With the improvement of living standards, more and more parents put their children's starting line on kindergarten and even early education. Many parents spend a lot of money to pin their hopes on educational institutions. There are more and more competitions such as three-character classics, ancient poetry contests and oral English contests. The children on the stage recited mechanically and didn't even know the meaning, but the parents and elders under the stage took pictures with great interest. As we all know, the most beneficial education in a child's life comes from the family.
Children who grow up in loving families will never lose their IQ and EQ.
The book "Education of Love" says: There is no emotion and love between education, just like there is no water in the pond. Without water, there can be no pond, and without love, there can be no education.
As parents, we should all learn how to create a loving family atmosphere for our children.
(1) There should be love interaction between parents, and it should be actively displayed.
In family relations, I think the love interaction between parents is more important, and not all the focus is on children. The best state of a family is that mom loves dad and dad loves mom, and they show it at any time and don't hide it. A hug before going to work, compliments on the other party's clothes, thanks and encouragement at work all have a subtle influence on children's IQ and EQ, and are also the best nourishment for children's mood. These are all things that educational institutions cannot bring.
(2) Parents should actively respond to the love conveyed by their children.
Once I took my 3-year-old son shopping, I tried on clothes in the fitting room and let him play on the sofa for a while. Coming out of the fitting room, my son looked up and saw me and said loudly, "Wow! Mom, you are so beautiful, you are the most beautiful person I have ever seen! " I froze and immediately noticed the eyes of customers around me. I was speechless and didn't know how to respond.
There are always some regrets when you come out of the mall. I didn't expect it to end like this. After getting on the bus, I said to my son, "Thank you, baby. Mom was so happy to hear your praise, but she was a little shy just now and didn't thank you. " My 3-year-old son responded to me with a heartfelt smile.
When children actively express their love, parents let them feel love and learn to express their true feelings, so that children can have the ability to love.
(3) Accompanying reading is more effective than any early education institution.
In the era of network information, family information has no privacy. Less than a week after the baby was born, I received a consultation call from the early education center. How they got this information accurately, we won't delve into it for the time being. The serial suspension of these educational institutions also reflects from the side that many parents have advanced the development time of intelligence to small children.
In my opinion, instead of spending money on early education classes, it is better to spend money on family trips and companionship. Children gain self-confidence and security in a harmonious family atmosphere, which is a vital catalyst for personal growth and plays a positive role in future interpersonal relationship handling and life.
(4) Bad parental relationship may have a lifelong negative impact on children.
I have a post-80s female colleague who has excellent professional ability and is ready to help others, but has never made progress on personal issues. At a private dinner, I couldn't help asking me a question. Is her vision too high? Still haven't met the right person?
Her answer made me think deeply. She is subconsciously resistant to the opposite sex, because her parents divorced when she was 5 years old, and the split of her family made her unable to get her father's care and love. She longs for a complete family, but at the same time she maintains a certain resistance and longing for the opposite sex, but she is more afraid of losing it. She is not confident about her future marriage and even feels inferior. This is enough to show that bad parental relationship has a far-reaching impact on children's life.
Everyone who is a parent or about to be a parent has many requirements, expectations and dreams for the children who are about to be born or grow up. However, we should realize that most of us will only become ordinary people.
What we have to do is to make our children happy ordinary people, let them have a sense of gain and satisfaction at every growth stage, grow up happily in a loving family atmosphere, and live a positive and optimistic life in the face of anything. I think that's enough.