When parents get together to exchange experiences, they always feel that children have too many things to worry about now. When we were young, our parents didn't have time to take care of us, but they were very capable, at least they could take care of themselves, unlike the left-behind children now. Parents say so, but still have to carry a schoolbag, follow the child with a kettle, and then say more words to the child from time to time.

With such parents, don't blame the children for being careless and careless. In fact, children's problems are used by parents bit by bit. Because when children are one or two years old, they like to pick up what is left on the ground and give it to their parents. This is not because they love their work and pay attention to hygiene, but because they want to prove their ability and win the praise of their parents. Therefore, children generally do not have the habit of cleaning up by themselves. Parents do not pay attention to the cultivation of their children when they are young, which will inevitably lead to littering in the future. Here are some ways for parents to cultivate their children's good habit of putting things back.

First, make children interested in packaging. Teach them to pack up by playing games. Perhaps the biggest headache for parents is that children throw away their clothes. In this regard, parents can teach their children how to fold clothes and put them in drawers.

Second, praise in time. When a child unconsciously helps his parents pack toys or clothes for the first time, parents should praise them in time to let the child know how great this action is.

Third, parents should start from themselves. Family is a child's first class, and parents are a child's first teacher. If parents are careless at ordinary times and make things at home messy, children will never develop good habits when they grow up in this environment. In terms of habit formation, both sides should establish a supervision mechanism. Parents should supervise the cleanliness of their children's wardrobes, so they should also let their children supervise themselves. With such a parent-child relationship, I am not afraid that bad habits cannot be changed.

Fourth, facilitate children's actions. Prepare clothes hooks and wardrobes that children can reach, and put their commonly used things where they can easily get them.

Fifth, the requirements should be specific. When criticizing children, you should tell the truth and tell them exactly what to do, instead of criticizing them too much. Otherwise, children's enthusiasm will be dampened and they will lose confidence in correcting bad habits.

Sixth, appropriate punishment. If parents' encouragement doesn't work, you can use overcorrection techniques. Have your children check every corner of the room carefully to see if everything is packed. You can check it several times a day, so that when the child is bored, he will realize that he didn't throw it around.

Perhaps some parents think that it is enough for their children to study hard, and getting rid of bad habits is something to come. According to the research of psychologists, the reason why children throw things around is the lack of planning and overall arrangement for things. Careful planning is very important for children's study and adults' work. Children with plans can master logic subjects faster and better than children without plans, such as mathematics, while children who throw things often can't learn well. It can be seen that the significance of teaching children not to throw things from an early age is multifaceted.

Children change bad habits. To put it bluntly, parents are changing. If the parents change well, the children will be fine. The biggest secret is: no substitution.

Try to figure out the child's psychology

Don't think that children don't understand psychology. In fact, children are good at trying to figure out the psychology of adults, not only trying to figure out, but also using psychological tactics to deal with adults. For example, adults eat breakfast in a hurry in the morning, hoping that children can eat faster and urge them to "hurry up, hurry up", so that they can go to work quickly after sending their children to kindergarten. However, the child ate slowly and didn't have a bite. In fact, there is a "career" in the child's stomach. In the evening, adults can do something when they want to settle their children. But the child just ignores it, refuses to wash his face, refuses to take a bath and so on. This makes adults very angry. This is actually because children are not satisfied with the arrangement of adults, or they have not reached the price expected by children. Therefore, the way children treat adults is slow and indifferent. There is no need to be angry, and there is no need to push or force the child. Tell them what time it is and how much time you have to play. Or tell your children when and what you should do. Let the children think about what will happen after this time. Describe the consequences in as much detail as possible. Children will feel that they have failed in this way.

Early education should lay the foundation for children's lifelong development.

With the rapid development of society and the progress of the times, people's cognition and attitude towards education are constantly updated and developed. The word "early education" is no longer strange in modern families, and the concept of "not letting children lose at the starting line" circulates in the hearts of parents. "Early education" actually refers to educational activities carried out by preschool children aged 0-3. Children at this stage are in infancy, which is a critical period for the development of life intelligence. Some people think that children aged 2-3 are the best age to learn spoken English. Grasping early education can improve the learning effect, which is also the result of the interaction between heredity and environment. Therefore, it is very important to seize the opportunity of education and learning in early education.

Parents pay special attention to their children's preschool education and hope to develop their intelligence and potential in the initial stage of education. However, many parents blindly follow the trend and simply don't understand the concept and significance of "early education".

