Intense and frequent intergenerational conflicts will not only bring "emotional" insecurity and anxiety to children, but also affect their social communication ability. Because children learn how to socialize from family members very early.

As the earliest "social contact" of children, the words and deeds of parents and grandparents are affecting children's communication ability, cooperation ability, understanding and implementation ability of rules.

So, how should parents communicate with the elderly?

1, given recognition, the elderly are in a better mood, will "open their ears" and are willing to listen to us. For example:

Affirm the initial heart (love children), difficulties (hard work, not easy), motivation, motivation, effort, etc. Of the elderly;

"I know it's hard for you to take care of your children during the day, and you have to do housework to play with him."

"Well, indeed, playing with him is sometimes more tiring than doing housework."

"When we are away, you have the right to watch cartoons. After all, it was given to you during the day, and you have an influence on her. "

"I know you must know in your heart that watching TV is bad for your eyesight. You don't want her to watch it for that long, but you really can't help it. "

2. To arouse thinking, we should not only "tell them", but more importantly "inspire them". For example:

Popularize knowledge in a way acceptable to the elderly.

Take out the printed reading and learning materials and draw the key words with fluorescent strokes for the elderly.

Recognize the short-term effect and stimulate thinking about the long-term effect.

"The short-term effect will definitely make us adults a little easier, but in the long run, children will become addicted, their attention will drop, and they can't control themselves ... they will lose their temper with us, right?"

Note that when our words gradually change from "I" and "you" to "we", it is the process that parents and elders strive for the same front. Only in this way can the initiative of the elderly to cooperate with us be higher.

3. Find a win-win way to invite * * * to solve the problem.

"We can find a way to together! Right? " Invite with "we" instead of "what do you think"

Negotiate, refine and "try out" new programs, so that the elderly are more likely to try.

"If you cry, you can touch him, hug him and talk as little as possible." "You can try listening to music and stories instead."?

Feedback and readjustment.

"Let's try this method first. What do you think? Take your time, be firm first, how to implement it and then adjust it. "

We don't expect "just talk", but pursue improvement. The problem may not be solved immediately, but we are willing to try again together, and finally the relationship will get better.

Of course, to do all this, parents need to follow some principles of intergenerational education. For example, our relationship with the elderly is defined as: parenting alliance partners, not competitors.

The ultimate goal we pursue is: harmonious family relations, not right or wrong.

Gymboree early education always understands children attentively and teaches parents how to make them children and grow up with them.