Next to me is Yue, who is sleeping. Listening to his occasional muttering in his sleep and looking at his little face, I can't help thinking a lot.

In a blink of an eye, my son is old and will go to primary school in summer. When he was born, it seemed like yesterday. Now he suddenly regrets not starting blogging earlier. Many fragments of life, trivial things, flowing quietly like water, have been blurred inadvertently.

I see many mothers insist on blogging every day, recording every little change of their children's growth in great detail and sharing it with us in the process of hard parenting. This kind of care and patience is great.

I am a person who is not good at narration and expression. I can't explain things or people in a clear and coherent way for the audience to understand. Therefore, I never write about children's daily life and three meals a day. This is my incompetence. But I don't want time to make me lose my memory. So, in this quiet midnight, when I was looking through thousands of photos of my son stored in my computer, I tried to record the memories I didn't want to forget in words. ...

Yue and I haven't enjoyed any "privileges" since he was born. The maternity ward of three people, plus the uninterrupted visits of three husbands and three maternal N relatives, and the noisy hospital corridor for 24 hours, made me almost unable to sleep for a few nights after delivery, and the pain caused by milk rising, hot and dry, wounds and contractions. Every day and every night, I look forward to coming home from the hospital and praying for peace.

After returning home, I didn't want to hire an expensive new moon, so I started the years of "the first child was raised according to the book".

The first set of bottles used by Yue was the "Aideli" brand, and later I bought two "Beiqin" bottles. I have never used the more expensive ones.

Milk powder has always been a bagged Dumex. I have never bought a bucket. I have been asking a colleague and girlfriend who works in Dumex to help me "wholesale". I will drink formula milk for a whole year and drink more economical fresh milk. Mengniu, Guangming, Haihe and Yili drink alternately.

Pampers have been used for diapers. Cheerleading pants stopped after only one pack.

I haven't bought him more clothes than 200 yuan since I was born. When I was a child, most of them were gifts from friends or little clothes worn by "little sisters". I will also buy it for him in many street children's clothing stores or foreign trade children's clothing stores, but it is still not expensive.

In the past five years, I have never celebrated my child's birthday in a big way. Every year, I have birthday cake and longevity noodles. The most important thing is the blessing of the family. I think that's enough. However, I have never "set the table" outside and "spread the ladder" at home like many children my age.

He has many books, hundreds of them. Most of them were saved when I was a child. I cherish things very much. Twenty or thirty years later, these antique children's books are still flat and clean, and I also repaired some broken pages with tape. Of course, many books are really out of date, and I will add two or three more books to him every month or so. Perhaps because Yue is a male student, he doesn't cherish books as much as I did, so it is my job to continue to make up books every week. I not only enjoy it, but also often snicker in a nostalgic tone.

Since I was about two years old, I have added 3-5 toys almost every month. I don't think I can stop either. Because of my personality, I actually want my children to throw themselves into nature, even playing with fallen leaves and pebbles is better than Altman. But they are really not our generation after 70. The colorful toy world is a paradise for children. I can't compare with his pathetic expression. But then again, although there are several boxes of toys, I haven't bought any brands above 200 yuan. On the contrary, I always feel guilty when my relatives give him expensive things, such as Lego. I shouldn't let others give him such expensive things.

Let's talk about children's "learning" first. Yue entered kindergarten at the age of 1 year and 8 months because of work needs. From a small class to 5 years and 8 months now. She spent four years in kindergarten without winter and summer vacations, and enjoyed national legal holidays like adults. Every year, two-thirds of the months can guarantee full attendance, rain or shine, and children have always been "honest". I take time off occasionally because I take him out to play. He won't be happy if he can't be a full-time baby.

In the hustle and bustle of "early education" around, Yue has never attended any remedial classes or extra-long classes. Enjoy the "pure play" time every weekend. I just learned roller skating and Go in kindergarten. I was less than three years old when I learned roller skating. I'm worried about his young knee joint and accidental injury. Now it seems that I worry too much. I've skated properly. And English. His kindergarten is a nursery run by the Nankai District Health Bureau in Tianjin. There are no foreign teachers, only one English teacher teaches "Kid's English" according to the textbook. I think it's okay, too

At present, the children around us are all little emperors and princesses. On weekends, they will take a special bus to pick up interest classes, parents will attend, and grandparents will bring snacks. If I were you, I'd better not do it. I bought the car at the end of last year, not entirely for Yue, but mainly for my mother with inconvenient legs and feet. Yue always walks hand in hand with me before buying a car. I went far away by bus, so I didn't take a taxi if it was unnecessary. I don't feel indebted to my children for this.

I hope he can learn to swim before he goes to primary school. In addition, I want to sign him up for a Taekwondo or Wushu class in the District Children's Palace, because he graduated from kindergarten at the end of June and has two months of free time, and my principle is "exercise is the main thing, supplemented by making friends with children." There is no higher pursuit. Of course, I have to discuss this matter with the client. They have great self-esteem in their small bodies and must never be "arranged by their parents."

Without the persistence and tenacity of Lang Lang's father and the selfless spirit of "all for children", I don't think I can cultivate such an excellent child as Lang Lang. I just want my children to be healthy, cheerful and happy. Everything is natural. I will help him correct the path when he can't see it, but I don't insist. Every child is different. You can't compare with others just as you can't compare with your husband. No one knows his children better than a mother.

I hope Yue has realized the hardships and responsibilities of life since he was a child, instead of "doing whatever he wants". Whenever I save a small sum of money, I prefer to take him around, see more, listen more and feel more. I like children with human feelings and feelings.

Writing here, I feel that I can really be regarded as a "poor boy". In China, where children are spoiled by the whole people, the only child is paramount. Yue is not my whole life. Although his gestures affect my vision, I wake up every night when he turns over. ...

Son, you were born in the arms of a mother like me. I can't give you better living conditions, although my mother is not sure whether such education is good or bad for you. Everyone has only one life, so I can't treat you as an experimental class.