They usually think that children who are "obedient and sensible" from childhood will achieve something in the future.

Obedient children are not necessarily good children, and disobedient children are not necessarily bad children.

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"Good boy" is the highest honor given to children by China's parents.

Every parent wants his children to obey their orders. If they are not "obedient", beating and cursing at an early age can play a deterrent role. When they grow up, emotional and moral kidnapping is often a cage that ordinary children can't escape.

They usually think that children who are "obedient and sensible" from childhood will achieve something in the future.

Is that really the case? A famous experiment was conducted by German psychologist Haicha. He followed up 65,438+000 children with strong resistance tendency from two to five years old and 65,438+000 children without this tendency.

The results show that 84% of the former people are strong-willed, independent and have the ability of independent analysis, judgment and decision-making; Only 26% of the latter are strong-willed, and the rest can't make decisions and take responsibility independently.

French writer romain rolland said: One can only guide others, but can't walk instead of others.

Too obedient child, she could have had a good life, but because she listened to her parents, she missed the opportunity of development again and again and finally disappeared from everyone. Too obedient children, his life, often stick to the model of parents.

It has been said that children in China are the most tired in the world. Think about it, too.

Today's children, at the age of 2, attend early education classes, and kindergartens begin to participate in interest classes, including dance, painting, calligraphy and musical instruments.

In junior high school, they were drowned in the sea of books, and tutoring occupied the whole childhood.

There are always some parents who think they are heaven and their children are just accessories. Their unfinished ideals should be accomplished by children, regardless of their feelings. As a result, their dreams may not come true, but their children live in pain all their lives.

Many celebrities have been so-called disobedient children since childhood.

For example, Einstein, a "bad student", disliked the teacher's lectures in class, liked to argue with the professor, despised authority, and skipped classes to study by himself. Later, Einstein published quantum theory, which solved the problem of photoelectric effect and opened a new era of physics.

In Translation Collection in Memory of Einstein, it is said that the goal of a school should always be that young people should leave school as a harmonious person, not as an expert. Cultivating the general ability of independent thinking and independent judgment should always be the first priority, rather than acquiring professional knowledge.

A stone without edges and corners is doomed to fail to stand out. A completely obedient and uncreative child can't be a great person.

People who follow the rules can only achieve little at most. Those who achieve great things, pioneers in any era and in any field, often have extraordinary thinking and ability. They dare to be the first in the world, dare to challenge authority and dare to be masters.

Suhomlinski, a famous education expert in the former Soviet Union, said: We should not always hold his hand, but let him walk independently, let him be responsible for himself and form his own attitude towards life.

Now some parents wake up: children who are too obedient may be worthless when they grow up. But this does not mean that parents ignore their children and let them do whatever they want.

A completely disobedient child is likely to become a problem for teenagers. After all, children are still young and lack social and life experience, so it is easy to go astray.

If your child is disobedient because of his own opinions, congratulations, he will be a creative person, and encourage him to think independently and complete the challenge independently.

If a child is disobedient because of rebellion, parents should first learn how to be parents, communicate with their children seriously, and build a bridge with their children. We should be a beacon for children to grow up, shining in front of them, not a "safety rope" that binds them.

Research shows that children in China have good self-control, but lack creativity. Creativity is an important driving force for social progress and development. There is still a long way for parents in China to know how to respect their children's right to exist as independent individuals, inspire their children to study subjectively and actively, and let them realize their dreams.

Professor Lai is the founder of "Children's Four-Round Learning Method" and has been focusing on children's education for many years. He believes that in fact, educating children only needs to follow three sentences: tell children what is right and what is wrong; Respect their choices; Give the best assistance.

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