Every few days, my mother will ask me questions about my concentration. In most cases, I will recommend a set of books or a toy, hoping to make children concentrate by reading books and games. Today, let's talk about concentration.
First, is concentration really that important? be
Concentration refers to the ability to concentrate on one thing per unit time. For children, it means that the senses such as vision, hearing and touch can be concentrated on something to achieve the purpose of understanding things.
It can be said that concentration is a "master key" that can face all skills and is universal to every field. For example, this child dances well, this child paints realistically, and that child speaks English well, all of which are individual skills in a certain field. Just because a child dances well doesn't mean he paints well. Similarly, a child who paints well is not helpful to his English. But concentration is omnipotent, and it is helpful to learn and master every skill.
What's more, some people equate a child's concentration with his studies, work and even life direction. Yes, inattention does have many negative effects.
Dr Matthew Adlen believes that the destruction of concentration will hinder people's learning ability. For example, if you are studying hard, you are suddenly interrupted by your classmates and ask if you want to play together after class. It may take you about 10 minutes to get yourself back to the state when you just focused.
It will make people lack the ability to persist for a long time, because even short-term concentration is difficult to guarantee, let alone long-term concentration. Pick up a parenting book casually, and it will tell you that when a child is engaged in an activity, the best way to make him do what you want is to stimulate him to divert his attention with something he is more interested in. Over time, the child's interest and concentration in one thing is getting worse and worse, because there will always be more interesting things waiting for him.
Second, there are no children with poor concentration, only parents who constantly destroy concentration, thinking that concentration is the innate ability of every child. There are no children with poor concentration, only parents who constantly destroy their concentration.
Think back, did you interrupt your child while he was playing with toys and ask him if he wanted to drink water? Or when a child is staring at an object, he says, "What's there to see? Come, let's ... "
My cousin is the best example. She is a kindergarten teacher. Every morning 10, she will prepare milk or fruit for her children to supplement their nutrition. She also formed a habit. Even if the child is playing with the children on the slide, she will ask the child to come down to eat fruit before 10, and she can't delay for a moment.
Eating fruit late or less is not a big deal for children's growth, but it is a big deal that affects children's life.
Please note that today you disturb the children to play with toys, and tomorrow you may be anxious because you are not attentive in class. A thousand-mile levee collapsed in an ant nest.
Third, trying not to disturb is the best way. Some treasure moms may argue, but some preschool experts tell us that the best way to coax children is to divert their attention. Besides, don't children get tired of doing anything? If the children want to play in the kitchen, shall we leave them alone?
Of course not. Everything is relative, and it is necessary to decide whether to disturb according to the severity.
When a child may cause dangerous behavior, of course, it should be stopped in time, and everything is based on the safety of the child. If the child wants to do something that is not dangerous and involves principled behavior, parents should try not to stop it.
It can also be distinguished by age. When the child is younger than 1 year, parents can choose to divert the baby's attention, but parents of babies older than 1 year should choose carefully.
However, if the child has been playing in the playground for several hours, should he be allowed to play all the time in order not to affect his attention? At this point, my best friend Xiao Guo did a good job.
The children had a good time, but it's time to go home and cook. She would first discuss with the children, "One by one, it's time for us to go home. Mom knows you haven't had enough fun, but we're going home to cook. If you play the slide twice, we will go home, ok? " After skating twice, I really came to my mother to get dressed and go home.
Fourth, the child's concentration has dropped, how to make up for it? 1. There are not many toys.
Now that the material living conditions are good, all parents want to give themselves the best. Picture books, piles of purchases and toys all piled up into a hill. In fact, choosing toys is also a science, because "toys are good, not many".
I often see children sitting among a circle of toys. Look at this, pick up that and play for a while. Every toy is just passing by. It's next. Don't talk about children, even if we face many temptations, we will be picky.
Japanese child psychologists suggest that children over 4 years old need not wear more than 5 sets of clothes every season, or even less, which can fully meet the demand; At the same time, children are required to have no more than 3 pairs of shoes (including household slippers) and no more than 1 hat. Too many choices will only distract children and make them confused in the face of choice. The same is true of toys. Although you don't have to deliberately prepare only three or four toys, you must not buy too many, just buy a few building blocks, puzzles and dolls.
There is nothing wrong with playing.
It is often heard that adults correct their children "You are not playing right, so the building blocks should be inserted in this position." Especially grandparents who are separated from each other are more likely to do this. However, what is wrong with playing with toys? Who was born knowing how to do it? Aren't they all groping and adjusting again and again, spiraling up under various possibilities?
Isn't it more beneficial for children to grow up in mistakes and advance in groping? Parents only need to support their children and help them when they need it. At other times, it is enough to be a bystander.
3. Effective companionship of parents
Just said that parents should be bystanders and let their children play by themselves, which also means companionship. Isn't this a contradiction? We're not talking about companionship in a broad sense. You sit next to the child and play with your mobile phone. This is companionship, but it is by no means efficient companionship.
Efficient companionship requires parents to pay a lot of energy, love and encouragement, listen carefully to their children's needs, and rationally analyze the problems encountered in their growth. In childhood, parents can play games, do handicrafts and go out to play with their children. Through the transformation of situations, children's cognition of the world is enriched, and at the same time, their expressive ability and environmental adaptability are improved. When children grow up, parents can do housework, reading, exercise and fitness with their children.
4. Give children an undisturbed environment.
There is a good saying, "play if you want, and study hard if you want." However, if there are cartoons next to homework, how many children can be distracted? At this time, the environment is particularly important.
Whether it is a writing desk or a game pad, it should be a space for children to focus on what they want to do safely, and it also provides others with a sense of boundaries, so don't disturb them.
From now on, learn to be a "lazy mother". If you have missed the natural strength to protect your child, don't continue to destroy it. From now on, let's study together, learn to be a "lazy mother", and don't easily interrupt what children are doing. Let children decide for themselves what they want to do, have a certain degree of "independent choice", and choose what they are willing and interested in within a reasonable range.