My husband is really good at taking care of children. I have hardly changed his diaper or washed his clothes since he was born. The child is young, because he often eats night milk and flatulence, and he wakes up every hour. I will wake up at the slightest movement. Poor rest at night, postpartum lochia. My husband stayed up all night to let me have a good rest. Except for the baby who needs to be nursed to wake me up, the children lie on him at other times, changing diapers, comforting me and putting me to sleep. He did it alone, and he didn't lie down until I rested at six in the morning. This state lasts until the child is two months old, and he can sleep for about three hours at night before he gets better. Two weeks ago, my parents returned to China for treatment due to illness, and my in-laws came to help us cook during the day. It turned out that the mother helped wash the children's clothes. Now my husband washes them by hand, and he also helps me wash clothes. Children eat too much and vomit too much, and sometimes they have to change two or three sets a day. In addition, the weather is wet and cold, so it must be dried immediately after washing that day and changed the next day. Moreover, in the face of children's education, he always stood with me and gave me great relief and support when I was emotionally fragile. I told him that if he didn't accompany me like this, I might be depressed 1000 times after delivery.
Hoo ~ kua husband for too long. Now let's answer this question well. In-laws are very strict with their husbands since childhood, and there is always a steel aversion. Their family problems can't be explained at the moment, but they definitely don't want their son to be a full-time father. Once my mother-in-law asked him what he planned to do in the future. He smiled and said that he would take care of the children at home full time, and his mother-in-law immediately fell down. Then he kept urging him to find a job. I know he really wants to be a father. He can educate his children with great patience and is willing to keep the house in order. He can study again, practice the piano, and learn something he is interested in when he is free. He has a college degree and is simple and kind. He can't stand the complicated ways of the world in society. It is not easy to find a suitable position. What is rare is that he really thinks that educating children is the most important thing. He doesn't think that being a suitable father will make him feel worthless. Therefore, if he finally decides not to go to work and concentrate on taking care of his family, I am very supportive. At present, I have several jobs to choose from, and the salary is not high. However, with the careful management and help of my parents, I can live well.
In fact, from my own point of view, what I need most from my partner is spiritual support. When I feel anxious, confused and tired, he gives me guidance and care, and I am really cured by his comfort every time. I can also dry my tears, find myself again and love life. He can let me be myself and support me to realize my self-worth. Why can't I also support what he wants to do? He can wholeheartedly give his children more gentle and high-quality companionship. Why not? Of course, we have to admit that we can choose this way because our parents can give us great help and we have no worries. But if we have such conditions, we can't choose what we want to do. How many people in this society can make their own choices?