Many people say "I'm doing it for your own good", which really hurts. However, there are still many people who have never said this, but they have such a belief in everything they do. So, today, I want to take the most common parents and children here as an example to share what expectations are behind "I am good for you".

What does the existence of children mean to parents?

Or the simpler question is: What is a child? All parents will say one thing: "The child is mine." The connotation of this sentence can be extremely extensive. What is my child? There are many answers.

The answers we got in class are: children are my heirs, angels, spiritual pillars, soul mates, extended will, unfulfilled wishes, old-age security, emotional sustenance, asset investment, accessories, old-age security, intimate friends, playmates, punching bags, showing off objects, tools to honor ancestors, reasons for cumbersome humiliation ..., the most horrible reason.

What is your ideal child like?

The typical China parents' answer may be:

Obedience, filial piety, understanding, good grades, good health, sunshine, courtesy, understanding rules, responsibility, kindness, respect for teachers, punctuality, not fun, love learning, intelligence, honesty, gratitude, understanding parents, gentleness, no temper, maturity, dignity, modesty, humor, creativity, independence, tolerance and atmosphere.

What's the difference with angels? It is also an angel that parents can control.

"Not for the children?"

This is an irrefutable and great name of love, which allows children to live according to the life trajectory designed by their parents.

Look for a fortune teller first, and the child should be born on a good day; Of course, it is necessary for a famous doctor to operate and a famous hospital to confinement. I ate Meiji milk powder. Of course, early education is to invite famous teachers. Primary schools, secondary schools and universities should go to famous schools and worship a famous teacher. Men should be famous grasses and women should be famous flowers. After graduation, I want to work in a famous enterprise with the same treatment as a star. Men should marry famous women, and women should marry famous women. Live in a famous garden, drive a famous car, have a famous baby, go in and out of celebrity circles and enjoy famous mountains and rivers.

When you die, you should be buried in a famous tomb so that your parents can get along!

I have all the answers, but I don't treat children as children, nor do I treat children as independent lives.

"I'm doing this for your own good", the core question is of course what our orientation is for children, and these orientations are usually irrelevant to the facts in life, mostly our own subjective wishes, and may even be unrealistic fantasies.