Parenting anxiety is closely related to the shortage of social "necessities" and the surplus of "by-products".
Production, feeding, kindergarten, primary school ... seemingly normal parenting chain, but due to insufficient supply of public services, there are many obstacles and great competition. At the same time, various early education markets also make it difficult for new parents to choose from the beginning of pregnancy.
Most parents born in the 1970s and 1980s experienced their parents' lofty aspirations and fierce competition for exams. They don't want their children to be oppressed by exam-oriented education. They attach great importance to the cultivation of children's basic qualities and abilities, but these basic qualities include painting, music, sports and other 18 martial arts. This is another kind of dream.
Parents with high academic qualifications are more likely to be anxious.
Yu Hang (pseudonym), who has a doctorate, a house and a car, is very busy at work and doesn't stop at weekends. On Saturday morning, she will take her 4-year-old child to Yamaha music class, take a nap in the car for one and a half hours at noon, and continue to have physical education class and art classes at mygym in the afternoon, or go to Fanyang Studio for painting classes. On Sunday morning, I studied in Taiji Chuan for an hour. In the afternoon, the whole family went to the rented farm in the suburbs to farm. Yu Hang believes that it is not blind to arrange such a busy trip for children, but based on "a comprehensive judgment of one's own economy and children's acceptance".
Even if these training courses are targeted, as Yuhang said, Katie Lofi, a professor at new york University, still believes that this high standard of concentration, guidance and analysis is a manifestation of family life being too biased towards children.
The source of parenting anxiety is the love between parents and children. With the enhancement of family economic ability and the refinement of market specialization, various market products developed for children's ability are diversified, which adds new content to parent-child love: cultivating ideal and perfect children.
Research shows that over-controlled parents mostly appear in the elite with higher education. They have enough resources to buy high-quality education and can pay for all kinds of extracurricular activities. According to the data of a social survey in China, 60% of the people who are keen to pay for the development of children's potential are urban white-collar workers with a bachelor's degree or above and a monthly income of over 10,000 yuan, aged between 25 and 35.