First, expectations of life goals are too high. There are too many factors that affect the trajectory of life, such as times, present situation, popularity, chance, personal quality, social factors and so on. Some are controllable, others are unpredictable and uncontrollable. Lao Dan's philosophy emphasizes taking advantage of the situation and governing by doing nothing, which is the truth. The common people say that "it is hard to find a foot when you hit eight feet", which is also the truth. It's easy to follow the trend, but demanding is very tiring.
The second is not to compare. Many troubles in life come from inappropriate comparisons. Compared with hair, classmates, colleagues, comrades-in-arms, colleagues, colleagues ... compared with coming and going, it is manifested as worry, imbalance, loss, jealousy and hatred. Understand that the ruler is short and the inch is long; Lost in the east corner, harvested in mulberries; A blessing in disguise is a blessing in disguise; Happiness lies in misfortune and misfortune lies in happiness. Happiness is a kind of self-experience. Yin and Yang should always be balanced, and gains and losses will eventually be compensated. We should look for our own shortcomings and deficiencies in comparison, and less for the injustice and unfairness of social destiny in comparison.
Third, don't care too much about what the outside world thinks of you. Marx said that man is the sum of all social relations. It is human's need that the geese leave their voices and the people leave their names. But if you care too much about the evaluation of the outside world, you will fall into the quagmire of life, and father and son will ride donkeys and retreat. We should strengthen our self-confidence, strengthen our determination in life and work hard for a long time. I believe this passage: through unremitting efforts, the favorable situation will be actively restored. I believe such a common people's truth: whether the shoes are suitable or not, the person wearing them has the most say.
Fourth, don't go with the flow. Some eat health care products, some hold weddings, funerals and celebrations, some have a wide range of early childhood education, some make profits from stock trading, financial management and pyramid schemes, and so on. What others do is not necessarily business, and what others rush to join in the fun is not necessarily a good thing. Don't take it lightly, blindly follow the crowd, and don't expect pie to fall from the sky.
In a word, if you find the right personal orientation, the right life frame of reference, enhance your self-confidence, take it lightly, and be content, you won't feel tired. It's easy for you and me to say, but it's really difficult!
Why do some people feel that life is more tired?
This problem is very serious, but it is really common and normal.
Why do you say that? Because what is the tiredness of people? Obviously, it is not too tired to move bricks all day, but the pressure of life is too great. What is the pressure of life?
Some people think that the pressure of life is that my classmates drive a BMW X6 and I drive an electric bicycle, but my monthly salary is only over 3,000 yuan. When can I earn a BMW X6? Obviously, it will also make him feel tired and desperate, right
But some people think that they have earned some money after working for more than ten years. In this way, where did the high housing prices come from, where did the bride price come from, and where did the cost of marrying a daughter-in-law and having children come from? This is also a kind of fatigue. After all, this house price is not cheap anywhere in China now. If you earn thousands of dollars a month, there may not be much left except the mortgage. In addition, many families are daughters-in-law who take care of their children at home and basically don't work, so the family income becomes one person. Indeed, the economic pressure will be very great, not to mention any rest and entertainment time, which will always make him feel great pressure. This is also a common social fatigue.
On the contrary, some people have money, a house, a car and no friends, which is also a kind of fatigue. Some people may think it is easy to stand and talk, but it is true. One of my own friends is that after the house was demolished, he lost more than 27 million yuan. In our fourth-tier cities, they are almost local tyrants. But what's the use? Speaking of eating, dozens of people leaned in on a phone call, and when it came to something, they all ran away. Is this a friend? Of course not. A true friend is not determined by your lack of money, is it?
The last kind of person is emotional exhaustion. There are also such people in real life, such as love rat love rat, who happens to be rich and financially free, but people with bad feelings quarrel and cheat each other every day. In this environment, people are also exhausted, aren't they?
So if you are tired of this thing, it depends on what you think. Some people will choose to give up. I went back to the countryside to live a simple life. Some people will choose to keep trying. How to live depends on personal thoughts and experiences. It doesn't matter if you are tired, but be strong. As long as you can bear it, I believe there will be a rainbow later!
People who feel tired in life, according to my analysis, have a high probability of being human.
