It turns out that the chicken baby is simply a child who has accepted the chicken blood of his parents since childhood and participated in various fancy early education classes, training classes, interest classes and art squad leaders.
Note that what I'm talking about here started when I was two or three years old. I think I was a rolling child when I was two or three years old, and now my children have been transferred from one class to another to "learn knowledge".
What's even more frightening is that it's enough to describe the child "chicken baby"? I don't know if I don't know. Boy, this fellow student has a big vocabulary. Well, this involution has been rolling on the child for a long time. I don't know who coined these strange words Doesn't it hurt your conscience to divide your children into these "categories"?
Boy, after reading these words, I feel that I have a comprehensive anxiety about parenting. But then again, how did this "chicken baby" road open?
The source should start with parents.
From online to offline, from the usual party chat to sharing the experience of bringing a baby on weekends, the whole family mobilized to help children stay behind and always be tied to them. The children are very tired, and the parents' anxiety has not been alleviated.
In fact, I can understand that most parents want their children to grow up healthily and happily. But the reality is still cruel. After watching all kinds of Versailles shows by parent-child groups, parents and other parents around us, the two-year-old child of Sister Li's family learned to break a big stone in his chest, and the three-year-old child of Brother Zhang's family learned to send tortoise qigong ... Look at his own children, who are all five years old and can't fly yet. As a result, parents began to be anxious, and once they were anxious, they forgot their original intention. Once they put their expectations for health and happiness behind them, they are replaced by various interest classes and enlightenment classes. "Don't let children lose at the starting line" has become a legitimate excuse against their wishes.
It's not that children can't afford to lose, but people who have experienced it can't afford to lose.
I can understand the thoughts of this generation of parents, because they have struggled from this road. Most of them know the importance of education, because through education, they have realized the transition from rural to urban and from poverty to well-off society.
So once someone is in the name of education, these parents will feel that they are right and education cannot be left behind.
On the other hand, we think that if we don't receive these educations from childhood, will we be unable to grow up? Not necessarily, because really good educational resources are scarce. Therefore, in order to have a good job, you must go to a good university. If you want to go to a good university, you must enter a key high school. If you want to enter a key high school, you can't relax in the basic stage of junior high school and primary school. What should I do if I don't study in advance in order to lay a solid foundation? It's too late for kindergartens not to learn primary school courses!
In order to 100% guarantee children's future, it is always right to study in advance, which may be the idea of parents.
How difficult it is for your children to do their homework. Go online to search videos and help children with their homework, and you will understand. When you think everyone's situation is like this, look at other people's children and you will be anxious.
In the face of the torture of these souls, children may be extremely wronged, but they don't have enough courage to question their parents:
I think there are two reasons for this situation. On the one hand, it is anxiety from the society, and it is difficult for parents who have been immersed in anxiety for a long time to be immune. The source of these anxieties is those who advocate that "children can't lose at the starting line"; On the other hand, it comes from parents' dissatisfaction with their current life. I think this is a "traditional skill". When I was a child, my parents taught me "those dreams that we haven't realized yet, I hope they can come true for you!" " This idea was instilled in me. When I grow up, I know this idea is wrong, but I still can't avoid pinning my unfulfilled wishes on the next generation.
But is this high-pressure way of raising a baby really effective? Next, let's talk about the logic behind this.
Judging from the investment in education, the threshold of "chicken baby" is very high.
With the improvement of family income level and mother's education level, the average family education expenditure has gradually increased. The richer parents are and the higher their education level, the more money they spend on education. Judging from the education burden rate, low-income and high-income families also spend a large proportion on their children's education. The former relies on education to achieve class jump, while the latter needs to maintain social class through education and school choice.
However, in the face of the cost of money, time and knowledge, low-income families are often powerless, and relatively rich and knowledgeable middle-class families may be "chickens".
I turned around and went back to the comparison of adults, but is it really necessary?
Let the children bear the pressure that doesn't match their age, okay?
In recent years, the pressure from society has gradually increased, and anxiety has become a common psychological state of many middle-aged people and even college students. When these anxieties come to children, what will children who grow up in an anxious environment look like when they grow up? Will he be healthy and happy?
What to do at what stage is not completely artificially set, but also determined by human physiological development cycle. We often say that to give children a happy childhood, they need the company of their parents. In fact, what many parents do is to ignore their children's wishes and teach them this and that. Has everyone forgotten the ending of pulling out the seedlings to encourage them? These parents don't treat their children as human beings at all, but completely regard them as tools to satisfy their own selfish desires.
It doesn't matter whether the child likes it or not, because he can't decide at all. What matters is what parents and teachers want their children to do. What's the result-health damage, psychological problems. Health damage can be cured and slowly recovered, but what about psychological problems? The psychological shadow caused by childhood is intangible, which may affect a child's life.
I really hope that parents will think more and further on the road of education, and don't put their lives on their children. I don't like the word "chicken baby" and I don't like this anxious society. In the face of parents who don't have a clear mind to go with the flow, I just want to say to you: Please be responsible for yourself and your children.
# Education # Education and Training # Early Childhood Education