Moreover, the pressure of modern city life is increasing, and people's pursuit of quality of life is getting higher and higher, not to mention the fact that getting married and starting a family is a major event in life, which requires too much. The man needs a house, a car and savings, and the woman needs to go into the kitchen and out of the hall. A series of requirements make young people flinch from marriage and become fear of marriage people.
Nowadays, post-80s and post-90s all yearn for freedom. They long for a life free from bondage and stress. For them, life is colorful, and they haven't had enough fun. I feel nervous and afraid of getting married when I think about the responsibilities and pressures I have to bear after marriage, so I am afraid of getting married. They feel that their life is quite good now, they don't need to change, and they don't have the courage to change.
Why don't young people want to get married now?
First, with the evolution of the times, it experienced a harmonious society of "you are poor and I am poor, everyone is poor and love each other" in the 1970s. In 1980s, the opportunity society was "when the reform and opening up were going on, when the cause turned over in the sea"; Next, it ushered in the post-90 s period of unconventional prosperity of the motherland.
Growing up in a mature and stable period of social development, rebelling against the rise of the Internet and writing books during the period of soaring housing prices can be described as a step by step failure. Living conditions have indeed improved, but if you want to afford marriage and family and provide better living conditions for your lover and children, the economic burden will always overwhelm people. Under heavy pressure, most post-90s people chose a "more rebellious" life.
Second, the wise saying that "the economic base determines the superstructure", when the problem of food and clothing is properly solved, the public will pay attention to "education". The school responded to the call of the state and implemented nine-year compulsory education. Nowadays, the society is full of "college students". Frogs with one leg are hard to find, and college students with two legs are everywhere. As the saying goes, "knowledge changes fate". When the post-90s minds are armed with knowledge, it also means "starting to resist".
Third, the failure of marriage means that the relationship between parents has expired and it is necessary to find the next "product under warranty". Children, victims of marriage failure, may never forget the pain and memory brought by their parents' marriage failure. More and more children grow up in single-parent families, and more and more feelings and love are missing. The desire for marriage and family has vanished. Seeing loving parents become enemies and strangers, why "believe in marriage"?
Fourth, love is a trendy game for young people. In a relationship, you always assume the corresponding role and get out of it. Perhaps they always prefer a "short and passionate relationship" rather than spending decades with the same person. Marriage means responsibility and burden, but in love, no one is right or wrong, there is no emotional bondage, and some are just willing to wander around the world.
Fifth, in modern society, men no longer belong to the world, and women's "female heroes" abound. No matter the Internet, real estate, education and other industries, outstanding women have become leaders. When men use "career" as an excuse to avoid marriage, they don't know that women are on the battlefield.
People can live without love, but they can't live without career. Emotional frustration is only temporary. Without a stable job and career, you will fail for life. Therefore, many young people strive to open up new heights of "work and career", just for the capital of choosing the wrong person and standing up again today.