In fact, early education refers to the preschool education that children receive. But as we all know, children aged 0-3 belong to the category of early education. It is generally recognized that the education of children aged 0-3 is called enlightenment education or children's education. Zhou Hanmin, an expert in baby-friendly early education, said that this period is the most critical period for children's nervous system development and various potential development, and it is indeed a good opportunity for education. The core of early education is to provide an educational and nutritious environment to "activate" children's brain development and personality growth, thus laying a solid foundation for their future development.

In recent years, the state has also given recognition and support to the implementation of early education, encouraging children's intellectual development and education at this stage, thus greatly promoting parents' awareness of early education. From the country to the family, we can fully realize the importance of early education to children.

Parents should also follow their children's interests in the course selection of early education. In infancy, children's interests are difficult to grasp, but after a period of time, children slowly begin to look for their favorite images or sounds, and parents can find their interests from these details. We can't expect a 23-year-old baby to study hard, but as long as the child is interested, he can concentrate on an activity for a long time. As long as parents discover their children's interests, they can create many situations and teach their children to learn literacy and reading. When interviewing the parents of children who participated in early education, Ms. Zhang said that children were "fans" when they were very young. They heard the phone ring and followed. After the observation, they signed up their children for music lessons. The children not only listened carefully, but also accepted the course content happily.

Zhou Hanmin, president of Baby-Friendly Early Education, suggested that parents should first choose brands when choosing early education institutions. The brand behind it represents the quality of education and years of experience, and education must rely on the accumulation of time and good ideas to continuously improve; At the same time, it also depends on the educational philosophy of this institution and course. Nowadays, parents' ideas are diversified, the curriculum system at home and abroad is in institutions, and the classification is also detailed; In addition, ask parents who are already in class to see their comments and word of mouth.

The baby loves to lie, which may be "angel syndrome"

* Mom is annoyed: 4-year-old son actually began to "lie"

My son is almost 4 years old. Recently. Suddenly found out that he would lie. He insisted that he didn't watch TV just now. Watching him accidentally break the toy, I asked him but said he didn't do it. Baby, why did you lie? What should I do about his behavior?

Expert interpretation: 2-6-year-old baby "lying" is the best cold treatment.

For babies aged 2-6, most of the time, they don't understand that they are lying, because within their cognitive range, they don't know the difference between "truth" and "false", "right" and "wrong". In their world, things that can make them comfortable and happy are "right", and things that can avoid parents' anger and blame are "good". Most of their lying behaviors are still in the imagination stage. At this stage, parents only need to pay attention to the frequency and content of the baby's lies, and must not beat and scold the baby, but patiently share the world he said with the baby. At the same time, natural transition can also be ignored.

* Why do babies lie?

"angel syndrome"

If the baby realizes that his parents think he can't do anything wrong, he will start thinking, "My parents love me because I am great. A good baby wouldn't spill milk like that. What milk? I didn't see any milk spilled! "

Rich imagination

His creativity is fully developed, so that sometimes he may think what he believes is true. Why can't there be talking fish in the bathtub? Or is there a princess under the bed?

neglected

How can an energetic two-year-old baby remember who played Teletubbies first? All he knows is that he wants it back now. When you criticize the baby because of the brush strokes on the wall, and he says he didn't do it, it doesn't mean that he is lying. He just forgot that he did it-or he hoped that he didn't do it so strongly that he believed that he didn't do it.

Fear of punishment

2-3-year-old babies already have some basic right and wrong judgments. When they find that they have done something wrong, they will instinctively fear the punishment that will follow. In particular, I have had the experience of being reprimanded and punished for doing something wrong. So in order to escape punishment, they will make up lies to cover up their mistakes.

Parents expect too much.

Some parents are very demanding of their babies. If the baby behaves well, they will be happy and meet all the requirements of the baby. If the baby doesn't meet expectations, they will reprimand the baby. In the long run, babies will lie to please their parents. If parents don't understand the situation and let the baby lie successfully, it will strengthen the baby's lying behavior.

negative impact

Children's imitation ability is very strong, and a casual lie of adults in social interaction may be imitated by the baby. If parents often tell small lies in front of their baby, the baby will lie in similar situations in the future. On the other hand, what parents sometimes say inadvertently cannot be fulfilled for various reasons. For example, some parents promise to take their baby to the park on Sunday, but because of emergency or special circumstances, the baby will think that adults are lying, and he can lie in the future.

* What should you do in the face of a lying baby?

Although there is no need to punish him, you can skillfully teach him to tell the truth naturally in a way that he can understand at his age.

