Any child, because of the influence of parents' education and environment, has formed different personality qualities and abilities. Parents can take advantage of the situation, grasp the psychological characteristics of children in this period, and let children do what they can on the premise of ensuring their safety. ? First, in daily life, in line with the principle of "adults let go, children do it", cultivate children's self-care ability. In real life, some parents are afraid that their children will be tired, afraid that they will not do well, and it will be too much trouble for them to do it again, so they will not let their children do something they can. Some parents think that life skills such as eating and dressing don't need training, because children will naturally grow up. In fact, these concepts are not correct. From the perspective of children's development, not giving children the opportunity to exercise is tantamount to depriving them of the opportunity to develop their self-care ability. Over time, children will lose their independence. Therefore, we should follow the principle of "adults let go and children do it" and let children do what they can. When children finish a job, parents should give them proper affirmation and appreciation. When children's existence value is affirmed and their working ability is affirmed, they will also feel extremely excited and happy, and their self-confidence will be greatly enhanced. ? Second, respect children's curiosity, stimulate children's interest in exploration and cultivate children's ability to think independently. Parents should respect their children's curiosity, and never laugh at their children because their problems are naive, so as not to hurt their self-esteem. With the renewal of family education concept, some parents with modern family education concept and good parenting skills pay attention to creating opportunities and cultivate their children's ability to live and think independently from an early age. Parents can tell their children stories about the growth of scientists and inventors, encourage their children to make up their minds at an early age, and cultivate their interest in learning new knowledge and exploring new problems. ? Third, create opportunities, feel setbacks, and cultivate children's ability to choose and solve problems independently. Our parents often say that children have bad ideas and should listen to adults. In fact, it is good for children to have ideas. They have their own opinions and understandings, and they should create opportunities for children to make their own decisions. Children with poor independent living ability are highly dependent, lack initiative and perseverance, and are easy to shrink back or hand over tasks to adults. This is mostly the result of adult connivance and arranged substitution. Then the growth of children is the same. Adults should create opportunities for children and cultivate their own ability to make choices and deal with problems. Let him feel failure in the process of trying, so that the child will learn and grow from failure. Your every move, as well as your quality, are examples for children to imitate and learn. So, start with your own independence. ?