If you are a careful, lively and sunny person, then you have the basic conditions to become a full-time mother; On the contrary, if you are a person with low self-esteem, irritability and easy to lose self-confidence, then I suggest you stay in the workplace. What is a stay-at-home mom? Generally, they are daily necessities. When you see that your girlfriends of the same age have a free economy in the workplace, when you see that your eyes are red and swollen because of lack of sleep, when you see that your once glamorous professional clothes are covered with dust, your inner envy and contrast need to be overcome by yourself.
The biggest advantage of a mother taking care of her baby at home is that she can bring more youthful vitality, broader social skills and more advanced cultural knowledge to her children. But if the mother can't adjust her mentality and arrange her own life, how can she face the daily crying and troubles of her children? How can you save the cost of early education because of your existence?
Therefore, before choosing whether to take care of your baby full-time, you should first consider your own personality characteristics. Not all families can support a full-time nanny. To put it bluntly, it is actually a return to the traditional family division of labor. The direct result of a person not going to work is the reduction of family income. It's not just Bao Dad who cares about this problem.
When they get used to women's self-sufficiency and pay off the mortgage and car loan together, they will find it difficult to adapt when all the financial burdens come. Therefore, not every man is willing to support his family alone. If your husband admits that taking care of the baby is also a kind of work, if he admits that you are better than the early education class, and if he won't haggle over a bucket of milk powder and a pair of shoes, then you have the family foundation to become a full-time mother;
If your husband only pays attention to the number of credit card jumps, if he thinks you are no different from the nanny, and if he will vent his frustration at work on you, then don't care who takes care of the children. Regardless of people's faces, it is fundamental to ensure independent work. Children's early education needs companionship, but it also needs family stability and peace.
If you make a fuss about taking care of the baby, then there is really no need for female friends to go their own way. After all, children are not one person's children, you can only rely on yourself. Not all old people are suitable for raising children. As I take care of the baby full-time, there are many elderly people with babies in my social circle. I have carefully observed them, and I think there are three kinds of old people who are not suitable for raising children:
1. Careless. Traffickers like to choose children brought by the elderly. A big reason is that the elderly have limited energy. I often see some old people turning their heads to buy food in the vegetable market and putting their children in the car behind them; Some old people go shopping in small supermarkets and put their children on the rocking car at the door; Some old people just talk, and children don't know when they run to the road. If all the old people in your family are like this, you'd better bring your own for the safety of your children.
2. arbitrary. Some old people are strong and like to be masters of their own affairs. When two generations have different views on children's education, they are used to ignoring the young people's reminders and sticking to their own opinions, and even sowing discord among other members because they are dissatisfied with one family member. As the saying goes, getting along is easier than living together. If all the old people in your family are like this, it is better for your children to take care of themselves for the sake of family harmony.
3. Be careful. My mother is such a typical old man, and she will be worried at the slightest sign of trouble. Children run fast and are afraid of falling, so they must hold hands tightly; If children eat less, they will immediately worry about whether they are sick and will take them to the hospital; When a child cries, he is afraid of lung problems and quickly compromises; Swing higher, afraid of falling, can only wipe the floor? This anxiety will be passed on. If you old people are like this, then for the sake of children's mind and tolerance, children should bring it by themselves.
Of course, I have met many wonderful old people. They will take their children to play, read stories, be willing to let them work and teach them manners. If your old man is like this, there is actually no need to struggle, and it is the same for everyone to give their children.
Whether to take care of the baby full-time really needs to be considered. I don't quite agree with some young baby mothers who take care of their babies while working part-time online. People's energy is limited, and the overdraft is either their own body, the company of their children, or the rare study time, which is not cost-effective in the long run. For women, no decision is easy, which is why mom is great.