If it is really an "aggressive" beating behavior, it is mostly because of the child's "self-centered consciousness": if parents often let their children act willfully in the process of parenting, it is often easy for children to become possessive and unwilling to share, which will lead to the behavior of fighting for toys, beating people and arresting people. In addition, children are not good at expressing their wishes and dealing with problems in words, so they choose the simplest and most direct way to deal with them. Children's imitation of adults' behavior is also a reason why children solve problems through quarrels and fights. After clarifying the reasons, parents can guide their children to face it correctly: be tolerant of understandable beating behavior, and learn to face it if it is bullying, provocation and malice. This is an important lesson that everyone should learn all his life.
Avoid extreme methods
When a child is beaten by a child, experts remind parents that patience is not desirable. If parents blindly teach their children to be patient in everything, or even scold them without asking why, it will make them cringe, timid and unconfident, which will not only have a negative impact on their physical and mental development, but also make children who like to hit people take pleasure in provoking "war." It is actually the most instinctive self-defense response for the child who was beaten to fight back.
On the other hand, "fighting violence with violence" is not omnipotent. If parents insist on letting their children "fight violence with violence", it may lead to more and more serious physical injuries, which no parents want to see. Children may learn from fighting, but don't learn to fight. If you are beaten, don't fight back, fight back; You can bear it, but don't give in everywhere.
Step 3: Teach children to protect themselves.
It is very important for parents to teach their children how to protect themselves as soon as possible. If you can learn to react in advance, that's good: don't get close to aggressive children; If you are a very young child, you should pay attention to keeping the child at an appropriate safe distance from other children when playing; Start doing it and walk away to avoid further injury. In addition, experts remind kindergarten children that when children want to hit him, they should tell the teacher loudly and stop it in time. In addition, parents should also teach their children correct communication skills, learn to win with wisdom, and pay special attention to cultivating their language skills.
Step 4: Give your child time to grow up.
Judging from children's psychological development, aggression is inevitable in children's social interaction. It is in the process of "attacking, being attacked and fighting back" that children gradually form their own sense of strength, gradually understand their own strength and limits, find out how to solve problems through their own strength, and thus learn how to get along with others. With the growth of age, children will gradually realize that overbearing children and cowardly children are often lonely;