental harmony, family harmony, interpersonal harmony, social harmony, harmony between man and nature).

2. Etiquette rules: self-esteem and respect for others. Be kind to yourself and treat others as yourself. Do to others what you don't want them to do to you)

3. Etiquette: kindness and respect.

4. Etiquette principles: respect, care, tolerance and sincerity.

5. The essence of etiquette: think of others and don't disturb others.

It is untenable not to learn manners.

China is an ancient civilization and a country of etiquette. "Zuo Zhuan" says: "China is called Xia because of its great gifts and Hua because of its fine clothes." Confucius said, "In the prosperous times, poetry is the foundation of ceremony and joy." Mencius said: "Those who respect others will always respect others, and those who love others will always love others." Xun Ziyun: "People who are rude are not born, things that are not rude are not born, and countries that are rude are uneasy." The ancient Greek philosopher Heraclitus once said, "Politeness is the second sun for educated people." Etiquette can show a person's education, demeanor and charm, and can reflect a person's cognitive level, personal knowledge, accomplishment and value to society. Confucius said, "If you don't learn manners, you can't stand." Xun Ziyun: "People who are rude are not born, things that are not rude are not born, and countries that are rude are uneasy." Know the courtesy before you act. Cultivating children's etiquette literacy from an early age can make children respect themselves, know how to respect others, internalize their excellent character, develop good behavior habits and be harmonious in body and mind. When they grow up, they can integrate into society, be respected and benefit for life.

How to cultivate children's etiquette accomplishment

Four misunderstandings of etiquette

1. Error: "This is a set of strict rules, which requires everyone to abide by and be a' civilized' person."

Good manners come from the heart, not from external rules.

"These rules are designed for the rich and the learned."

Everyone, whether you are the prime minister or the poor, can be a decent and polite person.

3. "This is just an outdated tradition."

Today, etiquette is closely related to us. The harmony between individual and body and mind, and the harmony between man and society are inseparable from etiquette. Studies have shown that high IQ or high education plays only 20% role in a happy and successful life, and 80% role depends on high EQ (good manners can improve children's EQ).

4. "Etiquette is flattery."

Flattery and arrogance are the opposite of "gentlemen", who are elegant, humble and popular, regardless of their social class.

Children's etiquette content (including four parts)

Part I Basic Etiquette

1, basic movements (standing, walking, sitting, squatting, picking up, how to knock on the door, opening and closing the door, coughing, sneezing, yawning ...)

2. Polite expressions (Hello, goodbye; Thank you, you're welcome; Sorry, it doesn't matter; Please)

3. Personal etiquette (wiping your eyes, blowing your nose, washing your hands, washing your face, looking in the mirror, cutting your nails, gargling after meals, wiping your mouth, brushing your teeth, taking a bath frequently, folding clothes, using the bathroom ...)

4. Basic communication (say hello, talk, introduce yourself, introduce others, how to answer the phone, how to make a phone call, and do what you can to help the disadvantaged ...)

Part II Family Etiquette

1. Respect elders (elders should not be called by their first names, but they must be addressed accurately and respectfully, obey instructions, be considerate of elders (give up their seats, give up their meals and make way), say hello when going home and leaving home, ask elders to go ahead when staying with them, help parents do what they can, and how to deal with adults' mistakes ...)

2, behavior habits (look at each other's eyes when talking, keep smiling, pack your toys, put things back, cherish things, don't waste, get along with people, stay with parents, how to solve bad emotions ...)

3. Guests visit (introduce the door, invite people to sit down, offer tea, be polite to the guests, thank the guests for accepting gifts, and receive small guests ...)

4. Visit guests (make an appointment first, arrive on time, don't move around, bring gifts when visiting or visiting patients ...)

How to cultivate children's etiquette accomplishment

Children's etiquette content

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Part III Kindergarten Etiquette

1. Etiquette for entering and leaving the park (take the initiative to say hello and goodbye to teachers, children and parents)

2. Toilet etiquette during recess (take care of yourself, be humble, put things back ...)

3. Etiquette in teaching activities (learn to listen, use your head actively, raise your hand when you speak ...)

4. Etiquette for outdoor activities (queuing, going up and down stairs, not pushing others, not picking up guardrails, leaving the team first, observing the rules of the game, moving within the specified range, gathering and disbanding to listen to the password, not lying on the pile, being humble when playing, and putting the toys you have played back ...)

5. Dining etiquette (wash your hands before meals, don't be picky about food, don't grab food, don't talk when eating, don't waste, don't make a sound when eating, send chopsticks yourself, wipe your mouth and rinse your mouth after meals ...)

6, nap etiquette (folded clothes have a fixed place, afternoon ceremony, sleeping ceremony, get up neatly ...)

The fourth part is the etiquette in public places.

1, go (go upstairs and downstairs and cross the corridor to the right; Go in and out of classrooms and offices, and walk softly without affecting others; Obey the traffic rules, drive on the right, cross the road and take the special passage, eat while walking, spit everywhere, follow the crowd, keep your distance, and do not occupy the blind road ...)