Don't "label" your baby at will

Babies' lies are often not meant to hurt others. Parents should not easily equate the baby's lying behavior with the baby's quality, and should not label the baby as a "little liar", "liar expert" or "braggart" just because of a baby's lies. This will not only help the baby get rid of the problem of lying, but also strengthen the baby's lying behavior, which may prompt the baby to lie harder in the future.

Help your baby distinguish between reality and imagination.

Babies' lies are not always intentional, especially young, imaginative and creative babies are more likely to lie imaginatively. Parents should pay attention to telling the baby what is happening in daily life and what is imagined, so that the baby can gradually distinguish between reality and imagination.

Verify that the baby is lying.

When parents suspect that the baby is lying, they should first conduct careful investigation and understanding to find out whether the baby is really lying, because sometimes the parents' judgment is not necessarily correct. If they act rashly without knowing the truth, it may have a bad influence on the baby's mind and even cause tension between parents and children.

Find out why the baby lied.

When the baby lies in the expected negative consequences, parents should understand the baby's needs and formulate more practical rules; If the baby can do it and is willing to do it, he naturally doesn't have to lie. In addition, some babies will lie to attract their parents' attention because they have little contact with their parents. In other words, parents should strengthen communication and interaction with their babies on weekdays, learn more about their ideas, and let them feel their parents' care and attention.

Encourage the baby to tell the truth

Instead of worrying about the baby's misconduct, thank him for telling you everything, and he will probably feel that his honesty has been recognized. If you yell at him about it, he will feel that he should not tell the truth.

Treat the baby with a normal heart

Parents should not blindly compare their babies with other people's babies and make too high demands on them, which will not only lead to the baby lying, but also make the baby lose self-confidence. Parents should teach according to the baby's actual situation, interests and characteristics. As long as the baby makes progress every day and can give play to his own advantages and specialties, parents should be happy and proud of it.

Don't put too much pressure on the baby.

Parents should keep calm when the baby is found lying. Simple education methods such as beating and cursing blindly can only push the baby to the opposite side of the wish. Many babies lie when they find that they have done something wrong and are afraid of being scolded by their parents. If parents keep beating and cursing, it will be counterproductive. It is necessary to analyze the cause and effect, find out and correct it in time, so as to avoid the bigger the lie. Be persuasive, point out the harm of lying to your baby, let your baby know the mistake in guilt and correct it in encouragement.

In addition, parents should also master the psychology of some children to distinguish whether the baby's words are naive imagination or deliberate lying. There is a qualitative difference between the two, and the treatment should also be distinguished.

Give encouragement in due course.

I can tell my baby that even if he made a mistake this time, my mother is glad that he has the courage to admit it, and I believe he won't make the same mistake again. You can also share your childhood experiences with him, so that the baby can know that this is not the worst case. In addition, when the baby is willing to admit his mistake, he should be encouraged in time to let him continue to develop in the direction of positive behavior.

Build mutual trust

Let the baby know that you trust him and he can trust you. Nothing is more important to you than honesty. Mom and dad should be role models for babies. With this goal, you should try to avoid half-truths yourself. For example, if your baby needs to be vaccinated, don't tell him that it won't hurt (he will know it immediately). Try to keep your promise and apologize to him when you can't. The most important thing is to praise the baby as soon as he tells the truth. If he admits that he ate cookies, you should control yourself from criticizing him, but thank him for his frankness. Positive emphasis on correct behavior will produce surprising results.

Parents should set a good example.

Parents should set an example and set a good example in daily life while asking their babies to be honest. Don't inadvertently make promises that you can't make in front of your baby, or deceive people. Pay attention to honesty and trustworthiness in daily life and work. Commitments to your baby or others should be earnestly fulfilled, and mistakes should be admitted in time and corrected seriously, so that your baby can learn good behavior from them.

* What misunderstandings should children avoid when they "lie"

Educate the baby by beating and cursing.

Some parents don't understand the psychological characteristics of babies of this age. When they find that babies are lying, they will educate them by scolding them, and some even use force to deter them. I think if the baby doesn't lie, it will get worse in the future. But experts believe that this is only the most primitive practice. On the contrary, in order to avoid the abuse of parents, babies will increase the frequency of lying and develop into habitual lying.

Parents lie in front of the baby.

Mom and dad are the earliest teachers of the baby, and their words and deeds affect the baby's growth. Therefore, parents should first be sincere to people and things and set a good example for their babies. Many studies show that babies who often lie often come from families where their parents often lie. Even if the parents tell a "white lie", the baby can't tell the nature of the lie in detail. So remind parents to avoid even white lies in front of their babies.