First of all, young people who are just beginning to learn. Most of them have just graduated from college, have good professional knowledge, and also have an honor belonging to their favorite children. They feel that they are the darling of this future world. They feel that with their own skills, they will be promoted and raised in three to five years, giving their future selves an explanation, giving their girlfriends a promise, giving their parents a future, and making them feel that they are their proud sons.
But after working hard in the society for several years, they deeply know the importance of connections and emotional intelligence. They can't change this, they can only work harder. However, work is cruel. After failure, some people with poor psychological quality will be devastated and fall into deep self-denial. If they can't get rid of this self-denial in time, the future will be even more hopeless for them.
The other is that they have no knowledge and education. Most of them dropped out of school very early and came from the countryside. Some of them may be under pressure from their families. Such people generally change jobs frequently in society. Some people can get married and have children after working for a few years, and soon they are bald and middle-aged and unreasonable. Others will be tempted by society and give themselves to Internet cafes and online loans. In the long run, they will wander like stealing Guevara and Three Rivers, and form people.
The psychological emptiness caused by social development will give them a blow and may make them dissociate from this society.
We can't do anything for them. We hope they can really feel their true happiness.
I don't think some people are tired, but a large number of people feel tired. Besides eating and drinking Lazarus, people also have personal feelings and family life. So people are the most bitter "animals". Feeling tired is inseparable from everyone's psychological quality and pursuit. I often hear a saying that "a snake swallows an elephant because of a lack of human heart", and anything that is difficult to think and understand will cause depression. Many people will say, "relax and learn to let go." But how many people can really do it? I feel very tired in my life, so I can only support myself in order to support my family.
Life, life, life is not easy, and it is even harder to live.
Why do so many people feel that life is very tired? For the poor, they can't make money. For them, they feel that life is very tired. Cherish the present life, cherish the people around you who love you, the people you love, and the elderly parents, and live the present.
For the rich, they may not have time to work hard outside every day and spend time with their parents and children. For them, they may also feel very tired. Anyway, every family has a hard time.
Life is so easy without that person. Cherish the present life, cherish the people around you who love you, the people you love, and the elderly parents, and live the present.
I was very moved to see a sentence on the internet not long ago; You should live according to your own ideas, or you will live according to your own ideas sooner or later.
Each of us is unique. At first, many people just like to live according to other people's eyes and opinions, which makes them feel very tired. Such people will gradually lose themselves, lose their personality and lose everything they bring. It is the best to know who people really are.
In fact, even if everyone reacts naturally, we should adjust our mentality in time and don't let negative energy affect our mood. If you can't live any longer, keep yourself busy. If you miss it, let yourself watch the sunrise in the morning.
Life is nothing more than reading, meeting people, experiencing great events and traveling. We live so hard in order to walk on a better road, meet better people and protect those who have taken care of themselves. Come on, duck!
It is mental fatigue! For example, children's education, which school, class, teacher, seat and cadre to choose? What professional knowledge to learn in society. Time is up, pick up and drop off on time, no rain all year round, safe and fast. Enter high school, what direction to develop, how to achieve it, and whether you need counseling. We should also consider the future college entrance examination, expected grades, college grades, where, which school and what major. Entering the university, thinking about future employment, thinking about acquaintances and relatives, and even preparing to give gifts, or taking the postgraduate entrance examination, which school to choose. Then, if it doesn't rain, the problem of employment, going north to Guangzhou or local, politics or business, or going abroad for further study. At the same time, we should consider the object, buy a house, get married and have children. When you are a grandson, can you continue to start all over again without being tired? I have no happiness at all. I spent my whole life on children, leaving only fatigue!
Because there are too many things to consider when you grow up, there is no ideal gap, some are used to it, some are afraid to chase girls you like, and because of limited ability, they will go away. I just want to feel at ease, fade away, and then feel that I can see through life and look on coldly until I die.
Because there are too many desires
A heartless life is not tiring, but people with a sense of responsibility and responsibility should carry on with their burdens. It is best to have good helpers at home and abroad. If you don't rely on a person's long-term efforts, you will be very tired. In addition to work and life, some social activities have also increased the burden. At this time, in addition to self-psychological adjustment, it may reduce your burden, so don't crush yourself.