Lily's problem is that she gave up "sovereignty" prematurely and became a "guest" in taking care of the baby. Grandma usually bathes her children, sleeps with them and plays with them. Even if Lily has time, she plays mobile phones and watches movies. For grandma, Lily's behavior is just like "cheating on a corpse to raise children". Let the elders do what you want, the key is to "turn the customers over first", participate in decision-making and change roles.
Ps: You can't take your baby to study, and your mother should try to participate in parenting. And let the old people understand that they are the "guardians" of the children and are responsible for them. Although the help of elders is worthy of gratitude, we should respect the opinions of guardians.
The baby doesn't wear open-backed pants.
My colleague Ari told us about her mother-in-law: Every time I said not to wear open-backed pants for my baby, she quietly changed them as soon as I went to work. It is said that it is afraid of covering children and saving diapers. Later, she found that her mother-in-law likes to read health articles on her mobile phone. Just try to forward some mother-in-law parenting articles. Then big data began to recommend parenting articles to her mother-in-law. Once, an old neighbor lady asked why she didn't wear open-backed pants for her children on such a hot day. Mother-in-law proudly said, "It's unsanitary to wear open-backed pants. My baby never wears open-backed pants." She looks like a child-rearing expert in a new school.
Ps: Ma Bao can't follow the baby all day. Some older Ma Bao began to let go of themselves as soon as they left. Ma Bao can sneak in by building a plank road, starting from the channels for elders to obtain information, let big data help you smuggle private goods, and let elders quietly accept new parenting concepts.
Children's initial knowledge bud comes from their parents, and it is a potential impression left by observing their parents' daily words and behaviors. This kind of natural instinct teaching is incomparable to any expensive early education class, and the early education provided by parents is accompanied by lifelong benefits for children.
Parent-child companionship is better than early education classes. Parents who attach importance to family early education will definitely attach importance to the education of parent-child relationship. Compared with cramming knowledge, the quality of parent-child companionship and education in the name of love is undoubtedly higher, which will benefit their children.
In fact, human beings have always been animals with large families to raise children. Only after the appearance of nuclear family in recent centuries did human beings begin to raise children in small families. Parenting with elders is actually of great benefit to children. Parenting conflicts in life can be skillfully solved, which is also the wisdom of motherhood.
In the early morning, my mother came to talk: a second-born mother who started writing in the early morning, I wrote my heart by hand, and everything was my parenting experience with my children. I hope my parenting experience can bring you some help. (The picture in this article comes from the Internet. If there is any infringement, please contact to delete it. )