Judge the baby by lying or not.

Don't judge a baby by whether he is lying or not. Don't underestimate a little lie. Analyze it carefully. If you can't really understand the reasons behind the baby's lying, you won't know what the problem is.

The mother's tone affects the child's life.

The tone of trust

Children especially want to gain the trust of adults, especially parents, so they should show full trust when talking to children. For example, if a child wants to learn to play badminton, you say in a trusting tone, "Star, as long as you study hard and study hard, you will definitely learn to play." This invisibly gives the child a kind of self-confidence and makes him understand that only persistence can achieve success. If you use an ironic tone: "Do you still want to play ball after three minutes of enthusiasm?" It will hurt the child's self-esteem and make him feel insecure about his ability.

Respectful tone

From the age of two or three, children's self-awareness begins to sprout, and this self-awareness will become stronger with age. Children have their own opinions, which shows that children know their own strength and ability. When he puts forward his own different views and demands, don't think that he doesn't listen to you, opposes you and rudely opposes him. If you let your child learn English, but he wants to play with friends, you can't lose your temper: "The older you are, the more disobedient you are. Don't study hard and see what you can do when you grow up. " Doing so will only make children more disgusted with learning. You should use a respectful tone: "Then you can play for a while, but after that, you must learn English." Children are willing to accept it.

The tone of discussion

Every child has self-esteem. If you want your child to do something, you can let him know that he is equal to you and you respect him. For example, if you want your children to pick up toys that have fallen on the ground, you can say, "Stars and toys are littered. What a bad habit. Will you organize toys with your mother? " Never use a commanding tone: "What's the matter with you? Toys are thrown everywhere. Hurry up and clean them up! " "Otherwise, children will be disgusted with your criticism, and even if they do what you ask, they will be unhappy.

An appreciative tone

Every child has advantages and a desire to show. Finding and appreciating a child's advantages will make him more willing to show it. The child drew a picture, perhaps not very well, but the enthusiasm and seriousness of the child's painting is the greatest advantage. When a child shows you a picture, you can't simply say, "It's just so-so, practice hard." This will make children lose enthusiasm and confidence in painting. His works should be affirmed in an appreciative tone: "I didn't expect my baby to draw so well." If you continue to work hard, you will definitely draw better. " Children's desire for expression is satisfied, and they will be more interested in painting if they have a happy emotional experience.

An encouraging tone

Children can't be blameless. When a child does something wrong, don't criticize blindly, but help him learn from his mistakes, accumulate experience and encourage him to succeed again. For example, when a child helped his mother to fill a meal for the first time, her mother fell to the ground and smashed it. You can't blame him: "It's stupid to even hold a bowl unsteadily." This will hurt children's confidence and courage to try new things. You should use an encouraging tone: "The star accidentally broke the bowl, it doesn't matter. Try to iron it with your fingers before serving. " This not only teaches practical methods, but also gives children the confidence to try again.

Early childhood education: how to correct children's boasting?

Children like to talk big. How to correct the problem of children talking big! Many children have had the experience of bragging, and they are also confident in speaking. When boasting becomes a habit, children's boasting and blind arrogance will become unconscious behaviors, and their vanity will become stronger and stronger.

Many children have had the experience of bragging, and they are also confident in speaking. When boasting becomes a habit, children's boasting and blind arrogance will become unconscious behaviors, and their vanity will become stronger and stronger. This article will introduce children's bragging psychology and some ways to help children talk less.

"Last week, my uncle took me to catch earthworms, digging and digging on the ground, and dug a lot. I also put them on my feet and palms. It's really interesting ... "Four-year-old Dongdong happily told his friends about his" feat ". The mother standing by frowned, because Dongdong's story was so exaggerated. In fact, many children have had the experience of "bragging" and are confident in speaking at ordinary times.

Why do children talk big?

1, obedient "out of context"

Children aged three or four have limited time to concentrate, and "obedience" is also the focus. His attention was focused on his own concerns, ignoring his mother's conditions. At the same time, it is really difficult to ask children to listen once and let them write clearly what their mother said. Because of this "mistake" in memory, when children recall what their mother said, they will replace the inaccurate part of their memory with the part they hope, and there will inevitably be "bragging" in their speech. As they get older, their forgetfulness of "obedience" will change and their understanding will improve.

No one is as good as me.

