The child is 6 years old and goes to primary school. His life has turned a new page. He rejoiced at getting rid of his reputation as an illiterate. You also think this is the beginning of his education era. This is a memorable event, but it is also the first step for children to leave us. He is used to spending a day apart from you. He likes going to school every day, which is his favorite life. During the winter and summer vacations, he especially missed the days when he went to school and got along with his classmates. He would say: Mom, I am so bored that I have no classmates to play with me.
Child 18 years old, left home to go to college and came back twice a year. A few days before he went home, the refrigerator at home could not hold all kinds of food he liked. But as soon as he went home for a face-to-face meeting, he was busy gathering with his classmates and friends. From then on, what you are most afraid of hearing is: Mom, I won't go home for dinner, so help yourselves.
After graduating from college, children stay in distant places to work and rarely come back once a year. Finally came back and left in a few days. What you are most looking forward to is the child's phone call. I hope the child will tell you: Mom, I'm fine. Please take care of yourself. That's enough.
When the child is married, half of the limited time to go home is given to your in-laws, and there are even fewer days to spend with you at home. You are used to being alone at home, but you still want your children to say to you: Mom, I will go home to accompany you for the New Year this year.
When the children have another child, you are no longer a member of their family, and you are not included in their small family members. And we are getting used to this kind of life, just like looking through the photo album and seeing our family of three when we are free. No matter where the child is, he will always be an irreplaceable member of our family.
In fact, we are very happy to have children around us. However, sometimes we complain that you have made too many sacrifices because of him; Complaining that he always wakes up at night and makes you sleep badly; Complain that he is unreasonable; Complaining that he loves to spoil and grow up; Complaining that his illness broke your heart; Complaining that training him has spent too much time, energy and money. ...
However, if you think about it carefully, when the child is an adult, even if you want to pay for the child like this, there is no chance. Children will always grow up. After this period, he no longer has the habits and needs of this period. Will you miss breastfeeding after weaning? Will you miss feeding your child after he can feed himself? Maybe at that time, you felt very tired, hard and bored. I hope your child will grow up soon. Do you often see pictures of him eating his hands and feel so cute? But by then, you may have been troubled by the need to wash his hands constantly. After he faded out of the children's voice, do you especially miss the sound of his milk? But you are very useless when he acts like a spoiled child. Do you especially miss the days when your children were with you after they left home for school? Before you can, you always wonder when he can go to college.
Time can't go back, the past is always the past. How rare and precious it is for children to be with us. Because of this, we should cherish every moment with our children and be grateful for having them.
Thank God for giving me such a child to share and witness every moment of his growth. In the process of raising him, no matter how many difficulties, troubles and even setbacks he brought me, no matter how much sleep, time, money and energy I lost, I am still grateful, because he is the best gift from God. Every day when he is by my side, I will try my best to make him feel happy, let him feel the warmth of home and leave him and us with good memories. I try not to give him too much pressure and restraint, not to make him feel bound and troubled, and not to be his burden, but I will discipline him in time, give him advice and invest in him according to my ability. I have the responsibility and obligation to teach him life skills so that he can fly freely and happily in the future. At the same time, I will also tell him to try to live in the same city with me in the future. Even if all roads fail, one road is always clear, and that is the way home.
Recently, a hot post on the Internet was madly reprinted on major websites and forums. The post said: From birth to babbling, who spent the longest time with you? Many people will answer parents. How many times can I go back every year if I am separated from my parents? How many days at a time? Besides socializing with friends, shopping, resting and sleeping, how much time do you really spend with your parents? The average life expectancy in China is 72 years. Even if God bless our parents to live to be 85 years old, how long can you get along with them in this life? Or did you get together a few times?
I think everyone can work out such a simple math problem, but when he finishes it, everyone will be shocked!
Most of my friends live apart from their elderly parents, but they occasionally go home during holidays. But friends who work far away from home sometimes feel busy at work and have to take care of their children, so they go home once or twice a year! Even if you go home for five days at a time, it only takes ten days twice! Apart from visiting relatives and friends, going out shopping and sleeping for ten hours every day, the time spent with parents is 70 hours a year. If your parents are 60 years old this year, even if they can live to be 85 years old, you can only accompany them 1750 hours, that is, 73 days, just over two months. What kind of concept is it for you?
I don't know, what kind of taste and feeling did you have when you solved this problem? Perhaps, you will suddenly realize that the time you spend with your parents in the future can only be calculated by "days" or "times". Moreover, once you see them, you will be less, and every day is less! Perhaps, at this time, you will feel guilty and uneasy! Yes, "raising a child and raising a relative" is such a happy and warm thing! However, what's the use of regretting that "children have to be raised but are not around their loved ones"? !
Filial piety to parents is not only our personal problem, but also a huge social problem. There are more than 80 million empty nesters in China, of whom 15% suffer from various mental diseases, the biggest of which is mental emptiness and depression caused by loneliness. And now there are more and more only children, and the parents of the first generation of only children have become old people. More old people need our love and care! What did we do when we were children? Looking back on the journey home piecemeal in recent years, my heart is a little sour. Really ashamed! In modern society, we are busy making a living, making a lot of money and doing our own business, but we forget our parents who should not be forgotten and those who have worked hard for us all our lives!
A simple family calculation problem made me think a lot! I feel a lot!
I wonder how many times do you go home every year? I want to know how long you can stay with your parents. If you read this article, if you seldom go home, you should pick up your mobile phone at this time! Perhaps, a small phone call will bring you closer to your parents, and a long telephone line will connect your thoughts with your parents!
Instead of thinking about honoring your parents when you earn a lot of money, you get the truth and reality! It is better to cherish every minute with your parents now!
I wish all parents in the world health, longevity and happiness!
The Chinese New Year is coming, and those of us who want to be children often go home to have a look! Finally, I end this article with a poem by Yu Guangzhong: In this life, I cried twice/once, at the beginning of my life/once, at the end of your life. ...