2. Wait (line up in order, don't cut in line and don't let others cut in line, sit without sitting on the floor, don't crowd into the street and hinder traffic ...)

3, by car (take the initiative to buy tickets and get on the bus in order, get off first and then get on the bus, don't squeeze or push when getting on the bus, don't grab seats, and be polite to the old, weak, sick and pregnant; Don't make noise when driving, don't throw things outside the car, don't spit everywhere, don't take off your shoes, don't pedal your seat, don't eat in the car, get ready in advance when you get off, use excuse me when you need others to make way, excuse me or please make way ...)

4. Take the elevator (elevator: don't pry the door, don't row the door, go out first and then enter, don't force your way in, don't press it indiscriminately, quit voluntarily when overloaded ... take the escalator, the escalator is on the right, don't push it, don't squeeze it, don't fight ...)

5, swimming pool (don't throw dirt into the pool, don't pee in the pool ...)

6, the library (whisper, don't defile the books, put the books back)

7. Commercial market (no running around, no buying planned things, no comparing, no unpacking, no tasting food ...)

8. Park attractions, etc. (Maintain public health, no littering, no spitting, maintain public order, enter by ticket, don't fold flowers, don't trample on the lawn ...)

9. In case of an accident (earthquake, fire, tsunami, terrorist attack, etc.). Call the police, save yourself, don't run around, don't panic and shout, be calm, listen to the instructions and listen to the arrangements of adults ...)

How to cultivate children's etiquette accomplishment

Tips for Cultivating Children's Common Etiquette Habits

1. Early education and early care: children are raising, and children are also raising.

2. Children learn from me: correct demonstration, patient guidance and implementation of norms.

3. Life-oriented education: standardize children's daily life, start with details, practice repeatedly, and form habits.

4. Grasp the etiquette principles: respect, smile, sweet mouth and propriety; Be upright, have the same appearance, be neither humble nor supercilious, and advance and retreat freely.

5. Make good use of disciples' rules: disciples' rules are the first in the world, and they are the guidelines for dealing with people.

Etiquette teaching method

Story enlightenment method

Behavior discrimination method

Demonstration method

Situational performance method

Game nursery rhyme method

Activity competition method

Story Enlightenment: Interest is the best teacher! Children get the corresponding emotional experience in the story, produce emotional songs and consciously accept the educational content in the story. Children's picture books can be used as textbooks.

Behavior discrimination method: according to the theory of social cognitive conflict, design questions and problem scenarios, so that children can distinguish beauty and ugliness, good and evil, knowing good and bad, why and how to do it in the evaluation of events.

Demonstration method (standard demonstration method: according to the content requirements of etiquette training, use intuitive, vivid and standardized demonstrations to help and guide children to master the correct behavior methods and set an example for children.

Situational performance method: "I heard it and forgot it;" I saw it and remembered it; When I did this, I understood. "Creating a theme scene for children, children get and strengthen their first emotional experience through scenario drills, which is a review and application of etiquette, a comprehensive investigation of children, promoting the internalization of values, and finally forming good etiquette habits.

Play nursery rhymes: adjust the learning atmosphere and let children acquire knowledge in a relaxed and happy way. For example—

Hello, goodbye.

Say hello early when you meet, say hello in the middle and say hello at night.

Say goodbye when leaving and say good night before going to bed.

Please.

If you have any questions, please come in.

If you want to eat, please sit down. If you want to break up, please go slowly.

It's decent to borrow something and ask for help.

Thank you. You're welcome.

If someone helps me, thank you. If I help others, you are welcome.

Thank you. You're welcome. It's more polite to use it often.

Sorry, it's okay.

If you do something wrong, apologize, I'm sorry, don't do it again,

You apologize. I'm humble. I'm sorry. It's okay.

Activity competition method: the competition is carried out in a form that children like to see and hear. With early etiquette education, children will have a preliminary correct concept of etiquette, such as "cartoon contest" or question-and-answer contest, where teachers (parents) ask questions to see who answers more, which is only a developmental evaluation.

How to cultivate children's etiquette accomplishment

A detailed explanation of children's daily etiquette habits

Sheng Chen

1. Get up on time and greet parents, elders or teachers (for example, "Mom, did you sleep well last night?" )。

2. Make your own bed.

3. Wash your hands (brush your teeth, wash your face, comb your hair, etc.). ).

Weak determination

1. Say hello to parents, elders or teachers (for example, "Mom, I'm going to bed. You also rest! " )。

Wash your hands (brush your teeth, wash your feet, wash your socks, etc.). ).

3. Lay the quilt.

4. Fold the clothes off in turn and put them around or hang them around.

5. Don't talk while sleeping.

have a meal

1. Set the tables and chairs, take the chopsticks and serve before meals.

2. Ask parents, elders or teachers to sit down first.

If there are guests, it is advisable not to come to the table for the time being.

