Don't think that this is a dog blood story in film and television dramas, and life is everywhere. This is a universal manifestation of human nature.
Recently, a man's post in Hangzhou Forum became popular.
He asked: "My wife takes care of the baby (4 years old) full-time, including milk powder money. How much is normal in a month? " Get tens of thousands of followers.
The cause of the matter is this. The man earns two weeks a month in Hangzhou, and his wife takes care of the baby at home full time. He thinks it is not enough for his wife to spend 6000 yuan a month. The monthly expenses of this family are really too large.
I feel that my wife's answer is perfunctory when I settle accounts with my wife. (My wife said it was just meals, milk powder, skin care products, fruits and the like. )
At the same time, he also bluntly said that if he inquired about the expense details in depth, his wife would say that she didn't understand her, so family conflicts broke out, so he posted to netizens for answers and opinions.
The theory of the man's family expenses: the monthly salary is 2 yuan, and the mortgage, car loan and family expenses are 6,000 yuan, and the rest is saved.
He thinks that the family expenditure of 6,000 yuan is: 3,000 yuan for food, 2,000 yuan for milk powder, and 0/000 yuan for fruit and skin care products.
Let's talk about the daily expenses of ordinary families, which can be roughly divided into monthly fixed expenses, annual fixed expenses, temporary expenses, holiday expenses and childcare expenses.
I really don't know, but I'm still shocked after careful calculation. I didn't know that cash is so cheap until I calculated it.
It's really hard to support a family with an expense of 6000 yuan a month. If you are interested, you can calculate the following fees. In addition to the annual fixed expenditure, it belongs to the daily monthly expenditure of the family.
Monthly fixed expenditure: mortgage (2K-5K/ month), car loan (2K/ month), water (30-50/ month), electricity (100/ month), gas (120/ month) and broadband fee (1month).
Temporary expenses: gifts, tickets, fuel, transportation, parking spaces, car maintenance, household necessities supplements, family clothes, and female skin care products.
Holiday expenses: eating, giving gifts and buying things for the elderly.
Parenting expenses: tuition (1.5K-5K), vaccines, snacks, nutrition, entertainment, toys, early education, special classes, clothing, textbooks and materials.
Annual fixed expenses: property (2500/ year), heating (3 100/ year), insurance (newborn 360/ year-adult business 5500/ year/person) and auto insurance (2K-4K), totaling 5962- 16604 yuan.
Of course, the specific data varies according to the changes in household income. Some low-income families can save money, but it may not be enough for middle-class families with reasonable income.
What's more, children's education fees, utilities, property fees and various daily necessities (clothes and shoes for a family of three, toothbrush and shower gel, etc. ) It's all money, which is contained in 1000. It's really vague.
Netizens saw the essence of the problem, that is, the husband did not understand the details of family expenses, and the wife felt uncomfortable and did not understand her husband's "accounting", which may be related to improper communication at ordinary times.
The daily expenses of families are large, which is a common problem of all families with children, and the economic pressure of single-paid families is even greater.
The economy is often the maker of family conflicts, and the working party always feels that it is difficult to make money, and the pressure is great. If you can save, you can save. Full-time partners feel that they don't make money, so spending money is subject to people everywhere, and they feel that they have to be suspected of having financial problems because of their hard work to support their families.
At this time, you can try the following three methods:
First, send the children to kindergarten, take care of the class, and find a new job for the wife.
Children can be sent to kindergarten when they are 3-4 years old. Sending school-age children to kindergarten early has many advantages, which can not only improve their comprehensive quality and learn knowledge, but also liberate their mothers, let them return to society as soon as possible, regain their social circle, earn remuneration and share the family economic pressure.
Second, the two take turns to collect money, so that both sides can understand family expenses and reduce communication conflicts.
The husband thinks that the big family expenses are due to his wife's profligacy. The root cause is that the breakdown of household expenses is not clear. Two people can rotate every month. If the husband has a deeper understanding of the object and amount of spending, he will not blame the other party.
Third, two people check household expenses, find out unnecessary expenses, and then reduce or remove them one by one.
Before and after having children, the focus of family expenditure is facing great changes, but the consumption habits of many young couples have not changed, so many times both sides do have unnecessary expenses without knowing it.
We might as well find out the problems calmly and solve them together to make our family life happier.