He is the maker of chaos, the destroyer of rules, and the maker of trouble. In a word, the image of father is completely upside down compared with that of mother. But when you think about it, these identities mentioned above are not necessarily meaningless, and even more positive in the process of children's growth. Although it will make the mother lose her temper and give her a headache, if we seriously think about it, those unruly behaviors in front of the father will have a very important impact on the children's life, and their future social success and academic progress will often be traced back to these events. Then let's look back and see what role a perfect father will play in the baby's growth. 1 thick line Dad loves children in a completely different way from Mom. Many times, they are full of passion and unpredictable. They shake their babies to sleep much harder than their mothers, and they can often roll on the ground with their babies in their arms. When the baby is 8 weeks old, these differences between father and mother can already be felt in their little hearts. A child care expert made a detailed study of the life videos of two-month-old children, and found that these little guys would make special reactions when their fathers approached. At this time, they tend to curl up their arms and become short of breath, trying to open their eyes. Another survey of two-and-a-half-year-old children shows that at this age, more than two-thirds of babies will find it more interesting to be with their father than with their mother. Experts found through research that children like this style of their father very much and will consciously imitate it. In this way, the baby unconsciously learned some of the most needed abilities after entering school, such as how to get along with others, how to control his emotions, and even how to become a leader among his peers. In the opinion of early education experts, the value of dad in these education is far greater than that of early education classes and other educational institutions. As an expert father, since we were born, the love of mom and dad has been with us all the time. We can feel the difference between the two: mother's concern is very direct, which can make us feel stable and comfortable, such as asking questions in life; But fathers are undoubtedly more concerned. They will pay attention to the baby's future and teach the baby how to know the world and how to face the challenges brought by the world. For example, when fathers let their children go to the garden to help them with their work, they actually open a door for their babies to connect themselves with this ecological environment. Babies may go through a stage where they show extraordinary admiration for their father and think that he knows everything and can do anything. The world that dad lives in is also novel and full of temptation for the baby. They always secretly observe everything about their father with curious eyes Therefore, at this time, the father must appear in front of the children as an expert, teach them to solve practical problems, cultivate practical skills, and at the same time arouse their curiosity about science and mathematics with their own behavior. 3 Unique Teachers We will notice a problem that it is almost impossible for a baby to meet a male teacher in kindergarten and primary school. This is really a huge loss in the process of children's growth and even affects the cultivation of personality. It is hard for us to imagine that a child who is weak, timid and prone to tears will grow into a man with indomitable spirit. Since we can't change the teachers in the school, we can only start from the family, and fathers who are busy with their careers all day must work harder to find the feeling of men for your children. A good way is to read with children. The reading list is chosen by the father, who can read it in his own way and tell it to the children, which can greatly strengthen the cultivation of the baby's language ability, the mastery of reading skills and the understanding of basic knowledge. For example, we can choose a book about spaceships, attract babies with your masculine tone, make them pay attention to your story, and let them learn a lot of rich vocabulary unconsciously. Many experts firmly believe that reading in dad's style will make substantial changes in the book itself. For girls, reading with dad will greatly enrich their oral English, while for boys, the influence of this work may be beyond our imagination. They will regard this process as the cultivation of men's quality, and will consciously learn their father's tone and way of speaking as potential clues to become real men. In this process, their fluency in speaking and their ability to remember knowledge will be greatly improved. In addition, if you, as the father of your child, have some building skills or the ability of ball games, your baby will become your little tail when you work and exercise, but don't think they are in the way. Through these activities, the baby's sports ability and physical coordination ability will be greatly strengthened. The best playmate is the housekeeper at home, and the mother will pay more attention to the safety of the baby and the cleanliness of the room, but this will often deprive them of a lot of freedom and happiness. In these things, perhaps it is congenital naivety, and dad often shows greater tolerance. Different from the mother's interventionist personality, fathers usually become children's sympathizers and playmates, and even play games with them on the stairs or on the floor of the room that are boring to their mothers. Even if different babies live together, dad's participation will still be a vital part of their lives. In a family with a broken marriage, a single mother must understand this. That man is just your ex-husband, not the child's ex-husband. The survey of such families clearly shows that when babies feel the care of their fathers, they will feel obviously relaxed and safe. Therefore, in a single-parent family, regular communication between father and child is very important. Even if they can't meet often, regular phone calls or emails are necessary. In short, you need to remember one thing: in the world of children, mom and dad are completely different, and neither side can replace the other. And their completely different ways are the best help for the baby to grow up. Fathers who can do these four roles well can be called perfect fathers, and their behavior will also bring a perfect growth space for their babies.