4. When the group dines in line to enter the restaurant, the seats should be left in and right out (all seats are the same).

5. When sitting down, it is advisable to put the sword finger (middle finger and forefinger together) on the table and sit down smoothly; The same is true when standing.

6. The end of the bowl should be flat-chested, the four fingers of the left hand should be close together, the thumb should be pressed on the edge of the bowl, and the palm should be flat, so it is called "Dragon Ball"; Hold chopsticks with three fingers in your right hand, and the position should be in the next seven miles and the upper three miles. Call it "Feng Nod".

7. When eating, hold chopsticks in one hand and a bowl in the other, and the bowl must follow.

8. Don't look around when eating, don't open your mouth, don't drum your cheeks, don't ring your tongue when eating, and don't ring your throat when swallowing (don't make a sound when eating).

9. Have nothing to say when eating (don't chat while eating; If you need to talk, wait until the food in your mouth is swallowed.

10. Turn back when coughing.

1 1, take the initiative to add dishes to the elders.

12, others add food for themselves and say "thank you". Say "thank you, I really don't need it" when you don't need it.

13. If the food is not dropped, you must pick it up immediately if you accidentally drop it.

14. There are no more dishes in the bowl; Appropriate amount each time (the same dish should not be sandwiched for more than 2 times in a row); Don't eat directly when picking vegetables, stop before eating.

15. Don't knock bowls, turn dishes, and criticize the quality of food.

16. Share leftovers.

17. There is no food for the same table.

18. There should be no food left in the bowl after dinner.

19. Don't touch the tables and chairs when entering or leaving the seat, and say hello to leave the seat (for example, "I'm full, please help yourself!" ) )。

20. Rinse your mouth after meals.

2 1. After eating, move the desks and chairs and wash the dishes.

How to cultivate children's etiquette accomplishment

A detailed explanation of children's daily etiquette habits (continued)

Sit up straight, lie down straight.

1. Stand like a pine, sit like a bell, walk like the wind, and lie like a bow.

2. When standing, stand up straight with your feet naturally, don't limp, and don't lean against the chair.

3. Sit up straight naturally, with your feet shoulder-width apart, and sit on the chair for one third or one half.

4. When attending class or receiving visitors, sit upright, don't cross your arms (arms don't lie prone on the table), don't support yourself (hands don't hold your cheeks), don't stretch your feet, don't lie on your back (legs don't open), don't shake your moustache (legs don't vibrate), don't cross your legs, and don't cross your legs.

5. Walk steadily, hold your head high, look forward, and swing your arms naturally;

6. If you can't stand in the door (don't stand in the door), you can't walk in the middle (walk on the side of the road, don't argue with the car).

7. Drive slowly at corners and thresholds (make a big turn and don't touch the edge).

8. If you don't sleep, you should lie on your right like a bow.

total/complete victory

1. Get up early to sweep the yard, mop the floor, tidy the room and clean the dishes.

2. Put the rubbish in the proper place, don't throw it away.

Put things in order and put them back after use.

respond

1. Guests at home must say hello; When the guests leave, they should be sent to the door to say goodbye and welcome to come again next time.

Open the door for the guests and invite them in.

3. Serve tea and water for the guests. The tea fruit grows first and then grows young, and the gentleman ripens later.

4. Go to other people's homes, you will go to class, and your voice will improve.

Tap the door three times when you knock. If you don't smell it, knock again, and the host will let you in.

6. Be polite when visiting other people's homes, don't make any noise, and don't use other people's things without permission.

7. When others are talking to themselves, keep smiling and look at each other instead of looking around.

8. Take three steps back when you leave, turn around and walk slowly.

9. Elders and things need to be presented with both hands.

10. Walk with your elders, slowly, and grow up later. Don't be rash, grow up first.

1 1. Older people must stand up when they come, but they can't sit down.

12. When you meet a teacher on the road, just stand by and meet you at the roadside. Elders should walk a few steps before walking.

13. If you have to go out at home, you must report it and return it.

be a guest

1. When visiting friends, relatives and classmates, be punctual and tidy, and bring some small gifts as much as possible to show respect for the host.

2. In the home of friends and classmates, you should not speak loudly, but be civilized.

Don't use the things in the owner's house without the owner's permission. Even close relatives and friends should say hello first and ask the owner's permission before using it.

4. If you eat in the host's house, you should pay attention to the dining etiquette, and you should not sit down first, let alone touch the food first.

When saying goodbye, say some words of thanks, such as "I am very happy today" and "Welcome to my home".

spoken language

1. Speak gently and modestly when asking for help. (For example, "Can you do me a favor?" "Excuse me")

You need to thank others for accepting gifts or helping yourself. (For example, "Thank you!" "Thank you so much!" )

Anyone who offends others must apologize immediately. (such as "I'm sorry!" "I'm so sorry!" )