If all a child hears is praise and praise, over time he will be convinced that he is the best. In order to show their "strength", they often show off and brag, so as to make themselves appear to have the upper hand and achieve psychological balance. There are also some children who have strong self-esteem, are eager to win, and speak loudly to overwhelm each other to maintain their self-esteem. In addition, children aged three or four will exaggerate when they want to attract others' attention and let others know his "feat".

Step 3 imagine a "disaster"

Children are full of fantasies and unconstrained style. However, due to their young age, little life experience and poor cognitive ability, they often confuse reality, imagination and desire and say some "big words", such as imagining themselves wearing diver's clothes in an aquarium and swimming with big sharks. This has a certain relationship with the age and psychological characteristics of children.

What should I do if I hear my child talk big?

When boasting becomes a habit, children's boasting and blind arrogance will become unconscious behaviors, and their vanity will become stronger and stronger. The following methods can help children talk less.

1, give the child a truth

Once the child's words are different from the mother's "original", the mother must return things to their true colors. Otherwise, it is easy for children to believe what they misinterpret and take it for granted.

Step 2 strengthen your own statement

Mother and son must look at each other and speak slowly to ensure that the children understand. Besides, you might as well say it twice. You can't expect such a young child to remember it once.

3. Be competitive and seek truth from facts

Good children are boasted, but praise should be appropriate and guide children to learn to evaluate themselves correctly. Parents may wish to affirm their children's competitiveness, but they should also tell their children strategically not to exaggerate their competitiveness. It is clear that seeking truth from facts does not lose face, and exaggeration is unpopular. At the same time, appropriately guide children's competitiveness and encourage them.

Children should also put themselves in others' shoes.

When you hear your child praise himself and belittle his peers, parents should quietly remind him: "If your child treats you like this, what do you think in your heart?" Is it very uncomfortable? " Inspire him to compare himself with others and imagine how others feel when they encounter similar situations. Let him realize that children who have the upper hand everywhere will be rejected by their peers and eventually have no friends. Then, give them some advice. For example, the next time he wants to brag about how great he is, tell his parents first, "We are willing to be your audience." This will not only restrain the child from bragging, but also help him learn to respect and think for others.

5. Encourage children with "big talk"

Children's "big talk" helps parents understand their thoughts and take the opportunity to guide them to distinguish between what is real and what is imagined and expected. Tell children that it is good to have a wish. We should start from scratch, learn technology well and work towards this goal. For example, if you want to dive in the aquarium, you must learn to swim first and persevere. Learning to dive is the second step.

6. Take more children to "open their eyes"

Often take children on field trips to understand the essential characteristics of things. With this foundation, even if the child's thinking is random, his imagination can stay away from unrealistic "bragging".

Parenting strategies of children with different blood types

Type A children: Type A children are often timid, often hiding behind their mothers and carefully observing the surrounding dynamics; He doesn't like being in complicated interpersonal relationships and likes to do what he wants alone. A-type children lack self-confidence, and will lose self-confidence if they are slightly frustrated and hit; I like being emotional. He is sensitive to the evaluation of strangers, so he will please others and be afraid of being annoying.

◎ The key point of education is to help them build their self-confidence, and the most effective method is "praise". The principle of punishment is never to hurt his feelings.

Type O children: Type O children have strong self-confidence. When doing things, only work hard towards your own goals, and it is not easy to be disturbed by external things; When this character goes to extremes, it will appear very headstrong, stubborn and stubborn, refusing to admit mistakes.

◎ The focus of education-appropriate praise and praise, and praise first, then blame. Don't praise him with improper "rewards", so as not to form the habit of being too careful and asking for remuneration. In addition, simple preaching will not play a good educational role in treating wayward and stubborn O-type children, and parents can focus on cultivating his modest learning attitude.

Type b children: they are also sensitive to changes in the surrounding environment, sensitive to reactions, and love to pay attention to other people's expressions; He is an optimist, always carefree, but impulsive and easy to do whatever he wants; The biggest weakness is lack of patience, stability and persistence.

◎ The focus of education-when praising, first tell him the reasons for encouraging him, and then reward him; Don't praise blindly. You might as well give him a hug when praising him, or put your cheek on his face. These intimate actions are the easiest to stabilize the mood of type B children.

AB-type children: The advantages of AB-type children are that they are decisive in everything, quick in action and extremely considerate; Impulsive, when encountering insurmountable difficulties and obstacles, the mood will immediately appear very unstable, irritable and even lose his temper.

◎ Education emphasis-proper praise and gentle attitude will stabilize his mood, and encouraging language will make AB children obediently accept their parents' opinions and revive their self-confidence.