The fourth issue of Harvard Girl Liu Yiting, 3-6 years old, fully developed mentally (1), mainly tells the following contents:
0 1 Tell Tinger that her parents have divorced.
Liu Weihua chose to tell her the truth as soon as possible, so as to minimize the impact of divorce on Tinger's body and mind. According to Liu Weihua's observation, for children who are not sensible, adults' attitude towards bad news is far greater than the influence of bad news itself.
The biggest drawback of family disability is that it is easy to lead to mental disability of children. In order to avoid such a tragedy, single parents must be mentally healthy and try their best to make their children feel that there is not much difference between single-list families and parents' families, and they are as normal as other children.
Recording a story as a "prize" can win more than one.
Liu Weihua has always insisted on recording stories for her daughter. Such stories can be heard repeatedly, which can not only save adults' time, but also cultivate children's reading ability and expand their vocabulary. In order to cultivate noble moral sentiments, most of the selected stories are excellent works.
Happy Sunday, go to study outdoors.
On the way to the weekend outing, Liu Weihua always explains to Tinger the safety measures she has taken anytime and anywhere, so that Tinger can establish a safety concept from childhood. When you meet words that Ting doesn't understand, it's like reading a story. When you meet new words, you should explain them to her at any time. Don't be confused and develop the good habit of "no doubt in your field of vision". If the child can't remember this time, it doesn't matter if he doesn't understand. It is important that you take action to deal with the problems you don't understand.
The act of explaining new words itself is to teach children the attitude and method of learning. If adults bypass difficulties and doubts when imparting knowledge, children will develop the bad habit of "Dont Ask For Help solution", and will definitely regard loopholes as the norm in their studies in the future.
In early childhood, the "internal driving force" of children's learning is far from lofty ideals, strong will, noble interests or the pressure of the situation. In order to develop intelligence effectively, we must rely on natural curiosity and interest. When Ting Er's expressive ability is advancing by leaps and bounds, no matter where she plays, she should make a small poem and other methods, so that the process of playing becomes an opportunity for her to train her observation and expressive force happily.
Choose kindergarten and refuse to attend full-time nursery.
Liu Weihua refused to let her children go to full-time kindergarten because she knew that children under the age of 6 needed family education most. Because of good study habits, if you have only thirty cents, you should choose to buy books instead of ice cream. Seeing a dream of red mansions with my mother since childhood, the classical beauty, artistic beauty and natural beauty of folk stories, as well as the morality, values and outlook on life that lead by example, will make Ting have extremely rich inner activities and strong expressive ability.
Before and after the age of 3, Ting Er showed many interests, such as the desire to learn English, Chinese characters, writing, arithmetic, painting and playing the piano. Her mother can only satisfy a small part of them, while others reluctantly put them aside because they have no time, money and ability.
05 painful and correct choice: don't be a child prodigy
Liu Weihua didn't choose to train Tinger into a child prodigy like young college students, but chose to give Tinger a chance to spend her childhood with her peers, so that she could cultivate her interpersonal skills and social life skills in collective life.
Continue to develop intelligence and play "tricks"
In the choice of toys: Tinger doesn't have many toys. Every time you buy a toy, you should consider its influence on Tinger's mental development. 0- 1 year-old chooses perceptual touch toys, 1-2-year-old chooses walking toys, 2-3-year-old chooses less difficult intellectual toys and imitation toys to develop children's imagination, and after 3-year-old chooses more difficult intellectual toys such as checkers, gobang, building models, electronic organ, etc. Through the use of magnifying glasses, magnets, compasses, thermometers, toy watches, steel tape measures and other gadgets, Tinger's curiosity and thirst for knowledge are constantly enhanced in her play.
Consolidate personality foundation and strive to improve emotional intelligence.
In order to prevent Tinger from developing a bad character of not cherishing things, paying attention to material enjoyment, wasting money and not caring about others, I never easily meet Tinger's material requirements for fear that she is used to getting something for nothing. There are also rules to tell children that it is right to do so. You can't get anything you want by crying.
By telling Ting that she can go shopping without shouting, the child's self-control can be cultivated. In addition, she also intends to cultivate children's quick response ability, independent problem-solving ability and bilingual ability.
Note summary:
Tell your child the truth of divorce early, and the physical and mental impact will be minimized.
There is no doubt in the field of vision to establish a safety concept from an early age.
Record vivid stories to make mother and daughter happy in one fell swoop.
Attach importance to companionship, refuse full-time care, and develop in a balanced way.
Children's toys develop intelligence and make clear the rules of right and wrong.
Finally, reading notes jun believes that the stage of full mental development requires parents' patience and correct guidance, strong support and encouragement, and careful care and companionship. May every baby grow up healthily, and may every parent live in harmony with their children. See you tomorrow.